you might be a nudist if....Sexual harassment controversy

Blog#3- dare2bu- you might be a nudist if...Dec 13,2017 Wow. Can you honestly believe the headlines these days? It seems every other day we hear about another prominent member of society's depravity. I don't even want to listen to the news anymore. I realize this is a controversial subject, so I will state up front that anything said here is nothing more than my humble opinion. Sexual harassment as defined in most employee handbooks is the creation of an uncomfortable , or hostile work environment. And it blankets, verbal harassment of any kind, discrimination, sexual advances or unwanted physical contact. There is a chain of events that is suppose to take place in which the offendee makes his or her discomfort known to the offender. If it continues, or worsens, you go to your supervisor, who should take action to resolve the issue. If it escalates or continues in any way the offendee should keep climbing the ladder until the issue is resolved. Ok.. there are written guidelines. But are they being adhered to? The offenders seem to all be powerful MEN who in all probability intimidate the offendee into submission and silence, under the guise that insures a position, or promotion, or other ways of easing the offenders conscience and purchasing the offendees' silence. This makes me wonder how many men are being harrassed, groped, commented about , whistled at, or touched in a sexual manner, and it is excused because men are men and will like the attention. But if the advances are unwanted and the man is uncomfortable. They remain silent because they fear scrutiny of their peers. Or they fear the consequenses at home if there is a signifigant other in the mix. Bottom line is, I truly believe EVERYONE is guilty of sexual harrassment, by casual flirtation, a light touch in approval or congratulations or encouragement.. COULD be considered harassment if the recipient is uncomfortable with the contact. Oh my goodness.. take a moment and close your eyes. Picture a work place, it doesnt matter what kind, factory, office, bar, television set etc.. every one is watching every word they say to avoid unintentional flirtation or overfriendliness, They walk in straight line with at LEAST arms length away from others to avoid touching, casual, or accidental, or intentional. Can you see robots stepping along in line? Nothing but the sounds of their metal feet, or the occasional clank of part on part. Now go to a bar scene your mind.. the same scenario people have become silent and robotic. Nothing to complain about now.. or feel uncomfortable with.. there is also none of what makes a work place hum. No friendships, no water cooler talk.. nolocker room talk. Nothing to laugh at or about, none of the things that make your workplace interesting, Lets face it. Humans are sexual, sensual beings. We are made of things that are meant to attract/ or repel the attentions of the opposite sex, for men and women, I know men are harrassed by women in the workplace all the time but its covered by calling it harmless flirting As an individual, I am responsible for maintaining my own comfort zone. I realise that not all people have the same continuity as I do and may not feel able to stand up for themselves. BUT. I feel that IF this is happening to you. YOU need to address it and make your discomfort public AT THE TIME it happens not 5, 10, 20 years later.. thats like rubbing a puppys nose in its accident a week later.. it accomplishes nothing, the pup has no idea why hes being punished, he just knows now that your hand.. the one that is suppose to love and care for him caused him discomfort so now he fears you and trust is lost. If you nip the problem in the bud.. as soon as it happens, I think our tv's and radios could get back to playing music as they are supposed to be playing. If you want things to change. Then be willing to take the first step. Stand up for yourself. It might make life rough for a little while but you will have the satisfaction of knowing you stood for yourself, and you will probably never know just how many others you have protected by making others aware of the patterns and habits of those with no morals or considerations for others. .