I was sitting here trying to figure out how many people from here live somewhat close to me and it made me wonder how many people here have actually met in person. Where did you meet? Was it like seeing an old friend after many many years? Did you greet each other at the door nude or out in public at a restaraunt or something? I think it would be cool to hear about some first time meetings between people who met on this site. Are there any?
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- MEMemberDec 1, 2009[quote]Oddly, the only TN members we've met, were 3000 miles away. Even though there are members near us, or at least within 80 miles, no one wants to get together. Cracks me up when one couple we tried to connect with, states on their profile they're thinking of leaving TN because they can't find anyone![/quote] Well , that’s mostly cause between the real person and the virtual person ( or “avatare” if you will) there are about 2 miles of copper cable, 2 modems , about 10 routers and 1 server… Sooooooo many real people who think they want to be social nudists, when the times come to make the first step ( or just take your pens off…lol ) they get cold feet and understand that its not for them. And that is ignoring all he fake ones. Ofcorce… I found out that there is one common for all social nudists (except for being nude…): TOTAL acceptance of their body. That , is a very hard thing to accomplish for most people. On another note: I suggest some landed/no landed club. Much easier to find new friends there then on the net or in the beach.ReactReply
- MEMemberDec 1, 2009[quote]I was sitting here trying to figure out how many people from here live somewhat close to me and it made me wonder how many people here have actually met in person. Where did you meet? Was it like seeing an old friend after many many years? Did you greet each other at the door nude or out in public at a restaraunt or something? I think it would be cool to hear about some first time meetings between people who met on this site. Are there any?[/quote] Dear friend. I have also seen a post of yours suggesting a meeting between close to your area nudists. Cool idea and I wish you good luck with that. For SO MANY reasons I suggest when you get to meet someone, first time at a public place. My first meeting with the no landed club I belong to was in a restaurant. If they realy want to meet you and be friends with you , they wouldn’t mind doing the first meeting clothed. And if all one has in common is being a nudist… well , its just like saying: hey! I have a car and a job! Lets be friends… Good luck with your search. Regards.ReactReply
- BLblueiron35Original PosterDec 1, 2009
I agree that a first time meeting for me at least would be more comfortable in a public place. Im sure it would take some of the tension out of the meeting. But I was really just curious for the sake of being curious. I think it would be great to find a group of people relatively close to me to meet up with on occasion and hang out. But I would imagine the reality of it is that it will probably have to be at a resort or something. Either way I think its interesting to hear about others meeting for the first time.
ReactReply - MEMemberDec 1, 2009[quote]I was sitting here trying to figure out how many people from here live somewhat close to me and it made me wonder how many people here have actually met in person. Where did you meet? Was it like seeing an old friend after many many years? Did you greet each other at the door nude or out in public at a restaraunt or something? I think it would be cool to hear about some first time meetings between people who met on this site. Are there any?[/quote] Hey Blueiron, We've met over a dozen people from this site IRL. From MA, CT, NY, NJ, PA, VA, NC, GA and a truly wonderful couple who have become close friends came to visit all the way from Cali...3000 miles away! (Can you guess who that might be?) I can honestly tell you that everyone we've had the honor of meeting in person have been terrific people and great fun. And were EXACTLY what we were expecting from our communications online. Last spring we drove down to Atlanta for an event on a shoe string budget. That trip was made financially possible by a really fun couple who hosted us overnight in their home in NC and a sweetheart of a single guy who hosted us in VA. What we saved on hotels those few nights also allowed us to spend our anniversary at Serendipity Park in GA. Which was really nice since we never actually had a honeymoon. We have plans to return the Cali visit next summer and are looking forward to having a couple from Australia come visit us as well. Each situation for meeting has been different. About three weeks ago we spent a wonderful saturday hiking nude (Not nude for long though...it was cold, about 58 f) and taking pictures along the way with two great guys here in CT. We're hoping to throw a nude year's party with some of our more local TN friends (MA, CT, NY, NJ) and will let you know how our plans for that pan out. Others we've met at resorts or clubs (Sandy Terraces, Solair), Some we've met at a restaurant first and others right in their or our homes. And there are so many more that we would love someday to have the opportunity to meet from SC, LA, TX, WA, England and Croatia, among other places. That is one of the many things that has made this site so great for us. Real people, true friends. Jen
ReactReply - BLblueiron35Original PosterDec 1, 2009
Thats great Jen. It has to be a cool feeling to meet in person with someone you have only seen on the screen. I guess thats what it was like for "pen pals" back before everything went all high tech. It would be cool if everyone here had met one other person/couple/group or whatever from the site. Because that person may have met a different person/couple fron the other side of the world. Kind of like that 7 degrees of separation stuff everyone jokes about. Kind of like when you find out your aunt was the babysitter of your best friends wife or something like that. You know what Im getting at. Lets find out just what a small world it really is!
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ThomasDec 1, 2009[quote]Thats great Jen. It has to be a cool feeling to meet in person with someone you have only seen on the screen. I guess thats what it was like for "pen pals" back before everything went all high tech. It would be cool if everyone here had met one other person/couple/group or whatever from the site. Because that person may have met a different person/couple fron the other side of the world. Kind of like that 7 degrees of separation stuff everyone jokes about. Kind of like when you find out your aunt was the babysitter of your best friends wife or something like that. You know what Im getting at. Lets find out just what a small world it really is![/quote] I have met a lot of people from here IRL. The first was a very nice lady who was in town near me on business and we met at a restaurant for lunch. I am hoping she will be able to meet one day at my favorite nude beach which she has been wanting to go to. I later met some at a nude beach, one who had never been nude socially before. We had chatted many times in the chat room and it made her feel comfortable for her first time. Since then there have been a a lot more get togethers and have had more from here join us. The number has grown to twenty that I have met so far. The funniest is while at nude beach talking to one lady, I found out her parents were my neighbors and I saw them a lot between church and being on fundraiser committe together. So it really is a small world. I have also met a lot of people at the nude beach that I became friends with, some which have since joined here. ThomasReactReply - MEMemberDec 1, 2009[quote][quote][/quote] That aside, the Web provides a safety zone that keeps its denizens comfortably isolated in an increasingly cautious and untrusting world. The experiences of our beloved sister Jen are enough to make anyone eager to unite with others from True Nudists. However, for the large majority of folks, it's one thing to suggest meeting with others that one has "met" on the Net, and quite another to do it face-to-face. There are the preconceptions that are formed of the person at the other end of the loop. "What if they're not what they seem to be on the Web? What if they don't like me?" [/quote] When we say in our profile, that we don't except people on our friends list, until we get to know them as friends, we really do go the extra mile to get to know them. Through having visits member to member, couple to couple, on skype, YIM, and getting to know them over time, people do eventually show their true colors. We've had a great deal of blessings with the people we've met here, friendly, real, and they don't AVOID opportunities to get to know us either when we leave the door open to do so. We generously hand out our YIM and skype addys, and those that do contact us, we get to know, and like any relationship, the more you get to know each other, the more you become friends. If you don't take the opportunity offered and attempt to or continue to keep in contact without getting to know each other, fall off the planet, etc, then so be it. So it does work, and people have to make it work, and soon enough, the cyber personalities disappear, and the true personalities come forward. With this normal friendly growth, people WE meet are the people we've come to know as friends....from that point on, meeting, getting together, getting nude, doing nude activities are all just part of the nudist life that we all have in common... SReactReply
- MEMemberDec 1, 2009
This site is just a tool for nudists, if you use it correctly, and put some dedication to learning how to use it, you WILL get back what you put into it, and how you present yourself will attract those that have similar likes and dislikes, beliefs and attitudes. If you abuse the tool, you'll get hurt by it, or it'll break.
We always try to put out an upbeat but realistic view and that's what we get in return, people who share the same attributes. Come across as mean, beligerant, disrespectful, cynical, or cast false appearances, and people will run and flee, avoid you, and eventually oust you as one of those who are socially unacceptable, just as is in ANY social setting, on line or in person.
So the lesson is to use this tool in a positive manner, master it, and masterpieces of relationships will grow, abuse it, break it, and the only one that will get hurt is you.
(This is a general statement, not directed towards any individual member, but will bother those, that haven't mastered the art of the site, first and foremost.)
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Miss_LindaDec 2, 2009My husband and I have met a few people who are members here on TN, though we met them before I joined TN. We've also met a few other people I've met on the Internet in real life. We always meet up at public places. It's easier that way. I don't hurry to want to meet people though. Only someone that has taken the time and put forth the effort to let us get to know each other through correspondence is going to have a chance at a face to face meeting. That's just the way it is. It has to feel safe.
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NakedBadgerDec 2, 2009I've had the reverse experience: of getting to know people at a nudist resort and then discovering that they are also members of this site! The world of naked folk is not quite so large after all ...
I think Little_Miss_Linda has good advice, though, when she suggests taking one's time and getting to know people well on line before rushing to meet them in person; and then to meet a person in a public place or at a resort or on a public nude beach: where the territory is comfortable. A person who's really a TrueNudist in the best sense will be looking out for the safety and comfort of all concerned.
NakedBadgerI agree with
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Curt, or CowboyDec 2, 2009[quote]I've had the reverse experience: of getting to know people at a nudist resort and then discovering that they are also members of this site! [/quote] Same here, though not many. Personally, I'd meet almost anyone, but someplace relatively public, with a crowd, and some-what removed from home. The rules or suggestions from the well known dating sites for first meetings are good common sense. Someplace public. Keep it short. Don't go alone, or if you must, have a friend call your cell and check on you every several minutes. Make sure someone knows where you're going, why, and when you expect to return. Leave last, so you can't be followed. Common sense stuff. Until you KNOW that person, you just don't know. Of course, being a capable guy, I'm slightly less concerned than most should be, and considerably less concerned than were I a small woman, or less capable man.ReactReply - MEMemberDec 2, 2009
I did had the honor to invite some members of our no landed club here and 3 of them has already joined. ( only one certified them self though )
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Shortly after joining this site I met one of the members in person after he invited me to come over. He greeted me at the door in the nude and my clothes were soon off. We had a very enjoyable conversation about nudism and other things. I belong to another nudist site where I invited one of the members to my house. This time I greeted him in the nude (an experience I had never had before) and invited him to undress, which he did. We had a conversation and, because we were at my house, I had an opportunity to show him some of my paintings and drawings and to give him a professional massage.
Many of the friends I converse most with on this site are too far away to meet in person, but I have several friends in my area that I haven't met. I think that often this is due to shyness on the part of both parties, and if one person would take the initiative to extend an invitation to a specific person (not an open invitation), a meeting would be more likely to take place. Also, I have trouble affording trips to resorts on my income, so I am always interested in meeting nudists in my area who have access to a pool, hot tub, or other outdoor venue where nudity is permitted. I would expect that anyone who has access to these sorts of amenities shouldn't have any trouble finding friends who want to visit if they just extend an invitation.
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Cheri Donna DawsonJan 6, 2010I have met some from this site who I've met on other sites; most have remained friends over the 20+ years I've been online.
CheriReactReply - MEMemberJan 6, 2010
Ok, had another TN nude get together for a Nude Year's dinner. Guests included: Dolby1, BrinERIK1, drewCT, i2gobare, nudetrucker, others that were invited that didn't show but we've met are NYnude, Revamped, terranceandmia, rabbitnbunny, Rob440. Steve has met ianlouise. We've also met Lookin4sun. 2010 brings an opportunity to meet even more through here and our travels....and the list will grow. It is what you make it to be and TN is a great place for meeting great, real, people too.
S and J
ReactReply - THThomasJan 6, 2010[quote]My wife and I met Kim IRL. We met in a public place and only had a chance for a short talk as it was also her place of employment. I'm sure that we will see each other again next summer at the local CO swimming hole. There are a couple of other folks here that I am sure that I will meet IRL also at the swimming hole as it is 1/2 between our locations[/quote] Kim is one of the ones I would love to meet IRL. She is a very nice lady, maybe one day we will meet.ReactReply
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TerryJan 6, 2010[quote]I was sitting here trying to figure out how many people from here live somewhat close to me and it made me wonder how many people here have actually met in person. Where did you meet? Was it like seeing an old friend after many many years? Did you greet each other at the door nude or out in public at a restaurant or something? I think it would be cool to hear about some first time meetings between people who met on this site. Are there any?[/quote] We've met a couple of people through other sites before TN existed. Mostly through a Christian site like Boyd Allen. One guy was in the general area on business and invited us out to lunch and another is a minister who sporadically attends our club where we've sat and chatted for a bit. Its always sort of awkward meeting people for the first time. I, personally, have trouble socializing cold which I'm trying to overcome. Many times after the first few minutes of talking about nudists you realize you have nothing in common. That's why I hate to respond to people who want to meet and "hang out." I feel like I'm going to end up obligated entertaining them with conversation the whole day. I have no problem hanging out, but I like to be comfortable with the silence or just walking somewhere on my own.ReactReply - MEMemberJan 6, 2010[quote]We met up with a few folk that my wife has known from the Christian forums on Delphi a few years back and I have to say that I was a bit apprehensive about this partly because I didn't know them myself and also because of the distance we were traveling to meet them but thankfully they were great - based on my experiences here, I would like to make some personal acquaintances with other TNers, but probably just for a few hours in the first place. Now, if I could get a cheap flight to the US next September and also find a club with accommodation rather than just camping facilities, I may be tempted to bring Mrs Wirral with me (and who knows, even the Egertons too!).[/quote] There are MANY clubs with cabins or caravans available!!!! Looking forward next September to meeting you, the Mrs and the Edgerton's! JenReactReply
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MartinJan 6, 2010I have to say I have never met anyone from here! But....... the majority of people on this site are from the USA.
I have, however, met some folks from HON who have becaome friends. One is now a business aqauintence (sp?)
so, in brief, these sites are good for networking!
I laud all those that do meet up. Its a shame that we join these sites and do little with the information we have gained or people we have spoken to on here.
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catbirdJan 6, 2010So far, I have met three in person. All three turned out to be just as I had expected them to be. I sent Christmas letters to two of them, so as to further the friendship.
When I was at Palm Springs last March, I stayed at Desert Sun Resort, because TerraCotta is couples only. However I did visit TerraCotta and met Tom and Mary Claire. Tom showed me around.
I met Boydallen at last summer's CNC (Christian Nudist Convocation) gathering at Avalon. It was a three day gathering, so I became more acquainted with Boyd and Gwin. They both led excellent spiritual sessions. They have a sincere belief in Jesus.
Last summer, I met i2gobare at Gunnison Beach. She told me specifically where at Gunnison she goes. Her red hair makes her easy to find. Gunnison is a big place to try to meet anybody. She introduced me to other regulars that frequent that part of Gunnison. Toward the end of the day, we left together, and she let me put some of my belongings on her Rolleze.
During 2010 I hope to meet more TN friends. One possibility is Gunnison Beach, if I know when and where they will be at Gunnison.ReactReply - MC
Mary ClareJan 6, 2010We have many TN couples decide to take a vacation togther and meet at our resort in Palm Springs. It's a nice fun way to get to meet. For a number of the TN's it was their first public nude experience. They all loved it. MChttp://sunnyfun.comReactReply