Nudist discussions with the wife — Couple's Room on True Nudists

nudonyOriginal Poster

Jun 12, 2024

My wife and I have had numerous discussions about nudism over the years, as she's very open to talking - a lot - about her feelings (all of them...). What's been interesting for me as a man and husband has been getting a little more than a glimpse into the mind of a nudist woman. I thought it might be informative, perhaps even conducive to conversation, to cover some of them here. I would add, of course, that some of her views are very much her own individual ones; although a few have also been expressed and corroborated by many other women we've met over the years, at different venues... so there's that.The first time. She's stated that the C/O nudist resort has been the best "first time." When I asked if there was something she would have done differently, her answer surprised me a bit. "I would have gotten naked right away." And it only took her an hour! When a friend considers nudism and asks her, she will also recommend getting naked right away. Her reasoning is "waiting for the right moment" can lead to too much anxiety and hesitation. And there is really no such thing as "the right moment." Best to rip off the band-aid right away.What she enjoys about it. Number one is us spending time together, naked outdoors. She feels it's good for our marriage and our intimacy. Number two is R and R; being able to just relax naked and let her hair down. Number three is sunbathing and her all-over tan. Number four is socializing.Socializing. That really depends. She wouldn't mind just laying out in the sun all day quietly. But we have friends at the resort, so socializing is inevitable. She enjoys "small circle" conversations with one or two couples; but "big crowds" not so much. That has probably has much to do with her personality type: ambivert. She can be very extroverted around a few select people; but will become shy and introverted in a big group. Nudity does magnify her trait a bit.Modesty and exposure. Over the years she's narrowed it down to pretty specific boundaries. She realized fairly early on that she couldn't feel "free" in her nudity without being "exposed" at times. For her, it boils down to "distance." If someone is walking or sitting a few yards away and happens to see her "exposed", she doesn't care. But while hanging out in a group with people a few feet away, she's going to be more conscious about people seeing her "all her bits up-close." We have female friends who will sit/recline open-legged and socialize, or "spread" while sitting on the hot-tub ledge; but she feels that for her it's TMI. She recognizes that some women will be more uninhibited that her; while others will be more inhibited. She's comfortable remaining in the "middle of the scale."Miscellaneous. Erections: she doesn't care. She says she barely pays attention anyway; but if she does see a gentleman passing by erect, it doesn't phase her. It's about the behavior. Single men: she doesn't view them as a "threat." She figures they were properly vetted by the resort, and she knows I'm protecting her. She still prefers a prevalence of couples; but if a friendly single guy starts a conversation, she's happy to interact with him and won't get self-conscious unless given a reason to be. Covering up: her preference is just to stay naked all day. But if people are covered up around her, she will tend to want to grab a cover. The exception is when it's people we know and have been nude around, she will stay naked around them if she doesn't feel cold. Off the top of my head that's all I can think of right now; and that's a lot lol!

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Tom D
Jun 12, 2024
Did you have difficulty getting her to try a clothing optional resort? If so, what convinced her to go?
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ME
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Jun 12, 2024
Thank you for taking the time & effort to post such an informative piece. Your explanation will, hopefully, be helpful to some of the more cautious spouses out there that look at the nude couples out there & think, "how did they get up the nerve to do that?" My wife was one that thought she would not go nude in the presence of others but moderated after a couple of years. Our normal routine is / was to go to resort, set up our site and she would slip on a coverup or be nude if in the camper. In our normal activities around the camp, I would be nude & she in the coverup. This was pretty much for all events. Eventually, we made a foray to the lagoon (small, sand pond) where she sat down and removed her coverup, sunned a bit and skinny dipped. She told me that our usual circle of acquaintances at the resort had moved into the 'close friends' category and she felt comfortable nude with them. That has been the extent of our nude exercise and that's fine with me. Maybe, one day, she'll be a little comfortable with more but if not, it's still great. We enjoy ourselves there & that's the real reason for visiting.
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nudonyOriginal Poster
Jun 28, 2024
[quote]I'd have to put Di right in there with your wife on just about every category. Great post Nudony.[/quote] True. Thanks Andy! And John. [quote]Did you have difficulty getting her to try a clothing optional resort? If so, what convinced her to go?[/quote] It absolutely was difficult. Especially after going to a nude beach and disliking it. But many conversations convinced her to give nudism a second chance at a nudist resort. But it was supposed to be a "one-time deal", and her stipulations were "no socializing and no pressure to undress." What happened there is pretty common. She liked the setting and liked the people she met and interacted with. And the fact that most of the women there in her age group showed no inhibition about getting around naked - made an impression on her. Those factors combined led to a "When in Rome..." change of heart about participating. Once she got naked in the pool area...she was done covering up for the rest of the day. And the rest as they say is history.
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Mike
Jan 7, 2026
Sounds somewhat similar.... but....
My wife went with me to a clothing optional beach because I wanted to check it out. We set up for the afternoon and I stripped down while she chose to remain clothed. We had minimal chat about it but I quickly learned that the issue of nudity can't be pushed on her and maybe she will decide one day to try it. I think she realized being on the beach where most of the patrons were our age or older and of all sizes is something she noticed. By the end of the afternoon she mentioned maybe a sheer coverup that would allow her to be nude yet covered at the same time. We'll see. I mentioned one of the many resorts near us but she quickly shot that down telling me if I wanted to lay nude around a pool I can do that at home.
Awaiting another time when I can get to a beach to see how she responds.
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nudonyOriginal Poster
Mar 16, 2026
[quote]I mentioned one of the many resorts near us but she quickly shot that down telling me if I wanted to lay nude around a pool I can do that at home.[/quote] I would suggest that there is more to do there than just "laying around naked by the pool." Many resorts offer different options; even if it's just picnicking or hiking. And at a C/O resort she can wear a sarong or a cover-up; avoiding the pool area completely. Just a thought.
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nudie_iq7721
Mar 19, 2026
after we got married wife would get naked in hot springs after dark. sometimes early in morning, we would go up at dawn. went to a hot springs somebody told us about, 2 women were soaking on air mattresses totally naked ,my wife stripped off and never wore a swimsuit again. hot springs,nude beaches, swimming in rivers, and around the house. got a lot of compliments on her allover tan.
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