I searched the past topics hoping to find I was not the only one who is dealing with this but alas I am the only one. Ever since the first time I was nude I have noticed that it is more comfortable for me to be nude around people I have never met rather than around friends. I guess it has to do with the possibility of never seeing strangers again, or knowing that they may be feeling a little self conscious (is that how you spell that) too. My friends on the other hand will see me all the time. I know it sounds strange but I could walk through a department store and never even think about the fact that I was nude. I go skinny dipping with friends and I cant help but be very aware of the fact that Im nude. While sitting here thinking about it I came to the realization that it could be my mind reminding me of what textile society thinks and making me feel like it is wrong. I dont think it is wrong but maybe it is reminders of my upbringing when the parents used to say "shut the door when your in the shower, we have company" or "put your swim trunks back on before someone sees you". Am I just crazy or is this a factor for anyone else. You would think it would be the other way around, but I guess my friends opinions are more important to me than strangers and since they are not all comfortable with being nude all the time I guess it makes me more aware when I am. I dont think I have worded this exactly the way I feel but maybe you get the drift of what Im trying to say. Has anyone else ever dealt with this issue?
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JackNeilsonJan 21, 2010I can certainly empathize with you. In the past that was never a worry for me as my friends all knew and I had no problem being nude in front of those who had no objection to it. Now, having been in the closet so to speak for a while and having a new set of friends with different outlooks I worry about what they will think. I guess this is just human nature as I definitely would not have a problem in front of strangers or new friends. There are some with whom I would have no hesitation but others with whom I don't think it would be viable. I think the only way to handle it would be on a case by case or person by person level. You know your friends, their attitudes and probable reactions so all I can say is listen to your gut and decide accordingly.
JackReactReply - MEMemberJan 22, 2010
I totally understand what you go thru
It is reason, no other that makes you feel that way.
A stranger is a stranger and another nudist is just another nudist the first one you don’t care what he thinks and the second will never judge you but when it comes for the ones whom you interact with on daily basis you may take the chance of “getting in trouble” or be judged and that’s what bothers you.
Nothing wrong with that , just mean your brain is doing its job.ReactReply - KR
kramtrohsMar 18, 2011I think it's because we are with people that we know do ont have a problem with nudity & everyone esle is nude too at the same time.
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I think it's because we are with people that we know do ont have a problem with nudity & everyone esle is nude too at the same time.
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I think it's because we are with people that we know do ont have a problem with nudity & everyone esle is nude too at the same time.
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gabareMar 18, 2011over the years i have run into friends and co-workers at nudist clubs and beaches, it felt akwards for only a second because they were nude to, one was a good freind and co-worker that finally got his wife to go and we ran into each other at a nudist gathering he invited me to dinner at their camp site and his wife seemed to be the most uncomfortable but after a short time she relaxed and we all had a good dinner and conversation while being nude. being retired i run into them only occasionally now but its no big deal and we usually chat about where we have been lately.
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DesertRatMar 19, 2011I do not have a problem being nude when I’m with my nudist friends weather they are nude or not. Being nude with friends who are not nudists is out of the question under normal circumstances, but I really can’t think of an occasion where that would be possible. Being nude with strangers, such as at a nudist resort, weather they are dressed or not is also not a problem. Being nude with strangers, such as at a public beach, might be a problem especially if they are dressed. To them, am I just another beach goer, the object of their curiosity, or a perverse thrill to fulfill their weird fantasies? I find that I can be most relaxed and enjoy the experience most with my nudist friends regardless of who is wearing what.
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I was not uncomfortable during my first visit to a nudist resort.During the drive to the resort I was unsure whetherI would have the nerve to go thru with the visit.Once I got checked in,and got my clothes off,I was totally comfortable.
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GrantJan 11, 2013Usually not uncomfortable nude, however when textiles with children are in sight, I do feel quiet uncomfortable nude and relocate to more unopposed surrounds.ReactReply - ST
SteveApr 16, 2021[quote]Usually not uncomfortable nude, however when textiles with children are in sight, I do feel quiet uncomfortable nude and relocate to more unopposed surrounds.[/quote] I tend to do the same if not in a clothing-optional area. In unofficial areas its a judgement call dependingbon the location, the people, etc. On the few occasions kids are nude (official area or not), its nice to just see them enjoying themselves. Used to be a lot more common than nowReactReply - MEMemberApr 18, 2021
Luann and I are all good with being nude around another nudist couple without question. A non nudist it's not going to happen as a practice that we are nude. Accidental things have happened but they are avoided when ever foreseen. The kids who are grown and launched know to call first. My frantic minded IT guy I do know his wife is an undercover home nudie as she told me that personally some time back.
I do know with him working on all of our numerous puters has seen it all we have stored and with all the security cams inside and outside he is currently putting in. I know the couple well and know they are highly discrete so I have no concerns in that regard. Yesterday he mentioned about deer walking through our yard when he got an alert on his server. So yes he has seen it all but is very respective about not mentioning anything personal. I guess it pays to be a top customer? Besides he is to business busy to bother himself with our personal affair.
Luann knows of all of this but tends to turn her mind off in this regard as she well trust them. We are all good when it comes to other nudist whether be it home or social.
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noodengr2Apr 19, 2021I am totally comfortable being nude with strangers and many many of my friends. Some of them join me for a hot tub soak. The handful of people who I am not comfortable being nude around is my two siblings and their spouses and kids. The niblings are now 19-23. They all know about my nude habits and even joke about it, but I draw the line at stripping down around them.
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