Compliments — Discussion on True Nudists

PaulOriginal Poster

Feb 7, 2022

Guys are not as free with their compliments of each other as women are, but I have had men, who were total strangers, tell me I have a great beard. It happens once in a while, but it's not common. I've heard guys compliment each other on their haircuts. I don't think it's too much of a stretch that one man could compliment another man's hands or face. I'm pretty certain that positive comments about biceps, pecks, or abs would also be well-appreciated.

But what would happen if, in the locker room, one man said to another,
"Nice set of low-hangers" or
"Nicely shaped mushroom" or
"Great cock" or
"Very pleasing set of equipment"
Etc?

This topic came to mind because a guy sent me images of himself wearing some new jewelry he recently purchased. The jewelry was very nice and I said so. But his cock and balls are well-formed, visually pleasing, attractive, and, quite frankly, very beautiful -- and I told him so. My compliment was quite well-received.

But it got us talking about how men seem so frightened about discussing or complimenting another man's cock and balls. Are we that insecure? Are we afraid to give and received compliments regarding our male sex organs?

Now, understand, none of us did anything to deserve or merit the cock-and-balls set we got. We simply have the set we were given and that's it. There is nothing we have done, could do now, or could have done to change the set we have. From that perspective, we have no cause for pride or shame.

Nonetheless, some sets are decidedly more shapely, visually pleasing, handsome and attractive. Is either man harmed when one acknowledges this in the other?

There's a men's-only clothing-optional resort near where I live. Although it's perfectly acceptable to wear clothing anywhere and everywhere throughout the resort, a good deal of the men take advantage of the fact that they are not required to do so. At that resort, compliments on male equipment flow freely. Low hangers seem to be almost universally appreciated. A good stiff dick elicits a flood of compliments.

Why is this essentially unheard in any other context?

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Ben
Feb 8, 2022
I agree with you -- there's no reason we shouldn't be able to compliment other men and receive compliments from them. Unfortunately, I think a lot of men who aren't secure in their sexuality will feel threatened by comments like those. They'll think, "hey, why's he looking at my cock?" Even if we're complimenting them on other body parts like biceps or abs, some guys will consider that to be a sexual overture. Not sure why that is.
Of course, a lot of it depends on the guy and how well you know him. I've got straight friends that I could say to them, "Hey, you've been working out. It looks good on you!" and they wouldn't feel threatened in the least. But that's going to depend a lot on the guy you're complimenting.
Do I wish it was different? Absolutely. Am I overly cautious? Maybe so. But yeah, I usually avoid making comments like those unless I know the guy is gay or I know him really well.
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PaulOriginal Poster
Feb 8, 2022
I agree that this is a huge portion of it. [quote]Unfortunately, I think a lot of men who aren't secure in their sexuality will feel threatened by comments like those.[/quote] Men who are secure in their sexuality are not going to be bothered by compliments directed at their bodies in general and their sexual equipment specifically. And I don't believe it matters where the man is on the spectrum from purely straight to purely gay. If he's secure about where he is on that spectrum, then compliments are not going to bother him.
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Zeke
Feb 8, 2022
I've received compliments on my bread, I'm ok with it and even proud that I've grown one. Years ago I couldn't so now it's great to do so. I have no problem with compliments about what I've chosen to do to myself that others like, they acknowledge the effort it has taken especially in my physique. Things like haircut style, my physique tone body or even what clothing I choose to wear gives one confidence of what and who we are. Now to get comments about color of hair, eyes, skin type or color, that I view in a different way than giving me confidence of who I am. Those are likes, what guys like. We all like different things on other guys which comes from a personal choice we make about another guy. Just look at the comments on guys pics. "Your handsome", well not to me you may say to yourself, what was he thinking?! Like I wrote, it's about what we like to see.
Now comments about my genitals I take it as, "hey it's what I was given, I had no say in it". I view it as my color of my skin, skin type, eye color or any other physique parts that I can't change without surgery of some type. I for the longest took those compliments are 'what are they after?' I can say I viewed it thru my experience of my rape and how I viewed men. I now see it as it's their way of saying 'I like what I see' . We all have likes on other guys and we need to be comfortable with our feelings. Now depending on how we feel about ourselves will depend on how we act on those feelings. How have guys acted when giving me compliments on genitals? If it's at a social atmosphere like social nude parties of just guys or mix gender nudist places, those compliments seldom happen. At gyms or spas and even nude beaches that are mostly guys, then it's about 75% sexual in nature that they are exploring if your open to much more than just looking. I've had some intense conversations and yes most are looking for sexual pleasure there at the gym/spa or to take it somewhere els
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PaulOriginal Poster
Feb 9, 2022
Of course I like it when people agree with me and tell me I'm totally right about something. [quote]I've received compliments on my bread, I'm ok with it and even proud that I've grown one. Years ago I couldn't so now it's great to do so. I have no problem with compliments about what I've chosen to do to myself that others like, they acknowledge the effort it has taken especially in my physique. Things like haircut style, my physique tone body or even what clothing I choose to wear gives one confidence of what and who we are. Now to get comments about color of hair, eyes, skin type or color, that I view in a different way than giving me confidence of who I am. Those are likes, what guys like. We all like different things on other guys which comes from a personal choice we make about another guy. Just look at the comments on guys pics. "Your handsome", well not to me you may say to yourself, what was he thinking?! Like I wrote, it's about what we like to see.Now comments about my genitals I take it as, "hey it's what I was given, I had no say in it". I view it as my color of my skin, skin type, eye color or any other physique parts that I can't change without surgery of some type. I for the longest took those compliments are 'what are they after?' I can say I viewed it thru my experience of my rape and how I viewed men. I now see it as it's their way of saying 'I like what I see' . We all have likes on other guys and we need to be comfortable with our feelings. Now depending on how we feel about ourselves will depend on how we act on those feelings. How have guys acted when giving me compliments on genitals? If it's at a social atmosphere like social nude parties of just guys or mix gender nudist places, those compliments seldom happen. At gyms or spas and even nude beaches that are mostly guys, then it's about 75% sexual in nature that they are exploring if your open to much more than just looking. I've had some intense conversations and yes most are looking for sexual pleasure there at the gym/spa or to take it somewhere els[/quote] But I like it even more when someone presents a different perspective -- even if it casts some doubt on what I said.

If someone has an especially attractive skin color, I really want to tell them how much I like it, but I rarely, if ever, make any such comment. Because, unless the person had some specific skin-color treatment done, their skin color is simply what they got. And the same is true about sex organs.

So, it would seem to complimenting a guy on his shapely cock and balls is not going to be received any better than compliments on other aspects over which the person has no control.

However, I'm coming from the perspective of trying to counter all of the male shaming that goes on.
Men should shave their faces.
Dicks should not be seen.
Even if it's a context in which dicks are acceptable, they had better be fully flaccid.
Anything that is specifically male/masculine is bad, shameful, should be hidden.

Maybe if we could change the culture among men -- that would at least be a start.
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Jim
Feb 9, 2022
[quote]Guys are not as free with their compliments of each other as women are, but I have had men, who were total strangers, tell me I have a great beard. It happens once in a while, but it's not common. I've heard guys compliment each other on their haircuts. I don't think it's too much of a stretch that one man could compliment another man's hands or face. I'm pretty certain that positive comments about biceps, pecks, or abs would also be well-appreciated. But what would happen if, in the locker room, one man said to another, "Nice set of low-hangers" or "Nicely shaped mushroom" or "Great cock" or "Very pleasing set of equipment" Etc? This topic came to mind because a guy sent me images of himself wearing some new jewelry he recently purchased. The jewelry was very nice and I said so. But his cock and balls are well-formed, visually pleasing, attractive, and, quite frankly, very beautiful -- and I told him so. My compliment was quite well-received. But it got us talking about how men seem so frightened about discussing or complimenting another man's cock and balls. Are we that insecure? Are we afraid to give and received compliments regarding our male sex organs? Now, understand, none of us did anything to deserve or merit the cock-and-balls set we got. We simply have the set we were given and that's it. There is nothing we have done, could do now, or could have done to change the set we have. From that perspective, we have no cause for pride or shame. Nonetheless, some sets are decidedly more shapely, visually pleasing, handsome and attractive. Is either man harmed when one acknowledges this in the other? There's a men's-only clothing-optional resort near where I live. Although it's perfectly acceptable to wear clothing anywhere and everywhere throughout the resort, a good deal of the men take advantage of the fact that they are not required to do so. At that resort, compliments on male equipment flow freely. Low hangers seem to be almost universally appreciated. A good stiff dick elicits a flood of compliments. Why is this essentially unheard in any other context?[/quote] I decided at 13 that instead of allowing myself to express negative thoughts about other men I would only express positive thoughts genuinely offered to other men to model the way that I feel it which would be most constructive and affirmative. I love to offer compliments and praise
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PaulOriginal Poster
Feb 9, 2022
Thankfully, this seems to be fairly common among men. [quote]I decided at 13 that instead of allowing myself to express negative thoughts about other men I would only express positive thoughts genuinely offered to other men to model the way that I feel it which would be most constructive and affirmative. I love to offer compliments and praise[/quote] At the men's resort I'm always talking about, at least 75% of the guys are nude. That's a lot of cocks and balls swinging around out in the open. Not everyone has an ideal set -- you get what you get. Although compliments flow fairly freely, I've never heard comments like: "Now there's a tiny pee-pee; who are you going to please with that?" "Wow! That's very badly misshapen; were you in an accident?" "Do you even have a scrotum?" It would seem that guys are very much aware of the fact that they didn't do anything to deserve or merit the set of cock and balls they have. They recognize that they have the set they were given. Nothing they did, nothing they could have done, nothing they could do will change that. Hand out compliments where they are due, but never shame a man because the set he got does not conform to the porn-star ideal.
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Nude Paul
Feb 11, 2022
I've gotten a couple positive comments about my penis tattoo in public areas. While they didn't exactly mention my penis, it's obvious where their eyes have been when they say, cool ink (or tattoo) but that must have hurt. At nudist parties and venues I get a lot more comments on all my tattoos and piercings, as well as some positive things like your body looks great. Do you exercise? And in more private situations, I've gotten things like, nice ass, love how your dick tattoo grows when you get erect. I like them all!
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PaulOriginal Poster
Feb 11, 2022
I want to live in society in which a compliment is just a compliment. [quote]I've gotten a couple positive comments about my penis tattoo in public areas. While they didn't exactly mention my penis, it's obvious where their eyes have been when they say, cool ink (or tattoo) but that must have hurt. At nudist parties and venues I get a lot more comments on all my tattoos and piercings, as well as some positive things like your body looks great. Do you exercise? And in more private situations, I've gotten things like, nice ass, love how your dick tattoo grows when you get erect. I like them all![/quote]
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Terry C
Mar 31, 2022
Ny ioubuib us that we still live in a prudish society where we are never to even talk about another guys cock and balls or ass or nudity! It is only in TN and at some unique places that we can come up to a guy and say great genitals, etc., or even shake his cock in your hand as a gesture of good will for we nudist guys that absolutely love being nude and would love another guy shaking our dicks! HAH!
Hickguy M.D.
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Dan
Apr 1, 2022
I was in a setting once where three of us guys were having dinner at the apartment of one of the other guys. Naturally, we were each nude. When we finished dinner and got up to move to the living area for conversation, the host said something to me about my cock. Honestly, I did not really hear or understand what he said, but I could tell from the context, the tone of his voice, and the look on his face that whatever he actually said was a compliment. I took it the way I would take any other compliment and said, "Thanks!" None of us felt weird, at least I certainly did not. It was just a compliment. Maybe part of it is that most of us are not naked with other people as often as we are with others clothed so that compliments about normally hidden areas just don't come up. My experience has led me to believe that if I am in a nude setting with others, I will try to be free to make a compliment when one is due. Now, I may be wrong, but I think it would be even less accepted if one were to offer a compliment to a nudist lady about her lady parts, even when one were due. I think I will limit my compliments to guys until I know the particular lady well enough to know how she will take it. As for shaking my cock by way of greeting, I would love it!
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PaulOriginal Poster
Apr 1, 2022
Ancient Roman greeting: Cupping. [quote]As for shaking my cock by way of greeting, I would love it![/quote] It's actually mentioned once in the Bible when Abraham sent his servant off to acquire a wife for his son. To cup, two men stand face to face -- each slightly to the other's right. Place left arms over and around the shoulder/neck of the other man and use your arm to pull the other man close -- hugging. With your right hand, cup the other man's cock and balls. We have an expression, "I have your back." Cupping says, "You're safe with me; I have your balls."
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ME
Member
Apr 3, 2022
Just an outsider looking in on this as Ive never been to a clothing optional anything. I can see where most men would be uncomfortable complimenting another guys genitalia. Our society has engrained in the male brain that if you look at or think about or even talk about it, period, then you have some psychological issues. Its a double standard for men as women can freely discuss the guy they are withs cock and balls in their lady groups but we as men cant. They talk about topics like their cycles, body parts and other things but men cant even broach those subjects when together.
Live and let live! If you want to compliment mine, go ahead, and thank you. If you wanna talk about your cock and balls and feel comfortable doing so with me, lets talk. If I feel comfortable with you and I want to, Ill compliment yours. Weve got to get out of the close minded mentality we live in and yet retain our civility amongst each other. Freedom not used is eventually taken away forever.
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Todd
Apr 3, 2022
Its never bothered me if another guy compliments my man parts, as long as theyre not creepy about.
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ME
Member
Apr 4, 2022
[quote]Ancient Roman greeting: Cupping. As for shaking my cock by way of greeting, I would love it! It's actually mentioned once in the Bible when Abraham sent his servant off to acquire a wife for his son. To cup, two men stand face to face -- each slightly to the other's right. Place left arms over and around the shoulder/neck of the other man and use your arm to pull the other man close -- hugging. With your right hand, cup the other man's cock and balls. We have an expression, "I have your back." Cupping says, "You're safe with me; I have your balls."[/quote] Learned of this several months ago on a similar TN post. I have cupped quite a few times and highly recommend it. It is a physical manifestation of trust. An excellent step to begin a friendship.
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Stone Andy
Apr 29, 2022
[quote]usually when somebody says they like my junk it's a gay dude wanna get down on it - it's all good[/quote] Not junk. Cocks are too important to belittle. No kids are made from junk. It may be light-hearted, but the words we choose about ourselves reflect our self-image. It's kind of like the difference between being proud of your six pack abs versus pulling in your gut. We need our pride!
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Stone Andy
Apr 29, 2022
Yes to your precious divine treasure. Now you're talking - correct them please. Yes to all of ours!
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JORC_CZ
Jul 12, 2024
I had many men complimenting my dick. Even total randoms at the beach or public showers. My dick is a normal dick. Average size, average pubes, average hanging balls, uncut. They frequently complimented that it has a good shape, just the good size of balls and that I do not shave my hair. Sometimes there were guys that visibly watched my dick and when they noticed that i noticed that they were staring at my crotch, they just nodded their heads and showed me the thumbs up. :-D
Also quite frequent are compliments about my beard, hair generally and my height (194 cm or 6 feet, 4 inches).
Honestly, body-related compliments are more valued to me when they come from men. We have the same body and mind configuration so we can truly appreciate all those things.
I like to compliment men.
Nowadays, it is almost rude when a man compliments a woman. All that crazy ass female empowerment. Don't get me wrong - I am all for women, I hate sexist behavior (or any similar form of discrimination). But when a man says to a woman that she looks beautiful today and she starts screaming at him that he is a pig who only objectifies her as a sexual tool, there is something wrong with the world.
And that's why I try to deliberately compliment men more. And even more guys who have some issues about how they look. I encourage them to be proud of their naked body no matter the amount of muscle and shape and size of their dicks and balls. People who feel well in their naked bodies are the ones who are truly sexy.
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ME
Member
Aug 3, 2024
I personally would appreciate a compliment. Compliments from women is very rare so a compliment from a man is still nice.
If we're in a nude resort of spa where guys are more open minded then yeah feel free. You can look and compliment all you want.
In a gym locker room in the textile world you have to be more discredit about it. I just don't want other hearing and then you know.
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Member
Apr 2, 2025
Sometimes, I think it's generally difficult for men to give or receive compliments. Perhaps it's just how we're naturally inclined. Being uncircumcised in a country where most men are circumcised has always made me feel a bit out of place. It was something I was very self-conscious about while growing up and during my initial experiences with social nudity. However, after visiting several nude beaches and resorts, I discovered a wonderful aspect of the nudist community: nobody cared! Sometimes, it's our differences that connect us or bring us closer. I've received compliments on being uncircumcised. Initially, it felt a bit odd and as though it was the main focus when people met me. However, on the whole, it was a compliment, and it's genuinely nice to both receive and give compliments. I've learned to appreciate them, and as long as the sentiment isn't creepy, I simply accept them as compliments. [quote]Its never bothered me if another guy compliments my man parts, as long as theyre not creepy about.[/quote]
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ME
Member
Apr 2, 2025
I have received many complements on my body before, mostly on my penis when I'm nude around other men.
One very memorable time was years ago when I was still in my 20's I was at a 24 hour gym and finished my workout and went to shower. There was an older man in the showers who was heavy set and very hairy. It was an open shower area so there were no patricians between them so we were both in full view of each other. I did notice that he was checking me out quite a bit but I didn't mind, guys look, we all look even I do. I finished my shower and proceeded to dry myself off and go to my locker. As I was drying myself off the man came around and sat on the bench near my locker. His locker just happened to be close to mine. He sat down with a towel wrapped around his waist and looked over at me and asked if he could tell me something without me getting offended. I said sure and he complemented me on my body and said I was in very good shape. I said thanks I do my best to stay in shape. He then said that I also had a very nice penis and head on it. That's something I've heard often from people who have seen my penis is that I have a nice fat, mushroom head. Again I thanked him and he said he wasn't trying to be disrespectful and I assured him that I was not offended by it. It was something I heard often and enjoyed hearing it. He asked if he could have a closer look and I said sure. I moved closer to him so he could get a better look and he liked what he seen. It was just the two of us there at that hour and I could see that he was getting turned on by him viewing me. He didn't try to hide it but did apologize for it. I said that's no problem. We chatted as we both slowly got dressed. He thanked me again as I left.
I don't think it's a bad thing that men complement each other on our bodies it's something we need to do more and be more open about it.
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ME
Member
Apr 2, 2025
I have received many complements on my body before, mostly on my penis when I'm nude around other men.
One very memorable time was years ago when I was still in my 20's I was at a 24 hour gym and finished my workout and went to shower. There was an older man in the showers who was heavy set and very hairy. It was an open shower area so there were no patricians between them so we were both in full view of each other. I did notice that he was checking me out quite a bit but I didn't mind, guys look, we all look even I do. I finished my shower and proceeded to dry myself off and go to my locker. As I was drying myself off the man came around and sat on the bench near my locker. His locker just happened to be close to mine. He sat down with a towel wrapped around his waist and looked over at me and asked if he could tell me something without me getting offended. I said sure and he complemented me on my body and said I was in very good shape. I said thanks I do my best to stay in shape. He then said that I also had a very nice penis and head on it. That's something I've heard often from people who have seen my penis is that I have a nice fat, mushroom head. Again I thanked him and he said he wasn't trying to be disrespectful and I assured him that I was not offended by it. It was something I heard often and enjoyed hearing it. He asked if he could have a closer look and I said sure. I moved closer to him so he could get a better look and he liked what he seen. It was just the two of us there at that hour and I could see that he was getting turned on by him viewing me. He didn't try to hide it but did apologize for it. I said that's no problem. We chatted as we both slowly got dressed. He thanked me again as I left.
I don't think it's a bad thing that men complement each other on our bodies it's something we need to do more and be more open about it.
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