Commenting on another persons body parts.

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  Tom === Thomas S. Tierney

  Oct 12, 2014

  Would you walk up to stranger at a PTA function and compliment them on their body parts?
  

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• ME

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  Oct 13, 2014

  [quote]I am new, be gentle.
  I did a quick search, did not see this one.
  I am learning naturist etiquette, got a question.
  When I am with other people in the nude, how, what, why on making positive comments about their body or parts thereof is acceptable? Beyond sexual innuendo, what else would be unacceptable?[/quote]
  I agree, you wouldn't do it any more than you would do it in a similar clothed situation.
  
  One of the things I have noticed it that a lot of people comment online regarding people's pictures. I tend to think it is rude and would not do such a thing. I don't recall this being a forum for body evaluation. Actually, sometimes, I wonder why we bother to post pictures at all. Of course, documenting the practice of nudity in many life situations would be one good reason. Except, I think it has been pretty well documented already! And it is kind of fun!
  

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  Steve

  Oct 13, 2014

  Think about a clothed situation.  Would it be appropriate to say: What a cute nose you have! Do you have to shave above your lip, or is it naturally smooth? You fill out those jeans really well. Don't you think you should trim those ear hairs? Nice dye job.
  
  You get the point - it's usuallynotappropriate to comment on body parts; the fact that more parts are exposed does not change that. Can you be complimentary, non-judgmental, avoid comparisons and assumptions, avoid any unwelcome (nowthere'sa judgement call) hint of sexual interest, and create an opening for further conversation? Then maybe.
  

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  EmptyClosetOriginal Poster

  Oct 13, 2014

  [quote][quote]I am new, be gentle.
  I did a quick search, did not see this one.
  I am learning naturist etiquette, got a question.
  When I am with other people in the nude, how, what, why on making positive comments about their body or parts thereof is acceptable? Beyond sexual innuendo, what else would be unacceptable?[/quote]
  I agree, you wouldn't do it any more than you would do it in a similar clothed situation.
  
  One of the things I have noticed it that a lot of people comment online regarding people's pictures. I tend to think it is rude and would not do such a thing. I don't recall this being a forum for body evaluation. Actually, sometimes, I wonder why we bother to post pictures at all. Of course, documenting the practice of nudity in many life situations would be one good reason. Except, I think it has been pretty well documented already! And it is kind of fun!
  [/quote]This was the impetus for my question. I also thought it could be considered impolite if done in person. With me being married, I would not compliment the opposite sex for fear of attracting any attention that would remove bliss from my marriage. At this point in my journey I will probably avoid walking up to another person on the beach, I would rather they take the lead and walk to me.
  

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  Steve

  Oct 13, 2014

  Particularly if you don't make a habit of approaching only members of the opposite sex, it's fine to approach people with small talk; if anything CO beaches can be friendlier than textile ones. The body-part theme does make awkward small talk. Think about the water temperature, weather, history and sociology of the beach, that sort of thing.
  

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  Connor

  Oct 13, 2014

  [quote]...When I am with other people in the nude, how, what, why on making positive comments about their body or parts thereof is acceptable?[/quote]Just because you see body parts that you don't usually see when clothed does not mean you get to put them under a microscope for study or comment. These are human beings, people just like you and I. There's more to a person than just a series of body parts put together. If you are going to make comments, treat them as human beings not objects.[quote]...Beyond sexual innuendo, what else would be unacceptable?[/quote]Sexual innuendo maybe fine, if you know the person(s) for a long time and vice-versa. Know your audience. Your new to this, avoid anything sexual or anything perceived in society as sexual such as "You have nice breasts. Are those real?". The last thing you need is to be known as theCREEPY OLD GUYon a beach or a resort.
  Do you know anything besides sex that could start a conversation such as the weather, undercover secret agent, born from planet krypton but rocket got lost, etc?[quote]...With me being married, I would not compliment the opposite sex for fear of attracting any attention that would remove bliss from my marriage. [/quote]Regardless of being married or not, it's always good to be polite.
  
  Statistically, there are more male nudists than female nudists. You may need to be flexible in your approach.
  
  
  

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  StevieLorna

  Oct 13, 2014

  When in a naturist environment simply act exactly the same as you would in a textile one.
  
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  DesertRat

  Oct 13, 2014

  I remember only one time where I commented on a person's body part. I was in a hot tub and struck up a conversation with a woman there. The subject got around to becoming a nudist and why. She stated that her first visit to a nudest resort was with her husband but she had no intention of getting nude. Like most women she had a poor self image of herself. While sitting around the pool she started looking at all the other nude women and comparing herself to them. She was quite heavy she thought, but compared to some of them she was svelte. So off came the top and then the bottom and she got hooked on the nude life style. I commented the she didn't look heavy to me. She related to me that she had had a couple of bouts with cancer losing her stomach, some intestines and a breast. She was now skinny because of losing her stomach and her one breast was completely reconstructed. I said that if she hadn't told me I would have never known that and that her surgeon did a beautiful a job in rebuilding her breast. This was to only time I can remember telling a strange woman that she had beautiful breasts.

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• ME

  Member

  Oct 13, 2014

  [quote]I remember only one time where I commented on a person's body part ... She stated that her first visit to a nudest resort was with her husband ... She related to me that she had had a couple of bouts with cancer losing her stomach, some intestines and a breast ... This was to only time I can remember telling a strange woman that she had beautiful breasts.[/quote]
  I think a difference here is before you made your comments to this woman, You had developed a rapport with her that allowed you to take a step beyond what two strangers would be comfortable with. I think that not everyone is forever on pins & needles in a nudist situation. Just thoughtfully and sensitively develop friendships and you will have more freedom to be open. I think some people just feel that because everyone is nude, they can jump way ahead in friendship steps.

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  floridaslim

  Oct 13, 2014

  My opinion is that direct comments about another person's body - having just met - are inappropriate. What is important is commenting on what is in their brain after sufficient conversation. Personality is much more important than body and getting to know another is both interesting and fun through conversation.
  

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  Keith

  Oct 14, 2014

  Flagged again

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  ManOfWicklow

  Oct 14, 2014

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  Tom === Thomas S. Tierney

  Oct 14, 2014

  Somebody's gotta do it.
  

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• ME

  Member

  Oct 14, 2014

  [quote][quote]hai ...my name is kerrthi [/quote]I'm sick of flagging this crap.[/quote]
  Hehe! I  have already flagged this person three times.
  I do note that nudisthookup is hosted by go daddy, the same site that TrueNudist is hosted by. Been wonder if complaints directly to GoDaddy would make a difference.

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  John English

  Oct 17, 2014

  I was at a club sitting around the pool wit a few people, and the one woman asked how I keep smooth and it looked good she wished her husband would think about being shaven
  

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  Travellingbizguy

  Oct 17, 2014

  I don't think it would be appropriate to comment on anyone's specific body part but in generality it might be OK depending on the situation.  As one of the posters mentioned about shaved parts but not a direct comment.  I wouldn't go up to a women and say nice breasts or a man and say nice body.  If there is more conversation and a report develops it might be different.
  
  

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  John

  Oct 17, 2014

  So who actually said it, Mark or Abe?

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  Tom === Thomas S. Tierney

  Oct 17, 2014

  [quote]So who actually said it, Mark or Abe?  [/quote]Google it.
  

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  nudony

  Oct 18, 2014

  [quote]I don't think it would be appropriate to comment on anyone's specific body part but in generality it might be OK depending on the situation.  As one of the posters mentioned about shaved parts but not a direct comment.  I wouldn't go up to a women and say nice breasts or a man and say nice body.  If there is more conversation and a report developments it might be different.
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  There was one time I actually commented on a nudist's body parts.  I was hanging out with a nudist couple at their home.  Our female hostess was sitting in front of us; we were just chatting and having a good time.  I was looking at her and spontaneously made a comment on her breasts; specifically how great they looked.  I didn't really think about it; I just said it "in the moment."
  

  • Now, without knowing the background on this story, this might seem weird and inappropriate.  And I would agree.  But:
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  • We were good friends.  We'd seen each other nude frequently and for some time.  We had socialized at the resort, at non-landed clubs, at their home.  As a matter of fact we rarely wore clothes around each other, except to go to non-nudist events.
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  • And our female friend did have exceptional breasts.  They were firm and perky beyond what one might expect for a middle-aged woman.  At that particular moment she was sitting in a way that emphasized that fact; and so, right on the spot, I thought a compliment was in order.  And that's exactly how she took it.  She attributed her firmness to not wearing a bra, and therefore her breasts tissue being stronger and firmer.  I personally think it may have had more to do with genetics; but either way we could have a short discussion about her breasts, and it was totally ok.  She knew me; and therefore knew my comment was coming from a good place.
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  • Would such a comment be ok in the textile world with a textile friend?  Probably not.  For one thing you're unlikely to see a textile friend nude to make such a comment.  So you can't compliment someone on something you can't see.  With nudist friends, when there is trust and openness, the dynamic changes: anatomical traits become much more obvious.
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  • BUT...unless you know the person well, or the person initiates a conversation about his/her specific body part, it is almost never ok to volunteer a comment about it.  It's just rude.  Build a relationship with that person, earn their trust and openness before "going there."  It's just good manners.
    

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  Tom === Thomas S. Tierney

  Oct 19, 2014

  [quote]I always say in the creepiest voice I can muster "You sure got purdy elbows".  It makes an impression. :) ;)[/quote]LOL
  

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  NudeJohnny

  Oct 20, 2014

  [quote][quote]I always say in the creepiest voice I can muster "You sure got purdy elbows".  It makes an impression. :) ;)[/quote]LOL
  [/quote]ditto.
  

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  sunnmaxx

  Oct 20, 2014

  
  A couple years ago when visiting a new resort, a couple walked up to us and he looked at my wifes hair and said "Nice big........
  hair"  and she looked at my toes and said "Such small..............................................toes" And they both said "Now that we've cleared the air, we are Dave n Judy"  we laughed histarically and they were the nicest people.  As we introduced ourselves to others a few asked us if we met the "Jokes" yet. Nice routine
  
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  ruhl straley

  Dec 1, 2014

  • I am new, be gentle.
    I did a quick search, did not see this one.
    I am learning naturist etiquette, got a question.
    When I am with other people in the nude, how, what, why on making positive comments about their body or parts thereof is acceptable? Beyond sexual innuendo, what else would be unacceptable? Both sexes, all orientations view on this would be nice.....
    I would hate to go to a CO beach for the first time and do something to piss someone off due to my own ignorance.....
    
  • TO BE WISE, THINK OF SOMETHING STUPID TO SAY, THEN DON'T SAY IT

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  J

  Dec 9, 2014

  I don't think there is a particular "right way" to do it, I personally wouldn't but that's just me.
  

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