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BorisOct 29, 2010for what it's worth I'd say just be there for him. If you can get him to talk. If not to you to someone, the parson, rabbi or school councillor. I could be that he is being bullied at school or something is not right else where in his life. he could be jealous of the dog thinking that your mom loves it more than him. it may sound silly but it does happen. Get him to open up over a beer may help.
ReactReply - OROregongirlOriginal PosterOct 29, 2010Thanks for the support guys. I forgot to mention that he is in serious therapy and on some major anti depressants right now. Hedoesget bullied in school and thats a huge issue for him but nothing seems to help. I know its a bad thing to say but being bullied has become a part of growing up. There's really no excuse for it to affect him to this extent. I honest to goodness think he's just crazy. And I can't sit down and talk with him we live 2000 miles apart now. I'd love to just be able to bring him out here to live with me but my parents wouldn't hear of it. Edit - Thanks Bruce :) You're right in pointing out that we've had disagreements in the past as I spent a lot of my youth raising him while my parents were at work. But a lot of the barrier between us stems from the betrayal he feels from me when I moved across the country. I am agnostic and my stepdad likes to talk a lot about "the good Lord" etc etc. But in reality he does not ever go to church and has no ties to anyone in a church community. It was a good idea though, and I'll take your advice and try to start calling him every day. Starting tomorrow, after I calm down about the incident with the dog.ReactReply
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stevefinneyOct 29, 2010quit playing around, girl! get the safe and make sure your mother usues it!!! if he does something really stupid with the items, your mom could be complicit in the eyes of the law. Get the safe!
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jasonOct 29, 2010if he is being bullied at school, then it sounds like the school dropped the ball or is gong with the nimby defense. there is a school in the cleveland suburbs that was sued because the school did nothing to prevent bullying. it only took the horrifying event of 3 suicides in less than a year to bring the seriousnes of the problem to light.
if he is being bullied then get that issue dealt with, it may not be the cure all but it may help resolve some of the anger. at the worse it will bring the problem to the forefront and prevent others from being bullied. if your brother is being bullied there is a good chance others are as well.
and btw, giving a minor with anger issues a beer isn't going to resolve anything, it may just end up with you being charged with contributing to the deliquency of a minor.ReactReply