I was in chat earlier and a new lady joined in the talk. She became overwhelmed with PM's and asked on screen for everyone to please stop so she could chat. Many still insisted on sending PM's so she asked again for it to stop. I told her about the flagging option for those who continued to ask her why she wouldnt PM with them, and the room cleared out like a frat party during a campus raid. One decided to stay and proceed to argue about being in the right when it came to PM's. He also claimed that if someone didnt want to PM that they should leave the site.
For all you ladies out there who experience this, you do not have to PM if you dont want to. Do not be bullied out of the chat room by someone with no understanding of respect for others. If you are harassed, flag them. If you are confronted with sexual messages, flag them. They can go somewhere else for all that. You ladies stand up for yourselves in there. You have the right to chat without defending yourself for no reason.
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- MEMemberMar 4, 2010
Did she or anyone flag the one member that persisted?
SteveReactReply - BLblueiron35Original PosterMar 4, 2010
Yes. She flagged the one that called her names for not wanting to PM. I flagged him also for being a ... well for being rude and offensive.
ReactReply - MEMemberMar 4, 2010
She should also know that she can disable PM. Go to: options (located in upper right of chat window) uncheck "accept private messages".
The first private message she gets after doing this a box will pop up asking he rto accept or decline. Before she declines she should check the box that says "Do not show me this message again".
If someone then harasses her in the chat room about not accepting pm's she should flag that person AND block their profile. This was she doesn't have to read the crap they're typing anymore.
Hope this helps!
JenReactReply - BLblueiron35Original PosterMar 4, 2010
Thanks Jen. I told some of the new people to hit the forum and get a feel for the site. Hopefully today in chat wont run off some future certifides.
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DMar 4, 2010Amen! It is a shame that some guys just don't understand the word "NO"
ReactReply - DDMar 4, 2010
Rant all you want Sweetness. You have that right just like you have to right to say NO to guys like that or anyone else that you choose, including me.
ReactReply - MRmrnature30Mar 4, 2010
yea i must say it was sad to see again , after i stand up for the new lady , the guy had a go at me too , i think he was truly in the wrong and must be flaged and named , it is so sad to see the ladys are to sceard to chat on here because off stupid guys , i luv pm , but if i dont get a response off the person i leave it , this bloody guys scear all the ladys away. There must be somthing more we can do than only flag and block !!!!!!!
ReactReply - BLblueiron35Original PosterMar 4, 2010
I noticed him going after you too mrnature. He was after anyone who was telling him to calm down.
ReactReply - MRmrnature30Mar 4, 2010
yea he was not very nice , and he is still in there , just feel sorry for the next person !!!!!
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ThomasMar 4, 2010[quote]Yes. She flagged the one that called her names for not wanting to PM. I flagged him also for being a ... well for being rude and offensive.[/quote] Good for you Blue, I only wish I has been there to join you in the flagging. There are a lot of wonderful people on here and they are very helpful. Too bad the ones who get noticed are the troublemakers.ReactReply - BLblueiron35Original PosterMar 4, 2010[quote]It is more than a few undesirables pestering the females in chat. I know it is very annoying and I do not like to even turn my cam on for public view anymore because that causes all sorts of nasty PMs to pop up. Among some of you nice people of course!! It's not that I mind chatting, but the rudies really just have way too much fun with it. I wish there was a more strict guideline for chatting in the chatroom now, but I guess that would scare off new members even more. But I am not afraid of the creepers! One stubborn girl here.[/quote] Stubborn is good, it keeps you from giving up.ReactReply
- GE
Gerry-4Mar 5, 2010The more I hear about chat, the happier I am that I never go there.
ReactReply - MEMemberMar 5, 2010
Gerry, one of the problems is that all you (general not personal) ever hear on the forum are the problems that happen in chat. Rarely does anyone feel the need to post when it's been a fun time. And it can be a lot of fun and a great way to meet people - that's why so many keep using it even after they've had an unpleasant experience. You learn over time to not take the garbage personally and block and flag those who are acting like idiots. Can't tell you how many times I've had men who were violating the chat room rules turn off their cam after I told them I was sorry that they felt it necessary to show me their shortcomings, lol.
Sweetness, spend some time here on the forum, it will give you a better sense of the site as a whole. Truenudists really is the best one out there. We tried 3 or 4 before we found TN. And we occassionally look at other sites just to see.
Dove, I'm so glad you're back. And so sorry that we're rarely in chat at the same time. I've been looking forward to getting to know you better.
It really is important to flag those who are abusing the rules of the chatroom. You don't have to argue with them or even engage in conversation. If they're violating the 6 very simple rules they agree to EVERY time they enter the chat room, then flag them. It's anonymous and one of the rules (#5) we all agree to when we enter chat. It's the only way to keep them at bay.
JenReactReply - MEMemberMar 5, 2010[quote]She should also know that she can disable PM. Go to: options (located in upper right of chat window) uncheck "accept private messages". The first private message she gets after doing this a box will pop up asking he rto accept or decline. Before she declines she should check the box that says "Do not show me this message again". If someone then harasses her in the chat room about not accepting pm's she should flag that person AND block their profile. This way she doesn't have to read the crap they're typing anymore. Hope this helps! Jen[/quote] Quoting myself just to make sure any newbies to chat see how to disable the private messages.ReactReply
- BLblueiron35Original PosterMar 5, 2010
After reading Jens last post I realized I was not fair to the chatroom. I dont chat much due to my turtle like typing skills but Im trying to do it more often. I have met some really cool people in chat and have even set up a day to get a drink with a TN'r who lives about 30 minutes from me. It is a great chatroom for the most part. Jen is right, the only times you here about chat in the forum is when its a complaint. That is not the majority of the time. There are plenty of fires started here in the forum, they just take a little longer to blow over.
I have had the chance to talk with a lot of people in chat that otherwise would have taken weeks to speak with through messages. Dont let the negative things you here about chat keep you from wanting to pop in every now and again. There are a lot of cool people who just prefer the spedy pace of chat as opposed to the forum. I think everyone should give it a try before drawing a conclusion. I had no urge to really chat until I met some people who were talking about some of my interests and so I joined in the conversation and had a great time.
Short of it is, the chat room has its bad and its good just like the forum. At least pop in for a while and watch the conversations. You might find out there are a bunch of people who have the same interests as yourself.ReactReply - CD
Cheri Donna DawsonMar 5, 2010I've been in chat 2x this week and found it okay. Maybe I'm lucky.
ReactReply - THThomasMar 5, 2010
Jen made a valid point, normally people don't post in here about the fun times in chat. It was through the chat mainly that I have met 20 people in person from here. One was a lady who had only been a home nudist before, she was comfortable joining us because of having to get to know us in the chat.
ThomasReactReply - GEGerry-4Mar 5, 2010
I'll take your word for it, Jen and the others. Maybe someday, I'll have a chance to get on regularly. At least I have access to Forum for now.
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PhilfreeeukMar 5, 2010[quote]ive had a few bad experiences as well in chat :( but no worse than some things that happen at a club or in a bar. the world is not free of jerks unfortunately. and its not just guys. ive been stalked in a lez bar. but i still luv to go clubbing --we r going to soho tonite:) so i guess i will still go to chat. its a nice break when i get bored studying ---which is all the time lol. in fact i often chat from the computers at uni! ive learned about the block and flag. and its just the internet after all, the creepies cant jump out of the screen. so see u there---but please dont be rude. have a happy weknd kisses () judith[/quote] Hi Judithg, thanks for saying that, it's always nice to see a positive comment about the chatroom. As has been said before, the forum usually only gets to hear when girls are being hounded, and that is bound to put more girls off from trying it. So hopefully your positive attitude will encourage a few more to have a look. (you too Neko) I wish this old box would let me in there, I would make the pervs so sick of me, they would all leave the site before TT had time to boot them off. I see this is your first forum post, so welcome to the forum, now that you've found us, don't forget we're here, cos we can be a lot of fun too! and don't forget too, if you get certified, you will have access to the certified forums. You certainly look like you know how to cheer someone up, so I really hope we do see more of you here. I won't send you a request, I expect your in-box has enough of those, (it'll probably get even more now you've posted on here :( but mine doesn't, and as I am a, very, VERY "select" male, I'd be very happy to receive one from you, just to balance up my list you understand, guys are ok, but they are sooooooo guyish :( and girls definitely are more fun, and do look, sooooooo much better!
Oh, and if you haven't already, check out theSite Tipson the FAQ group,
and thewelcome thread.Hope you have a great night out to-night!
ReactReply - MEMemberMar 5, 2010
See everyone? The flagging system does work! Just sometimes maybe not as fast as we'd like it too...
JenReactReply - JA
JackNeilsonMar 5, 2010Welcome the forum Judith. I don't use chat so haven't had the opportunity to meet you there. Hope you will enjoy the forum as well as chat as there are some very interesting posts here and some great people. As Phil said you will probably be inundated with friend requests but you can be very selective in who you choose and it will slow down. Have a great time this evening in Soho.
CheersReactReply - JA
jasonMar 5, 2010being certied doesn't neccessarily mean anyting, it just means you submitted the two required pictures. as long as you send the pictures in then its pretty much automatic that you are certified. a few members with certified status have been flagged for questionable profiles. the guy that thought pms were a mandatory neccessity of the site should b eth eone to leave since he obviously has no clue. chat is for chatting with people in the chatroom not being bombarded with pms and dealing with the mental capacity of garden slug.
ReactReply - PHPhilfreeeukMar 5, 2010[quote]Well just got on and did a search for the person who did this and his profile has been pulled, So im glad to see that justice was served. Be Well and Nude everyone!! [/quote] Brilliant, that's one less moron. Well done Blue and Sweetness, and thanks for telling us Dove.ReactReply
- GA
gabareMar 5, 2010i feel sorry for the ladies on here i'm sure they are overwhelmed with contacts, and as for the chat i gave up on it months ago rather message back in forth on forum or groups just my personal choice.
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