Help me understand nudism!

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  sunnmaxx

  Nov 4, 2015

  Nudism is a personal thing, if you enjoy being nude and like doing things in the nude then go enjoy it.  If you have never run around the house naked then maybe you are just not into it.  I would encourage you to tryit but you should not have to force yourself.  There is nothing sexual about wanting to share our nudist activities with others.  Maybe you will like it and just never had the chance
  

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  Hawk

  Nov 4, 2015

  This should help:
  
  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Naturism
  
  
  www.AANR.com
  
  http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/nudism?s=t
  

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  wifeofanudistOriginal Poster

  Nov 4, 2015

  Thanks for your response. I have tried it and it just isn't for me. To each their own! I am having trouble coming to terms with my spouse chatting online and/or meeting other women who are also nude. If it were only men, I would be much more comfortable. Then, it would be clear to me it was not sexual in any way. [quote]Nudism is a personal thing, if you enjoy being nude and like doing things in the nude then go enjoy it.  If you have never run around the house naked then maybe you are just not into it.  I would encourage you to tryit but you should not have to force yourself.  There is nothing sexual about wanting to share our nudist activities with others.  Maybe you will like it and just never had the chance
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  wifeofanudistOriginal Poster

  Nov 4, 2015

  Thanks! [quote]This should help:
  
  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Naturism
  
  
  www.AANR.com
  
  https://dictionary.reference.com/browse/nudism?s=t
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  FullSun

  Nov 4, 2015

  Everyone is different.  For me, and I strongly believe, many others on this site it is is not a sexual thing.  I just don't like clothes, they are uncomfortable and I just feel better being nude.  Being here, going to our local resort, or on clothing optional vacations I find people that are more open and relaxed than just about anywhere else.  I have gone into the chat but it's not something I'm really interested in so am rarely there.  I'd rather layout nude in my yard and enjoy the sun etc.  My wife is not really into it but will go with me on a clothing optional vacation or to our local resort periodically and does join in but it's not really her thing.  Having been with me and joining in she understands the comfort and openness and how it is not sexual for me thus trusts me just as I trust her.
  
  I have no idea what your relationship is like or what his driving his interest, but I can say open discussion and at least trying it with him to understand before making judgements would be best.  When I say try, go to a clothing optional resort where you do not have to disrobe until/unless you are comfortable but him can enjoy being nude.  You may realize no one cares, etc and decide to join in at least once in a while, or maybe not.  Only with more information from him and your own observations can you really gain an understanding.
  
  

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  DesertRat

  Nov 5, 2015

  Dear Wife of a Nudist,
  What you are feeling is not at all unusual. I hope that I can offer a few words of encouragement that will help ease your mind. The first thing you must realize is that there is nothing wrong with you. Many women in your circumstances would start blaming themselves and feel that they are some how inadequate. This is usually the furtherest thing from the truth. I know from your letter that you love your husband and I'm sure he loves you as well. Do not let this thing cause a division in your marriage. As a nudist, I know what your husband is seeking and believe me, it is not sex. I'm sure he is very happy with what he already has. I believe that the one thing most social nudists are seeking is a feeling of warmth and openness that you will find no where else in society. It is a feeling of being able to interact with our fellow human beings with all of the guilts and hang-ups, heaped upon us by society, stripped away. We all have an innate desire to be open and honest with others but society and social norms always get in the way. There is a saying in nudism that says: It's hard to put on airs with others when you're nude. This means our real selves come out. We are who we are and with nudism can be what we are. I honestly believe that you would have more to worry about if your husband went to a bar and talked to women there than if he went to a nude resort and talked to nudist women. I'm sure your husband would like you to join him in his nudist activities, but that is something that you have to decide for yourself on your own schedule, if ever. We all want our loved ones to enjoy all the pleasures and joys that we feel, but like love, it cannot be forced. My wife and I have been married going on 45 years now and there is one rule that we have always kept. It worked for us and it may work for you. We could always do anything that we desired to do but we always let the other one know what we were planning and we always let the other one know what happened. In other words we had no secrets and there never was anything that needed to be kept secret. Let you husband know that he can always be open and honest with you. I hope this helps. DesertRat.
  

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  wifeofanudistOriginal Poster

  Nov 5, 2015

  [quote] Everyone is different.  For me, and I strongly believe, many others on this site it is is not a sexual thing.  I just don't like clothes, they are uncomfortable and I just feel better being nude.  Being here, going to our local resort, or on clothing optional vacations I find people that are more open and relaxed than just about anywhere else.  I have gone into the chat but it's not something I'm really interested in so am rarely there.  I'd rather layout nude in my yard and enjoy the sun etc.  My wife is not really into it but will go with me on a clothing optional vacation or to our local resort periodically and does join in but it's not really her thing.  Having been with me and joining in she understands the comfort and openness and how it is not sexual for me thus trusts me just as I trust her.
  
  I have no idea what your relationship is like or what his driving his interest, but I can say open discussion and at least trying it with him to understand before making judgements would be best.  When I say try, go to a clothing optional resort where you do not have to disrobe until/unless you are comfortable but him can enjoy being nude.  You may realize no one cares, etc and decide to join in at least once in a while, or maybe not.  Only with more information from him and your own observations can you really gain an understanding.
  
  [/quote] Thank you very much for all of the responses. I appreciate everyone's perspectives. Honestly, I'm not sure of my husband's intentions. I would like to believe that he is a true nudist (no pun intended), but - he is secretive about chatting and has even lied about it. It also seems that he seeks out women. Perhaps, I would be less apprehensive if he were open and honest about it. Who knows. Some of the profile pics that I have seen are questionable (spread eagles, really?). I understand there may be many here for the wrong reasons, I just hope that my husband is not one of them. (And, that's another issue altogether) Anyway, thank you again. Kindest regards to you all.

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• KE

  

  Keith

  Nov 5, 2015

  Hi Wife of a nudist,My wife was also very sceptical of my opening up to her I was a nudist when we were long distance dating.  She  like you was unsure within her own mind as to my real intent and what being a nudist entailed. She doesn't frequent this web site but has read to various post I think she would benefit from reading.
  
  Re her getting nude for the relaxation side of it took her a long time to accept, but now over time she to has accepted how free in mind body and soul she feels when nude. She also cherishes her clothed time too.
  Just this morning I was standing on the bedroom balcony at the back of the house we are staying in Vietnam. As the balcony is visible from the street and houses a few blocks over i was wearing a towel around my waste and she came out to be with me in just nicks. That just shows how well she has adopted the life style.
  
  Our success can been put down to mutual trust and open discussion, there is also no pressure applied to my wife to get nude if we are in the company with others , and she has been happy to strip off and join in the various activities.
  
  I note your reluctance to try the lifestyle yourself,  but you might feel differently if you try some nude time when you are on your own just to help you get a feeling for it so you can understand your hubby more. If your hubby is a true nudist all and good but its not good if he is just a vouyer and in it for his kicks.   talk to him and explain your concerns also show him these responses.
  Wish you all the best. K & T.
  
  
  
  

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  NatureBoy24

  Nov 5, 2015

  Here's a link to another excellent article for wives of nudist men.
  http://www.travelites.info/brochure.html
  
  " We have never met, but I am taking the liberty to write you because I understand that your significant other has become interested in nudism or clothes-free recreation. You are wondering whether or not to share in this. My husband and I are nudists, and like you, we both experienced all the concerns and uncertainties the first time we tried it. All the vague fears and worries I fretted about proved groundless. I would like to help you experience and become comfortable with this lifestyle. I hope you will let me try."

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  FullSun

  Nov 5, 2015

  [quote][quote] Everyone is different.  For me, and I strongly believe, many others on this site it is is not a sexual thing.  I just don't like clothes, they are uncomfortable and I just feel better being nude.  Being here, going to our local resort, or on clothing optional vacations I find people that are more open and relaxed than just about anywhere else.  I have gone into the chat but it's not something I'm really interested in so am rarely there.  I'd rather layout nude in my yard and enjoy the sun etc.  My wife is not really into it but will go with me on a clothing optional vacation or to our local resort periodically and does join in but it's not really her thing.  Having been with me and joining in she understands the comfort and openness and how it is not sexual for me thus trusts me just as I trust her.
  
  I have no idea what your relationship is like or what his driving his interest, but I can say open discussion and at least trying it with him to understand before making judgements would be best.  When I say try, go to a clothing optional resort where you do not have to disrobe until/unless you are comfortable but him can enjoy being nude.  You may realize no one cares, etc and decide to join in at least once in a while, or maybe not.  Only with more information from him and your own observations can you really gain an understanding.
  
  [/quote] Thank you very much for all of the responses. I appreciate everyone's perspectives. Honestly, I'm not sure of my husband's intentions. I would like to believe that he is a true nudist (no pun intended), but - he is secretive about chatting and has even lied about it. It also seems that he seeks out women. Perhaps, I would be less apprehensive if he were open and honest about it. Who knows. Some of the profile pics that I have seen are questionable (spread eagles, really?). I understand there may be many here for the wrong reasons, I just hope that my husband is not one of them. (And, that's another issue altogether) Anyway, thank you again. Kindest regards to you all.[/quote]I can see why you are questioning.  The open and honest (and understanding) is a two way street.  If you are open honest and understanding with him he might open up.  It is possible that he hides it because he thinks you will be mad or not understand (assuming it is just plain nudism).  He also may be wishing that you join him and at the very least being understanding.  Talking openly, honestly, understandingly, and with absolutely no judgement/anger and/or surprising him by being nude at home with him a bit could turn where he is looking.

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• ME

  Member

  Nov 6, 2015

  I hope you have gleaned a lot of information from the above posts; they appear to answer most all of your questions.  I do want to add one item to your list that may help from the comment, "I also don't understand why would you want to "chat" nude? Could this be a sexual fetish?"  As a relatively new nudist, I have only been in chat for a few years.  I would normally be nude while typing away, but occasionally not.  During one post, a fellow nudist commented something along the lines of 'we all profess to be nudists by our participation on this site, but some here are always clothed'.  That was enough for me, I enjoy being nude as much as practical and am nude pretty much 100% of the time on this site.  It's just a personal thing, but to be true to the ideals a necessary one.  I'm sure this is not practiced by all the folks here on this forum but do believe it is from the majority.  I believe your husband may be one of the majority...I'd take it at face value and press on.  I wish you well.  John.
  

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