How do you respond? — General Discussion on True Nudists

noodengr2Original Poster

May 16, 2020

I just got a friend request with no intro info. When I looked at the profile it showed as private. So I have no idea about who the person is. Do you friend them to find out? Ignore them? Report it as spam? The curiosity in me says confirm the request just to find out. It is honestly not that big of deal on here if someone is my friend or not.

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Wayne
May 16, 2020
I delete those requests
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Tom D
May 16, 2020
[quote]I just got a friend request with no intro info. When I looked at the profile it showed as private. So I have no idea about who the person is. Do you friend them to find out? Ignore them? Report it as spam? The curiosity in me says confirm the request just to find out. It is honestly not that big of deal on here if someone is my friend or not. Ignore them, unless they send you a friendly message[/quote] I agree. I also decline those with essentially blank profiles and/or more friends than posts unless they send me a private message.
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Terry C
May 16, 2020
I do nothing with it, especially if they want to be friends. I tell them I require more information about them and pictures of them nude and with a face, or I will not respond further. I worry about whether some of these are fake especially when their story has little to nothing on it.
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Al
May 16, 2020
I also decline the friend request and block. I'm not all that curious about what's behind the wall.
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noodengr2Original Poster
May 16, 2020
I sent him a message which I have mentally given 24 hours to respond to. If nothing I will delete.
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Tom D
May 16, 2020
[quote]I also decline the friend request and block. I'm not all that curious about what's behind the wall.[/quote] I don't block unless I get repeated requests or inappropriate private messages
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Member
May 16, 2020
I received a similar request today. The profile was totally private.
I sent the person a response, stating I do not accept friend requests from private profiles.
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Mcdcvs
May 16, 2020
I ask them for information about them. Most dont respond so I decline and block. Only 1 has responded and we had a good conversation but they were unwillIng to share anything personal and they retracted their request. I guess it was okay for them to know personal information about me from my profile but I cant know anything about them.
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Jonathan
May 16, 2020
I just decline all friend requests unless its from an actual friend. It's not like at preschool where you tap someone on the shoulder and say "pwease can we be fwiends?" Even the ones who say "Hi" or some such. I can't see why you need to send a "friend request" in the first place, if you want to get to know someone, send a message. Like with all friendships, if you get on, then it will naturally develop and you reveal a bit more about yourself (in the case of online, by accepting a friend request) once you are friends and build up trust. A tap on the shoulder and asking to be my friend will get nowhere.
I had one last week from a guy who explicitly said in his profile not to send unsolicited friend requests. Mine says the same. I just replied by copy and pasting his profile text then my profile text.
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Steve
May 16, 2020
I ignore them. I figure if somebody is so obtuse as to send a friend request with no information about themselves whatsoever, they're not someone I want to know. I have never blocked anyone, nor felt the need to - maybe because I have no private pictures for people to angle for, orbecause I'm an older guy who doesn't interest most of the odder folks among the membership.
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Mike
May 16, 2020
I delete the request. Sometimes, depending on my mood, if it's from a locked/private profile, i'll send a short msg back to them and say something like "why would i want to be your friend when i don't even know anything about you".
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Mcdcvs
May 16, 2020
[quote]I can't see why you need to send a "friend request" in the first place, .[/quote] On TN and other social media platforms, when someone you are friends with post something, you see it. You can respond as well. Although, if it is not a group that you are a member of, you should just message your friend your response. One of the bugs here is that Private groups are not that private.
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Dancin' Dan (prone to dance)
May 16, 2020
in the 1st paragraph of my profile, " DO NOT send Friend Requests without exchanging a few messages.".
when i get one of those out of the blue requests. i simply decline and block, for their failure to apply common courtesy.
if they don't glance at the beginning of my profile, then we have nothing to talk about.
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Bryant
May 16, 2020
I don't get many requests from private profiles, but I get too many from young females who have only been members a few hours and their profile is telling me to contact them on another site. I report these as scams or fakes because I am sure that is what they are. I will generally accept a request from someone with a filled out profile without hesitation but I do check them out before accepting. I do resent that people with private profiles can check me out but I cannot do the same with them.
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Newbie59
May 16, 2020
If it's a private profile I immediately block them. I don't trust a private profile and don't want them to have access to my profile!
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ShavedNudist27
May 16, 2020
When I get a friend request, I first send them a PM. I ask how long they have been a nudist and a little about myself. If I get a replay and we chat a few times then approve the request. If the person has a private profile or one with very little info, then I decline.
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Mark
May 17, 2020
[quote]in the 1st paragraph of my profile, " DO NOT send Friend Requests without exchanging a few messages.". when i get one of those out of the blue requests. i simply decline and block, for their failure to apply common courtesy. if they don't glance at the beginning of my profile, then we have nothing to talk about.[/quote] I have something similar on my profile, of course that does not stop them since a lot of them do not read the profile, just look at the pictures. I have taken many of my pictures "Friends Only" or Certified Only to slow down the pic collectors. And I always delete the friend requests wit the message to see a website.
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Zeke
May 17, 2020
Well at first on here I just ignored them, declined. Over time I've changed my views regarding private profiles. I will send a short msg stating that to give me some information about themselves and to complete "what nudism means to them". If they choose not to reply, then I delete their request. Those that send a reply with info about themselves and what nudism mean to them, I can evaluate them. Granted I don't get many request from blank profiles since have a detail profile (some say I'm rather transparent), they are not on TN for the same reasons I am. I seldom block profiles, not worth the time unless they spam me or won't go away. I've found that there are far more individuals on TN that are good individuals than there is bad ones.
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noodengr2Original Poster
May 17, 2020
I just clicked on the outstanding "friend" request profile. Instead of saying this is a private account it now reads " this person has blocked you, it is best to leave this person alone". That is a classy way to treat me considering they were the one to send me the friend request....NOT
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ZachB
May 19, 2020
[quote]I respond several different ways. If there are no comments, I'll take a look at their profile but I rarely block anyone. I don't think I have any pics that are "friends only" anyway. I'm fairly transparent. If they have hundreds or thousands of friends, and that seems to be all they do, I decline and move on. It also depends on which of my media they visit and how often. I also decline the ones who are the cuties who have just joined hours ago who are trying to lure you to some other site. The more interesting profiles, I may ask them why they want to be friends. If they are just wanting to follow my posts , I'll sometimes accept them. If I don't get a response, decline, move on. Some may be visiting my profile to read my previous posts. That's okay with me, I hope I'm entertaining. I try to be when I get on a roll. After nearly 4 years here, I have barely 100 friends. I'm quite selective. It's either locals, those I like to follow for their posts and/or people I converse with. I just don't see the need to block people unless I've determined they are here for unsavory reasons. There was someone I friended a while back. We had some interesting conversations. I was being an open book, sharing some deeper perspectives than I typically do. They, on the other hand, were not reciprocating equally, almost uncomfortably so. So I just quit conversing and moved on. I just don't feel the need to "block" so quickly. What does it really accomplish anyway? It's like flies, they buzz around, you shoo them away. If they become pests, out comes the "block" swatter to end it permanently and be done![/quote] I really see no need to block anyone. If I have, Im sorry. Or, if someone has blocked me, its ok but unnecessary. Ill never bother anyone. Heres a good one: So, a person blocked me. Then, a month or two later, this person sends a private message inviting me to hang out. Yes, Id like to hang, but no way to accept. :-)
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