Is it ok to...?

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  Terry

  Jul 16, 2009

  [quote]Is it ok to complement nudists on their naked bodies?[/quote]  Hmmmmm, I'd go down the path of not being specific just as you would with clothed folks. In others words I always tell some women at work or at the club that they look lovely or magnificent or very attractive today, etc. Even with guys you can keep it general with things like, "You look like you keep in shape." I wouldn't go the route of, "My, your breasts look wonderful." Or, "I love the way you've shaved down there." If you wouldn't say it to someone dressed you probably shouldn't say it nude.

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• ME

  Member

  Jul 16, 2009

  The same social manners and etiquite exist in the nudist world as does the textile world.  Don't say anything here that you wouldn't say to someone who's textiled.
  
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• CO

  

  Curt, or Cowboy

  Jul 16, 2009

  In a VERY general way, depending on context.
  Dangerous territory unless you know someone already.  Even then, risky depdnding on how well you know them.

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  UKrudegirl

  Jul 16, 2009

  The big problem with a lot of people today is that their heads are so far up their PC a***  they don't know how to take a compliment!  Personally I receive them in the spirit they are given and smile.(I also smile at strangers as they pass by and wish folks a 'Good Morrow' on public streets - it confuses the hell out of most of them)Love n stuffRudiexx

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• ME

  Member

  Jul 16, 2009

  [quote]The big problem with a lot of people today is that their heads are so far up their PC a***  they don't know how to take a compliment!  Personally I receive them in the spirit they are given and smile.(I also smile at strangers as they pass by and wish folks a 'Good Morrow' on public streets - it confuses the hell out of most of them)Love n stuffRudiexx[/quote]    Lol, Rudie, I do the same - response?  UTTER CONFUSION!  (Hmmm, if I'm nude at the time, would that be udder confusion?)   Nothing wrong with compliments - who doesn't enjoy receiving them?  But again, agree with my husband and many others here, same rules apply textile or nude - for me anyway.   Jen

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  Thomas

  Jul 16, 2009

  [quote][quote]The big problem with a lot of people today is that their heads are so far up their PC a***  they don't know how to take a compliment!  Personally I receive them in the spirit they are given and smile.(I also smile at strangers as they pass by and wish folks a 'Good Morrow' on public streets - it confuses the hell out of most of them)Love n stuffRudiexx[/quote]     Lol, Rudie, I do the same - response?  UTTER CONFUSION!  (Hmmm, if I'm nude at the time, would that be udder confusion?)   Nothing wrong with compliments - who doesn't enjoy receiving them?  But again, agree with my husband and many others here, same rules apply textile or nude - for me anyway.   Jen[/quote] I also love getting compliments, would think most people would.  The key thing here is keeping the compliments non sexual.  In this age of sexual harrassment suits some will take it the wrong way. Here in Texas, a smile and good morning  will get the same in return.  The only time you get udder confusion is if you are walking through pasture and talk to the cows.  LOL

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• SW

  Swifthawk

  Jul 16, 2009

  [quote][quote][quote]The big problem with a lot of people today is that their heads are so far up their PC a***  they don't know how to take a compliment!  Personally I receive them in the spirit they are given and smile.(I also smile at strangers as they pass by and wish folks a 'Good Morrow' on public streets - it confuses the hell out of most of them)Love n stuffRudiexx[/quote]      Lol, Rudie, I do the same - response?  UTTER CONFUSION!  (Hmmm, if I'm nude at the time, would that be udder confusion?)   Nothing wrong with compliments - who doesn't enjoy receiving them?  But again, agree with my husband and many others here, same rules apply textile or nude - for me anyway.   Jen[/quote] I also love getting compliments, would think most people would.  The key thing here is keeping the compliments non sexual.  In this age of sexual harrassment suits some will take it the wrong way. Here in Texas, a smile and good morning  will get the same in return.  The only time you get udder confusion is if you are walking through pasture and talk to the cows.  LOL[/quote]   lmao...Tx, you took the words right out of my mouth.  Lawsuits scare the hell out of me and while I'm not overly PC I'm VERY careful when it comes to anything remotely sexual.  Have seen too many people get canned or sued for some off coloured remark. lol...I really need to get out of the insurance industry, my wife says it's making me paronoid. lol

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  Curt, or Cowboy

  Jul 16, 2009

  In a nudist environment, I'd expect folks to be much more like Rudie, and take it in stride, or in the manner intended, but one can never tell.
  Stories, like the law suit a few years ago, where two gents at Easter and near the candy dish, one made the comment that he preferred light milk chocolate to dark chocolate. Perfectly innocent. WELL....
  The very dark and very over-weight "person of color" in the cubicle behind the wall, overheard and sued for "racial slurs" creating an uncomfortable workplace.
  Rediculous ? Of course, but even though he won, at what cost to defend against stupidity ?
  Perhaps it's just the head planted firmly where the sun don't shine in the USA, but it must give one pause.

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• UK

  

  UKrudegirl

  Jul 16, 2009

  [quote][quote][/quote]   Nothing wrong with compliments - who doesn't enjoy receiving them?  But again, agree with my husband and many others here, same rules apply textile or nude - for me anyway.   Jen[/quote]Hmmm well nude makes it tricky for the compliments like 'lovely top' or 'nice skirt' etc.  'Nice arse' I take as a compliment to be honest ... athough if it is then grabbed I have been known to break an assailants nose.The UK and Europe is not yet quite as litigious as the USA (another good reason for me not to cross the Atlantic) but I do appreciate the fears expressed regarding giving compliments.Love n stuffRudiex

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• SW

  Swifthawk

  Jul 16, 2009

  [quote][quote][quote][/quote]    Nothing wrong with compliments - who doesn't enjoy receiving them?  But again, agree with my husband and many others here, same rules apply textile or nude - for me anyway.   Jen[/quote]Hmmm well nude makes it tricky for the compliments like 'lovely top' or 'nice skirt' etc.  'Nice arse' I take as a compliment to be honest ... athough if it is then grabbed I have been known to break an assailants nose.The UK and Europe is not yet quite as litigious as the USA (another good reason for me not to cross the Atlantic) but I do appreciate the fears expressed regarding giving compliments.Love n stuffRudiex[/quote]   Hehe...You wait Rudie, it will come.  Lloyds of London has finally allowed women to work in the building.  I think this was done within the last 10 years, but anyways, the underwriters I've dealt with there were the biggest bunch of pigs (lol...in my opinion) that it's only a matter of time before the ladies there get tired of it and sue their arses off. lol

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  RandyVon

  Jul 16, 2009

  I think it is important for people to keep their manners about them in any environment, especially one that can be as sensitive as a nudist environment, but on the other hand I think it is equally important for people to have a sense of humor and to not overreact.
  
  At a recent visit to Rock Haven in Tennessee, I was approched by a man who stated "you have a nice body" I didn't think this was appropriate, mostly by the way he was acting, how it was out of nowhere, and how he was rubbing sun lotion all over himself and used it as an opportunity to touch himself inappropriately. This was not at all flattering and made me feel uncomfortable and self-conscious. however, later that day Randy and I were walking to some lawn chairs by the pool and an elderly man commented about how my hat looked very practical *I think he was poking fun at the fact that the straw hat I was wearing looked like it needed to retire, lol* and that was fine, we both had a good laugh at my scraggly hat and we went on with our days. I think common sense dictates what is appropriate and what is not.
  )O( Von

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• ME

  Member

  Jul 16, 2009

  [quote]Well a compliment must be a compliment, not a mere appreciation on someone's sexual attraction. This is the only difference, with or without clothes ![/quote]    Very well stated, Peter, merci beaucoup!   Jen

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  UKrudegirl

  Jul 16, 2009

  [quote]Hehe...You wait Rudie, it will come.  Lloyds of London has finally allowed women to work in the building.  I think this was done within the last 10 years, but anyways, the underwriters I've dealt with there were the biggest bunch of pigs (lol...in my opinion) that it's only a matter of time before the ladies there get tired of it and sue their arses off. lol[/quote]Oh we have other ways of dealing with those of the porcine pursuasion that doesn't line the pockets of lawyers.lolLove n stuffRudiex

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  UKrudegirl

  Jul 16, 2009

  [quote]Well a compliment must be a compliment, not a mere appreciation on someone's sexual attraction. This is the only difference, with or without clothes ![/quote]Hmmm interesting statement - soooo ... if someone compliments me on my attractiveness thats not actually a compliment ?  My goodness, I think that has just removed 95% of the personal compliments I get !Love n stuffRudiexx

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• ME

  Member

  Jul 16, 2009

  [quote][quote]Well a compliment must be a compliment, not a mere appreciation on someone's sexual attraction. This is the only difference, with or without clothes ![/quote]Hmmm interesting statement - soooo ... if someone compliments me on my attractiveness thats not actually a compliment ?  My goodness, I think that has just removed 95% of the personal compliments I get !Love n stuffRudiexx[/quote]   Lol, Rudie...I think what Peter is saying is that it's the difference between saying, "Wow! You are a beautiful woman, or "You have a terrific body" as opposed to "nice tits, lady" or "nice ass, babe".  It's all in the delivery.  But, then again, maybe it makes no difference.  To some.   Jen

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  UKrudegirl

  Jul 16, 2009

  [quote][quote][quote]Well a compliment must be a compliment, not a mere appreciation on someone's sexual attraction. This is the only difference, with or without clothes ![/quote]Hmmm interesting statement - soooo ... if someone compliments me on my attractiveness thats not actually a compliment ?  My goodness, I think that has just removed 95% of the personal compliments I get !Love n stuffRudiexx[/quote]   Lol, Rudie...I think what Peter is saying is that it's the difference between saying, "Wow! You are a beautiful woman, or "You have a terrific body" as opposed to "nice tits, lady" or "nice ass, babe".  It's all in the delivery.  But, then again, maybe it makes no difference.  To some.   Jen[/quote]I'll take sincerity over semantics any day sweetheart - I 'read' people for a living.heheLove n stuffRudiex

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• ME

  Member

  Jul 16, 2009

  [quote][quote][quote][quote]Well a compliment must be a compliment, not a mere appreciation on someone's sexual attraction. This is the only difference, with or without clothes ![/quote]Hmmm interesting statement - soooo ... if someone compliments me on my attractiveness thats not actually a compliment ?  My goodness, I think that has just removed 95% of the personal compliments I get !Love n stuffRudiexx[/quote]   Lol, Rudie...I think what Peter is saying is that it's the difference between saying, "Wow! You are a beautiful woman, or "You have a terrific body" as opposed to "nice tits, lady" or "nice ass, babe".  It's all in the delivery.  But, then again, maybe it makes no difference.  To some.   Jen[/quote]I'll take sincerity over semantics any day sweetheart - I 'read' people for a living.heheLove n stuffRudiex[/quote]   LMAO! Good answer, Rudie. Not sure it works for me, I prefer both.  But doesn't matter.  Still a good answer!   Jen

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• BA

  

  BarefootBill

  Jul 16, 2009

  A compliment is a compliment. I used to be very nervous about them, but someone told me "Thank you" suffices as an appropriate response.

  Be polite even if they are not.

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