I have about 9 friend requests that I have just ignored, going back to May of 2009. It was guys that just struck me wrong and who didn't send a message with the request. Is there a way to get rid of those, without clicking deny? If I deny, do they get a message back saying it was denied?
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- MEMemberJan 24, 2010
no idea if they get a message to be denied but i do know the only way to "delet" them is denying , you dont recive a "accept" message so i asume the same for the deny isue.
cheers.ReactReply - GAgator1Original PosterJan 24, 2010
Thanks! You guys are quick! I'll probably delete the old ones, leave the recent ones.
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PhilfreeeukJan 24, 2010[quote]I have about 9 friend requests that I have just ignored, going back to May of 2009. It was guys that just struck me wrong and who didn't send a message with the request. Is there a way to get rid of those, without clicking deny? If I deny, do they get a message back saying it was denied?[/quote] Pretty sure they are not notified. The chances are, that most of them forget who they invited, about two seconds after they hit the invite button anyway. That's why, I think, that the girls get so many repeats, we need something to show that a request has already been sent. They probably invited a whole bunch at the same time, so even if you deny them straight away, most still would not realise. Sitting on invites is annoying, because you have to click on your invites to if there is a new one. I would only sit on an invite if someone started to send multiple repeat invites, then you'd have to leave it there for a while to block them.
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See also:How Do You Handle Friend's Requests?ReactReply - MI
Miss_LindaJan 24, 2010The only way that they are notified is if you send them a polite message saying why you denied them. I do that sometimes. A lot of times they write back, we chat back and forth and we eventually become friends.Then there are also those that I have denied repeatedly. You'd think they'd get the hint. Whereisthat ignore button?ReactReply - MEMemberJan 26, 2010
What I'll do, if someone reapeatedly requests us to be friends, multiple times, whereas we're denying them, for whatever reason, is to write a quick PM to them asking them to stop requesting. Works most of the time, but as mentioned above, after some time they forget and may start again. But most will honor a short request on a PM and not bother you again.
Same in the chat room now with PVT messages, they'll say hi, we'll say hi, then when they don't say anything else, I'll ask, "What can I do for you, you contacted me...." and they disappear once put on the spot
Kinda like calling someone on the phone and not saying anything....if ya got something to say, fine, but if not, don't PVT message us just to say hi, say it in open chat....
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Cheri Donna DawsonJan 26, 2010If someone has a profile that is less than acceptable to me, I deny them. I have denied people who have nothing in their profiles as well. Some times it does get a little old. People need to think before they think before they click "add as friend."
It's soooo easy to add a note when you want to add a friend; it's almost an insult to just have a friend request out of the blue.ReactReply - GAgator1Original PosterJan 26, 2010[quote]If someone has a profile that is less than acceptable to me, I deny them. I have denied people who have nothing in their profiles as well. Some times it does get a little old. People need to think before they think before they click "add as friend." It's soooo easy to add a note when you want to add a friend; it's almost an insult to just have a friend request out of the blue.[/quote] You're so correct on that...most little notes take all of 5 seconds. Takes longer to type in the verification code, lol! Gator1ReactReply
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catbirdJan 26, 2010[quote]Thanks! You guys are quick! I'll probably delete the old ones, leave the recent ones. Gator1[/quote] That's the way to go, deny the old ones and leave the recent ones. That would stop the repeat requests. The old ones have forgotten about you. I have a slew of old friend requests. I think I will put this recommendation to practice.ReactReply - GAgator1Original PosterJan 26, 2010[quote]Hi gator... how about if you invite me, and I deny you, then you'll know for sure if you get a message (Don't take the denial personally - this is for research only!) Like others here, if I deny a request I tend to follow it up with a message explaining why[/quote] We followed up on this, and I did not receive a notice of denial.ReactReply
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Curt, or CowboyJan 27, 2010[quote] it's almost an insult to just have a friend request out of the blue.[/quote] Or a compliment, but that does depend on the motives of the requestor, which we can't really know without a note of some sort I suppose. On the other hand, I may send a request to you if we've interacted on the forums, or you simply pen things that impress me, without a specific note.ReactReply - GAgator1Original PosterJan 27, 2010[quote][quote] it's almost an insult to just have a friend request out of the blue.[/quote] Or a compliment, but that does depend on the motives of the requestor, which we can't really know without a note of some sort I suppose. On the other hand, I may send a request to you if we've interacted on the forums, or you simply pen things that impress me, without a specific note.[/quote] LOL, unless it's someone that speaks a different language that might be unsure of themselves contacting me in English, I tend to think that those just want to see my pee-pee. My profile says very clearly that I probably won't accept a request without a note. Oh...also...this is cool...I ended up with a new friend, since Rick also wanted to know about what happens when you deny. We actually have something in common besides nudism, lol! Gator1ReactReply
- MEMemberJan 28, 2010Ok, so we’re shaking our heads and asking ourselves, ok, what is the point here? We get a number of people who frequently request ‘friends’ through TN. Most don’t read our profile and just send a request. What is a friend? Why do they want to be friends? What is their objective? This is a good case and point and also a ‘fact of life’ in today’s world, living online. A member here, who, in the past several weeks, had requested to be on our friends list multiple times without any other correspondence, i.e., chat room, forums, messages, and such, and not even knowing who we are, was sent this message by us on TN:“We know that you’ve requested to be friends numerous times, until you’re certified and establish a friendship with us, we won’t be accepting the invite. Please read our profile and unless you make contact first and we find something in common, please stop requesting us as friends, ty.”To our surprise they sent back this response which left both of us shaking our heads in amazement. Has today’s online environment become so mindless that any request for ‘effort’ has become too much to ask? This was their response:“ Don’t worry I won’t be asking you again as neither one of you are worth the effort.”Do you wind up shaking and scratching your head too? SReactReply
- PHPhilfreeeukJan 28, 2010Steve, I think we can be fairly confident, that the vast majority of friend requests are sent solely for the purpose of gaining access to nude pictures, (perhaps it should be called " Can I see your pics request") which just shows how dim these guys are, as it's obvious that much more explicit pics, can easily be found elsewhere. I suppose the attraction is, the possibility of being able to communicate with the person in question. The anonymity of the online venue, makes this a very different place to the traditional Sun Club, and we just have to adjust our ideas and behaviour, in order to deal with it.
ReactReply - COCurt, or CowboyJan 28, 2010[quote] To our surprise they sent back this response which left both of us shaking our heads in amazement. Has today’s online environment become so mindless that any request for ‘effort’ has become too much to ask? S[/quote] To some of us, on-line is merely another tool in the arsenal. To others, it's their whole life ! To those two disparate groups, "friend" has VERY different meanings, so it would seem.ReactReply
- MEMemberJan 28, 2010
How sad is it that some have to have a 'number of friends' to help them with their self worth... Get hobbies, find yourselves, then there will be grounds for conversations and friendships will indeed form....
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ReactReply - OROregongirlOct 19, 2010
^ this was answered 9 months ago
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