How to convince or persuade wife to Nudism???

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  Jean

  Jul 7, 2016

  Is she confortable with her own body ?

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  Tom === Thomas S. Tierney

  Jul 7, 2016

  [quote]Is she confortable with her own body ?[/quote]Who is she?
  

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  NatureBoy24

  Jul 23, 2016

  [quote]My wife and I had not been married very long when I told her about my love of social nudism.We have been married a little over 5 years now,but have been together about 12 years.[/quote]I find this fascinating. You were "together" for seven years but never mentioned your enjoyment of social nudity? And you didn't bring it up before getting married? My wife and I only knew each other for less than three years before getting married, and I made sure she was at least tolerant of my nudism before getting hitched. We were a bit older when we married, so the biological clocks were ticking down, but still, I couldn't imagine being "with" someone for that long and not having the subject come up.

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• ME

  Member

  Aug 1, 2016

  [quote]Just happened to be reading a few of the Posts on here , and we have to ask    What the hell is wrong with you Males ?The original poster is stating that he has been a Nudist for 10 years and has a wife and a new child , but has just decided NOW to tell her that he is a Nudist ?A few others are echoing ,  basically the same thing , that  they are married to women who have absolutely no interest in Nudity ?WHY are you even together ?If you were not able to discuss and share your Inner Secrets and Desires before you married her  , then what else are you guys hiding from your wives ?This site makes us Laugh , when we read all the KNOW IT ALL posts , from all of the TRUE NUDISTS , yet not many of these males  are even TRUTHFUL with  their own unadventuorus Wives !WHY would you ever be with someone or WHY would you ever Marry anyone , if you were not either 100% TRUTHFUL with them , or if they and absolutely NO INTEREST what so ever in your own interests ?We have Pretend Nudists on here , who have never ever been to a Nudist Resort or even to a Nude Beach , in their entire lives , yet they are giving advice to others ! LOLWHY would you ever be with someone who did not Share your same interests with you and someone that you involve in your interests and hobbies?There is so much BS on this site , that it is anything but  , TRUE anything .The OP clearly admits to the fact , that he has been a Nudists for 10 years , but is just now asking ,  how to talk his own reluctant wife into becoming a Nudist ? LOLA little Honesty BEFORE you slipped that ring on her Finger , should have crossed your mind at some point .The same applies to the rest of you , who's wives want no part of your hobby.
  
  
  
  [/quote] This seems a bit judgmental and all high and mighty.  You can't know everyone's situation.
  I made up my mind to marry my now wife while I was spinning her around nude in the Med off a Greek island.  Started saving for a ring that day.  Now, we're married with 2 kids.  She's always known my desire to be nude, teases me about it often.  I love her for many more reasons than her occasionally stepping outside of her comfort zone for me.  The last time we went to a nude beach (our oldest was 1), she didn't partake, and that was fine.  She was there with me.  She's joining me this week at a clothing optional facility for our anniversary.  I don't know if she'll be nude, but what ever she chooses will be fine.
  Not all of us "males but married" fit into your stereotype.  We're trying to get advice on approaches others have found successful with their reluctant spouses.  Maybe our approaches on this site are misguided (some are downright awful) but to question why we would be with someone because they aren't a nudist??  C'mon.  Not all of us were as lucky as you apparently were, but we're trying to get there or make the most of our situations.
  Comments like yours don't help promote the lifestyle or offer inclusion to those that are reluctant.
  

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  Stan

  Aug 1, 2016

  Well statedheeledover

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  Tom

  Aug 8, 2016

  i have been nudist for a few years but when I started dating my girlfriend she was not. Now she is nudist like me and really enjoys the lifestyle and going to nude beaches / clubs. The way it worked out for me is really bit by bit. Easy does it. I didn t push her or anything. The beach was a huge help and within a year she went from traditional bikinis, to g string bikini, to topless to then find the confidence and curiosity to bare it all. And now she truly enjoys it

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  nudony

  Aug 23, 2016

  [quote]You were "together" for seven years but never mentioned your enjoyment of sociafind this l nudity? And you didn't bring it up before getting married?[/quote]
  
  I  think some people are just more sure about their nudist proclivities early on.  My first marriage:  I was a burgeoning nudist; but I wasn't even sure how far I wanted to - or could - go with nudism when I got serious with my soon-to become-wife.  It wasafterwe got married that I found that I really wanted to go "all the way" and become a social nudist.  I encountered resistance/reluctance/combativeness; but I was lucky and she eventually caught the "nudist bug", mostly due to the nudist women she encountered.  Many guys will not be that lucky when they find their "nudist way" later into the marriage.
  

  1. Later this year (shhh...it's still a secret) I will probably be proposing to my current GF.  I have been a practicing nudist for almost 20 years; and I can say that there is NO WAY I'd be proposing if she wasn't ok with my nudist history, and wasn't ok with me being nude at home or at the beach/resort.  I consider the fact that she has grown accustomed to being nude at home with me, and being open to nude vacations by going nude at the resort, as a bonus.  I feel comfortable enough now to propose without having to wonder if I'll be asked to "drop my nudist ways."

  
  

  1. But not everyone commits to matrimony before first asking themselves the quintessential question:  "Do I want to pursue nudism as a way of life - with my partner."
     

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• LA

  

  Lakeman221

  Aug 23, 2016

  [quote] [quote]You were "together" for seven years but never mentioned your enjoyment of sociafind this l nudity? And you didn't bring it up before getting married?[/quote]
  
  I  think some people are just more sure about their nudist proclivities early on.  My first marriage:  I was a burgeoning nudist; but I wasn't even sure how far I wanted to - or could - go with nudism when I got serious with my soon-to become-wife.  It wasafterwe got married that I found that I really wanted to go "all the way" and become a social nudist.  I encountered resistance/reluctance/combativeness; but I was lucky and she eventually caught the "nudist bug", mostly due to the nudist women she encountered.  Many guys will not be that lucky when they find their "nudist way" later into the marriage.
  

  1. Later this year (shhh...it's still a secret) I will probably be proposing to my current GF.  I have been a practicing nudist for almost 20 years; and I can say that there is NO WAY I'd be proposing if she wasn't ok with my nudist history, and wasn't ok with me being nude at home or at the beach/resort.  I consider the fact that she has grown accustomed to being nude at home with me, and being open to nude vacations by going nude at the resort, as a bonus.  I feel comfortable enough now to propose without having to wonder if I'll be asked to "drop my nudist ways."

  
  

  1. But not everyone commits to matrimony before first asking themselves the quintessential question:  "Do I want to pursue nudism as a way of life - with my partner."
     

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  When you do finally propose to her, do it in the nude. That way, later on if she tries to get you to stop being a nudist or at least makes you quit going around naked all the time, you can point to the fact that you were nude when she accepted the proposal, and she accepted you this way then.
  

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  nudony

  Aug 23, 2016

  [quote]When you do finally propose to her, do it in the nude. That way, later on if she tries to get you to stop being a nudist or at least makes you quit going around naked all the time, you can point to the fact that you were nude when she accepted the proposal, and she accepted you this way then.[/quote]
  Haha!!  I have actually thought a LOT about a "naked proposal"!!
  

  1. I'm still ironing out the details of how to do it, where to do it; and where to put the ring before I bring it out lol!!!

  
  

  1. But I think yes; it'll be a great ice-breaker when people ask her about the proposal - she has already told her close friends that she's gone nude at Club O.
  2. And I know she won't have any issues with a "naked proposal; as long as it's romantic and well-planned!  And it'll serve as a good reminder too!!
     

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• ME

  Member

  Aug 23, 2016

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  When you do finally propose to her, do it in the nude. That way, later on if she tries to get you to stop being a nudist or at least makes you quit going around naked all the time, you can point to the fact that you were nude when she accepted the proposal, and she accepted you this way then.
  [/quote]Nice !  Oh that is simple but yet so genius.
  

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  ManOfWicklow

  Aug 23, 2016

  [quote]When you do finally propose to her, do it in the nude. That way, later on if she tries to get you to stop being a nudist or at least makes you quit going around naked all the time, you can point to the fact that you were nude when she accepted the proposal, and she accepted you this way then.
  [/quote]Excellent advice, wish I'd thought of that 35 years ago.
  

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  FullSun

  Aug 23, 2016

  I attended a naked wedding at Grand Lido Negril years ago.  It was great!  Naked proposal, naked wedding, naked life!

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• J.

  

  J.

  Aug 23, 2016

  [quote]I attended a naked wedding at Grand Lido Negril years ago.  It was great!  Naked proposal, naked wedding, naked life![/quote]One of our local resorts (Berkshire Vista Resort) had a nude wedding one weekend while we were there. The 'limo' was one of the resident's golf carts. Afterwards they drove around the resort in another golf cart with the obligatory just married sign and streamers hanging off of it. They came to the dance that night and the bride was still wearing her veil and the groom was still wearing his bowtie... which I am pretty sure were their entire wedding outfits!

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• LA

  

  Lakeman221

  Aug 24, 2016

  [quote][quote]When you do finally propose to her, do it in the nude. That way, later on if she tries to get you to stop being a nudist or at least makes you quit going around naked all the time, you can point to the fact that you were nude when she accepted the proposal, and she accepted you this way then.[/quote]
  Haha!!  I have actually thought a LOT about a "naked proposal"!!
  

  1. I'm still ironing out the details of how to do it, where to do it; and where to put the ring before I bring it out lol!!!

  
  

  1. But I think yes; it'll be a great ice-breaker when people ask her about the proposal - she has already told her close friends that she's gone nude at Club O.
  2. And I know she won't have any issues with a "naked proposal; as long as it's romantic and well-planned!  And it'll serve as a good reminder too!!
     

  [/quote]If you decide to do it, and actually go through with it, be sure to let us know how it went. That is, if you don't mind.
  

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  nudony

  Aug 24, 2016

  [quote]If you decide to do it, and actually go through with it, be sure to let us know how it went. That is, if you don't mind.[/quote]I most definitely don't mind!  To be continued...
  

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• JO

  

  John

  Aug 3, 2019

  [quote]. . . . We went in August and they made us take the initial tour fully nude. . . . .[/quote]
  
  That is quite unusual. Most resorts I have been to allow new visitors to tour in as many clothes as they want and to lose them as they feel comfortable.

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  nudony

  Aug 6, 2019

  [quote]convince or persuade? you ask, if she says 'no'. thats it. if she says 'yes', then job done. if you have to convince or persuade...dont.[/quote] I'm going to respectfully disagree here. I've been married twice; and both wives initially said "No way!" to nudism. Had I given up after the first "no" I would have never gotten to where I am today. I did manage to "convince" the both of them; not so much of getting naked "publicly", but of opening their minds. Whether they got naked or not was always up to them. Yes it took some time, patience and understanding; but they both ended up full-fledged social nudists. Sometimes "no means no...forever." But sometimes it just means "no just right now." It's up both spouses to then decide if the conversation is worth pursuing.

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