Trophies

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• FU

  

  FullSun

  Jan 23, 2021

  Yep, just like Facebook and other sites there are people that just friend ever so they can brag about how many friends they have. I even say in my profile, if I havent exchanged messages with you etc I wont friend you but people send friend requests anyway without even a simple note.

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• JO

  

  John

  Jan 23, 2021

  I find it interesting that I have only ten friends on this site, and two of them are on this thread. But then, most of my friends are local to me geographically (or have been), which explains why I've befriended them. (And, yes, "befriend" is a word. It predates "friend" as a verb, but you don't see in around much anymore.)

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• TO

  

  Tony

  Jan 23, 2021

  I never understood the need for trophies or massive collections of "friends" on sites. After 7 years here, I've amassed a collection of 2. I have received several requests over the years, but considering that 99% were from spammers it didn't leave much to choose from. Even my Facebook account after more than a dozen years has only accumulated about 20 friends.

  I personally don't send requests. Since I'm a single male, regardless of my profile showing that I am in a relationship, I feel that my requests would be viewed as suspicious by most. Therefore I won't waste my time, or anyone else's.

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• ME

  Member

  Jan 24, 2021

  I never practiced sending friend request. I have only a few times in the 9 yrs now. Example I read Andydi's content for a few years before I felt a good groove and most know I co-mod now some of his groups . I don't reach out and friend request females for certain.

  Heck we have close nudist couple friends for years and if I want to communicate with the wife I have Luann call them. I know that I could call or text them without an issue I'm just not comfortable in doing so. Perhaps I'm a little quirky, friends that we we have been naked with for many years I don't care to talk to the female unless Luann has me on speaker or hands me the phone.

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• ME

  Member

  Jan 24, 2021

  To me a few good, real friends who are there for you when you need somebody (and vice versa), who you can have both joyful and serious conversations with, is worth infinite more then having I don't know how many "friends" you almost always never hear anything from and make you feel you are just a number on their list.

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• PA

  

  Paul

  Jan 24, 2021

  [quote]To me a few good, real friends who are there for you when you need somebody (and vice versa), who you can have both joyful and serious conversations with, is worth infinite more then having I don't know how many "friends" you almost always never hear anything from and make you feel you are just a number on their list.[/quote] Well said as a few good ones are far better than many who aren't there when you need them even if for a chat on the phone.

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• GO

  

  Gordy57

  Jan 24, 2021

  My motto.

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• MC

  

  Mcdcvs

  Jan 25, 2021

  I learned early on that this site is not like Facebook. I sent probably 100 friend request that first day. As a newbie, I was looking for guidance and was hoping that those I reached out to would be kind and helpful. I soon learned that most of the people I reached out to had not logged on in years and the others were mostly not interested in befriending a single male. The ones that did accept my request are for the most part friend collectors.

  No I know that you dont have to be a friend with someone to have a conversation. Forums and DM works just fine.

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• ME

  Member

  Jan 25, 2021

  [quote]Not weird, just old fashioned. Gender segregation in friendships is becoming ever less important though, thankfully. At least in western nations.[/quote] Foremost I don't want even a hint of impropriety on my part even though all our friends know Luann and I are connected at the hip. The mindset set in me prolly started way when back with my Ex. I would get a 30 minute lecture for calling an 80 yr old customer "honey" when I would be calming her down about a technical equipment problem. That happened about 3200 times so it got drilled in my hard head. :(

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• ME

  Member

  Jan 27, 2021

  [quote]People with 1000 friends are the same ones that love their participation trophies.[/quote] It's not always easy being a trophy husband ya know ! :D :D

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• ST

  

  Steve

  Jan 27, 2021

  Since I'm here for the forum side of things, the few friend requests I've made have been to those who make regular and interesting contributions. I've generally accepted requests on the assumption others may want to follow my posts. Sometimes I trawl others' feeds as a way to find interesting threads.

  Even then, if there were better ways of following threads (like subscribing), I'd probably just use that.

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• YT

  

  YT

  Feb 10, 2021

  Like many on TN I sent out a number of friend requests the first few days on the website. A few accepted and replied, most did not which is fine. I have never been one to have the largest number of friends as quality and integrity hold more value to me. I only request friendship from those that I feel I have some common interest or can relate to on some level.

  Funny thing I have noticed over the years is that I have many different and distinct friend groups separated by activity. Having friends that span multiple activities is very, very rare to non-existent in my experience. Maybe I have just have too many interests?

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• ME

  Member

  Feb 13, 2021

  All I know is I am married to who I think my trophy is who chose me. Go figure ?? Perhaps I am the trophy ? :D

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• TD

  

  Tom D

  Feb 16, 2021

  [quote]I doubt you can make friends on social media. Make friends in real life.It is possible to make friends online. If they're local and you meet up with them it's not too uncommon at all. As for making purely online friends that last more than a couple of years? Very, very rare. But it does happen. Of course always there is a probability that everything happens. Just try to get the point.[/quote] I do have a few on other sites that I have kept in touch with for longer than that. Since I have only been messaging people on this site for less than 4 years, I can't say for certain how long I will maintain virtual friendships but I expect it will be the same as the others.

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• SA

  

  Stone Andy

  Feb 16, 2021

  "Trophies" entails seeing people as objects and "friend" as a verb is a computer click. Neither deal with relationships or quality of life.
  I have more friends on this site than I correspond with. Some will text back and forth and we get distracted and pick it up again, others I enjoy following their threads, and yet others lose interest in the site and I delete them if they're not active after several months. I'm fortunate to have met several from TN to make real world friends.
  Since this is "social" networking I don't accept private profiles and avoid people who are new on the site without certification. But if they express a genuine interest and willingness to communicate, I'll accept..
  I could care less about metrics but wish to show respect for others. "Re + spect = to look at twice"

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• ME

  Member

  Feb 17, 2021

  [quote]All I know is I am married to who I think my trophy is who chose me. Go figure ?? Perhaps I am the trophy ? :D[/quote]
  
  I feel the same way. My wife is the most remarkable woman Ive ever met and Im proud to be her husband. Every now and then...she gives me the look and I know shes the one for me. I chuckle & tell folks I almost jumped out of a moving vehicle the first time I saw her but its true. Im a lucky guy. Its been 38 years & counting but never enough...YES!!!

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