The Hardships of Growing Up Alienated From Your [removed].

Being a child of divorced parents and not really being able to spend time with your own father growing up from childhood to adulthood is very hard on the sons not having that male role model and that special father son bond. I have a father and son bond with my father but it is very weak and fragile. It is easily broken or distrusted and leaves more holes of questions that a boy learns on his own. The brokenness and distrust in a child's life will cause the child to put up a stronghold in the mind as a defense against pain and anguish afflicted on my the parents. Both the mother and father are responsible for there actions towards their children through each other. Both parents may say it is the other parent's fault. Both parents justify themselves as innocent and yet the are most guilty because they have harden their hearts towards each other and become cold. This coldness is carried with the parents. Divorce is usually caused my two selfish people that are only thinking about themselves regardless their intentions or motivation be good they are altogether guilty of a very selfish act to the point that both parents aren't thinking what is best for the children but is best for themselves. If both parents were thinking about the children there wouldn't be an issue. In a marriage both the husband and wife must give themselves to each other and in doing so the children will be taken care of properly. There a few cases where divorce would benefit a child and that would an abusive parent. In the abusive parent the child is in danger of life and limb of mental health problems that will affect that child's life. The best solution is to seek help and leave the abuser as soon as possible. The time I have spent with my father was way too short thanks to my selfish parents. What little time I did spend with my father I did learn a lot I wish it to be more. Now my father did take the time to explain to me that men are men and look similar naked. Sharing a shower with my father was a time of growth and learning for the boy. I also l learned a healthy respect for male nudity in a all male environment such as a locker room or showers at a gym. This masculine respect of the male body and the mind. This respect is cultivated in a healthy response to the nude male figure. The understanding that male phallus is just as different as each person's face. That as children we are taught it is a form of disrespect to insult a persons facial features. This same ideology is to be applied to the size and shape differences of the male reproductive organs. That when a son at a young age sees his father naked the curiosity is growing and the questions that build the way to a person respecting the private parts of a man. Thus, when a boy asked his father why his penis looks the way it does is an opportunity to build on the idea that every boy has a penis but that every penis will look different one from another like noses and ears.. This builds a better understanding that it is rude and insulting to make a negative statement about another man's penis. Like insulting a person's facial features is wrong so too insulting a man about hid penis. The same can said about any part of a man's private parts. So, when it comes time for sports and changing and showers in the locker rooms the boy will be ready and be not afraid to be seen naked by other boys and later other men. Thus one of many hardships a boy has to face alone if the parents selfishly get a divorce.