Grooming Standards and Expectations

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  Mike

  Aug 4, 2021

  I started removing hair quite a long time ago. And I was feeling better without so much hair. Shower, perspiration, etc...

  Now, I am shaving my armpits, and around my genitals too. It's regularly I am removing hair in these areas. I don't like it anymore.

  Why did I start ? I don't recall really. Mayne because of some society influence. But today, it's only personal. And I am not attending so much naturist places. Almost none. So it's not like it was to show myself to others. Just personal preference today.

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  Derekc5555

  Aug 6, 2021

  I prefer fully grown out for both me and my wife. Might not be the norm, but it's what I like.

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  Steve

  Aug 6, 2021

  I just leave it alone.

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  Brian

  Aug 6, 2021

  I don't live anywhere where I can be nude outside of my home or the locker room at the rec. center, so the society perception doesn't matter.
  I started shaving my pubic hair after my third child was born. My wife and I had decided no more kids. The procedure for me was cheaper and didn't require a hospital stay, so it was selected. The night before you need to shave. I really enjoyed being shaved. I didn't realize how often my hair was catching my foreskin and underwear. Then I would be uncomfortable until I resituated things. I didn't realize how much I was doing that until my wife also noticed that I was 'grabbing myself' less often.

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• ME

  Member

  Aug 8, 2021

  Really

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  M

  Aug 9, 2021

  Had to chuckle at this one a bit.. Grooming Standards and Expectations?? To my knowledge they don't exist. Be you.. If you like to shave or not that is up to you. If your pub hair is long enough, part it , braid it, get a perm ( well that is probably not a wise idea ). The point is do what makes you happy.

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  M

  Aug 9, 2021

  Agreed.. There does seem to be a lot of unnecessary anxiety about it. There are tons of topics on the subject. However this one was amusing to me. Never heard it asked quite this way before.

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  Paul

  Nov 22, 2021

  [quote]I don't live anywhere where I can be nude outside of my home or the locker room at the rec. center, so the society perception doesn't matter. I started shaving my pubic hair after my third child was born. My wife and I had decided no more kids. The procedure for me was cheaper and didn't require a hospital stay, so it was selected. The night before you need to shave. I really enjoyed being shaved. I didn't realize how often my hair was catching my foreskin and underwear. Then I would be uncomfortable until I resituated things. I didn't realize how much I was doing that until my wife also noticed that I was 'grabbing myself' less often.[/quote] I don't shave at all, & most of my friends are the same way. It's what I prefer. Yet if a friend wants to be smooth, go 4 it

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  roffdusen

  Nov 23, 2021

  Don't shave but trim most all my body hair that I can reach. No 2 inch chest hair for me. Don't trim all the time, but fairly regularly. If you are going nude in public it is the decent thing to do.
  You groom to go to work. Why not do same to go to nude beach?
  While body hair (and particularly pubic hair) looks okay on a young guy, it does not look good on an older nudist.
  Again, if you are going nude in public put your best foot forward.

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  Steve

  Nov 23, 2021

  I don't do it for anyone except myself. I think I started as my choice of swimbriefs started getting smaller. I didn't want any overflow beyond the edges, and found I liked the 'finer' look I achieved by plucking the longer thicker hairs and leaving only the shorter thinner ones to blend in with my body. Soon after the rest of my body got the thinning treatment with a #2 or #3 trimmer: as short as possible without looking obviously trimmed. Not bare, but not thick. I seem to need less sunscreen, too.

  I've kept that up for many years as I'm happy with the result, it's easy to achieve and if I neglect it for a while it's not obvious (and no stubble - I'd hate stubble!).

  Others may do as they please. Hairless looks good, especially when oiled, but trimmed or natural is fine too. More important to be enjoying your time, no matter how you present!

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  nudony

  Nov 23, 2021

  It's whatever you want it to be.

  In the beginning of our nudist journey, my wife noticed that the majority of nudist women were shaven; so she got the notion that she should be shaven too in order to "fit in." Even though she didn't enjoy the process to "get there" very much. Eventually she realized she didn't need to be totally smooth to blend in, so she settled on a simple and easy trim. And sometimes she forgets to do that before heading out to the resort; which is not an issue either.
  It makes me wonder how many nudist women (or men) shave because they feel they are expected to be hairless.

  I shave simply because at this point I am just used to it. But yeah...it actually does not matter at all.

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• ME

  Member

  Nov 24, 2021

  [quote]Gotta ask yourself... why would those (nudists) that are always preaching the friendliness and accepting attitudes of nudists, in general, seem so concerned about another's grooming practices (rolling eyes and shaking head). It's a personal choice and always has been. Whatever another nudist prefers doing about their body hair should just be accepted without rude or snide remarks.We had shaved pubes quite some time before it became a trend. My wife decided to go completely smooth on her own back in 1978. .[/quote]
  I'm going to answer that as....we now live in a society that critiques others or we need to act offended by others in order to fit in with one another. It's so much easier to do than to apply ones ownself. What a shame

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• ME

  Member

  Nov 24, 2021

  Easy answer .. when it starts getting caught in the zipper, it gets a trim.

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  2bnude4me

  Dec 3, 2021

  I noticed some years ago that most nudists were fully shaved at the clubs I visited, and most of the photos in media here at TN are people who shave. Anyway, I started shaving as I thought it was a nudist style, and I keep shaving as I like the look and feel.

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  Bill

  Dec 3, 2021

  The hairs down theres ~ if I had to put a number on it, maybe 80% of the people who live at our resort seem to like their privates without fur. Tidiness downstairs seems popular these days and I'm one of the ones who keeps it pretty smooth. Considering why I shave down there, I'd say it's mostly for my own love of the feel of nothing, that completely blank slate - it simply feels fabulous! It does challenge my razor and getting the hair off the scrotum almost always includes some nicks (OUCHY). The nice part is that area of the body heals utterly fast. My lady really loves body hair on me but understands my want for no fuzzy on my genitals, even helps me sometimes with the parts I find more difficult to manage. We make it a fun game when we shave each other, and those grooming sessions commonly end up with us heading not to the pool to show off our clean crotches but toward more amorous pursuits. Go figure!

  As nudists, in general, we don't get bossy about each other's hair styles, no matter what part of the body is being considered. It's about preferences and sometimes attraction, and both of those are different for everyone. I know some women who shave it all off every day and others who've never shaved themselves down there. I have one friend who thinks a shaven adult male looks pre-pubescent and she finds that completely sexually-inhibiting. Another friend shaves every inch of his body every day except his eyebrows! He and his partner eventually invested in a home electrolysis device and it keeps those pesky hair follicles from putting out for weeks.

  My take on it is sort of like tattoos that one can change on a whim. It can be a way to turn one's body into art, and if you look in the mirror when you're done and hate it, wait a few days and try something else. Why not! And prepare yourself - when you get to a certain age, many people find their genitals become bare without any help. That's right, it stops growing down there and then you're out of luck. Or in luck, depending on your preference.

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• ME

  Member

  Dec 3, 2021

  I keep it trimmed but not completely smooth because that requires too much upkeep and can get really itchy if you let stubble grow back for a few days. I only shave my face once a week or so, pubic hair trim a little less often. It is based on what I like and not any nudist expectations or norms.

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  nudony

  Jun 19, 2022

  My wife surprised me yesterday with an "announcement": this summer she will be going completely bald. She's even made the appointment.

  My initial thought was: "nice...but why now?" We've been socializing nude for a few years now; and she's always expressed a personal preference for "just a light trim." Is it because almost all the nudist women we've socialized with have been "smooth?" Did that finally get to her; and she now just wants to be like everyone else? Or is it that after years of nudism, she is now less self-conscious about her labia being clearly visible?

  The answer is actually simpler. She simply wants to try it. Just like she might try a different style of clothing. If she likes the way it feels and looks, she might keep it that way. If not, she might go back to just trimming. Either way won't change a thing in her participation in social nudity.

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  EarlD

  Jun 19, 2022

  Your grooming practices are your own and my grooming practices are my own. Your grooming preferences dont affect me and mine should not affect. When I encounter someone in a social nudity situation I have a focus on their personality and conversation not their pubic hair grooming preferences.

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  StevieLorna

  Jun 21, 2022

  Much like the hair on my head, on my face, in my ears and up my nose, I groom it to my preference, present fashions have no influence.

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  Bill

  Jun 21, 2022

  [quote]My wife surprised me yesterday with an "announcement": this summer she will be going completely bald. She's even made the appointment.[/quote] Can we all assume from this comment that your woman is going for a Brazilian wax job? My sweetie has been expressing her want to find a good waxer in this area (having given up on the razor for understandable reasons) with us only recently moving to the area permanently. With a nude resort in the region you'd think there would be salons nearby openly offering this type of service, but we haven't found them so far. Even living here in our cute naked community you might think it would be easy to start that conversation around the pool or hot tub, "I see you are bald downstairs. Do you do that yourself or where do you go?" It's good etiquette to not bring up body parts in the naked world but what's one to do when this situation comes up? I enjoy using the razor on myself, though there are parts I need assistance with. [quote]The answer is actually simpler. She simply wants to try it. Just like she might try a different style of clothing. If she likes the way it feels and looks, she might keep it that way. If not, she might go back to just trimming. Either way won't change a thing in her participation in social nudity.[/quote] Quite right. Adornment is personal and I consider hair choices to be the same, whether that be on your head or on your mound. Other people's personal preferences may surely make one either take a second glance or avert their eyes, but it's appropriate that in these moments one keep cool and not become that judgemental person we nudists do not appreciate. No matter what choice is made, I truly love the delight of difference in this bare nation we've become a part of.

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  M

  Jun 21, 2022

  [quote] Even living here in our cute naked community you might think it would be easy to start that conversation around the pool or hot tub, "I see you are bald downstairs. Do you do that yourself or where do you go?" It's good etiquette to not bring up body parts in the naked world but what's one to do when this situation comes up?[/quote] I wouldn't think it would be any different than asking for a recommendation for a Barbershop or Hair Salon. However, commenting on someones style down there might raise a few problems especially when you first meet them. But I don't think it would be crossing the line to ask if there are professionals in the area that offer those services.

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  Paul

  Jun 21, 2022

  Wild and woolly for me and if someone doesn't like it just too bad they are a sad fool.

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  EarlD

  Jun 21, 2022

  [quote]Much like the hair on my head, on my face, in my ears and up my nose, I groom it to my preference, present fashions have no influence.[/quote] Hahaha

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  EarlD

  Jun 21, 2022

  [quote] I completely agree, and as for expectations, they belong to other people and I feel no obligation to live up or down to them. No matter where you fall on the body hair or body shape spectrum, it's your personality that matters to me....and I hope you feel the same![/quote] To the point I focus on people and not parts

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