Why do people cancel their membership here? — General Discussion on True Nudists

johnwsligerOriginal Poster

May 30, 2011

From another nudist site to which I also belong, "I also used to have pictures on TrueNudist but I cancelled my membership
to that site because the people on there are a bunch of stuck-up,
arrogant, egotistical snobs."

John

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Aquanaturist
May 30, 2011
[quote]From another nudist site to which I also belong, "I also used to have pictures on TrueNudist but I cancelled my membership to that site because the people on there are a bunch of stuck-up, arrogant, egotistical snobs." John[/quote] Well, I can kind of relay to that! There are some "know it all" persons on this forum, just look at the numer of posts they have. Almost like spaming!
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ocmick
May 30, 2011
Most good people just can't deal with all the pervs...the mods do a great job but it's an uphill battle...
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ME
Member
May 30, 2011
[quote]From another nudist site to which I also belong, "I also used to have pictures on TrueNudist but I cancelled my membership to that site because the people on there are a bunch of stuck-up, arrogant, egotistical snobs." John[/quote] There are many reasons why people delete there account: Some, as John pointed out, feel the membership is stuckup. Others leave because they don't like the fact that the simple rules, guidelines and TOS are enforced and still others because they don't feel that the rules/guidelines and TOS are enforced enough! Some are fed up with the number of fake profiles, sex-oriented groups, profiles, pictures, comments. Some leave because they feel there isn't enough sexual material tolerated. Some leave because they're sick of the bickering and negativity on the forum, and some leave because there isn't enough fighting to suit their adversarial needs. Some leave because the chat room is well moderated, others leave because they don't feel the chat room is moderated enough. There are many reasons why people cancel their membership. For a flip side to John's coin - check out the comments made on another forum regarding TN: Q: I don't know if this has been covered before but have any of you come across this website called True Nudists? A: yeah, it's ok. A lot of perverts though. A: Yeah, this. I deleted my account there. A:There are some decent people on there, you just need to really screen them. And C****** is right, hardly any females on there, and the photo comments most people leave are, let's just say, less than savory A: Unfortunately, yes. Mostly swingers, voyers and exibitionists. I, personally, would rather be considered a stuck-up, arrogant snob and have the people who made the above comments be active members, than be considered a perv and have John's commenter be an active member. The more important question, to put a positive spin on this, is why do people stay, inspite of the the things they dislike about the site? We stay because of the many wonderful people we've met and continue to meet through TN and the many friends we've made online and IRL. We stay because this site has all of the features we're looking for - an active forum, a chat room, some active groups, a locations section. All of these areas need some tweaking, but they're there. We stay because we haven't found another site yet that has all the features we want and hasn't been completely over run by those who confuse nudism with sexualism. We stay for the people who understand the word respect - even when we disagree with each other. I learn as much from those I've disagreed with as I do with people I agree with. It's great to hear a differing viewpoint at times without it turning into a "my way or the highway" attitude. Great fun to have intelligent, adult discourse. But we do continue to look for and check out other sites - there may be a nudist site utopian just on the horizon. Why does everyone else stay? Jen
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monkey2010
May 30, 2011
Not many people on here are true nudists! I have not met a single person , or even talked to anyone on here. I think this site is just a way to put nude pics on the web. I am a real sincere nudist, and yes I have pics on, but Geez, I just want to meet nudist friends near me! Prove me wrong, but no one here is sincere about connecting to others.
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ME
Member
May 30, 2011
[quote][quote][/quote] Well, I can kind of relay to that! There are some "know it all" persons on this forum, just look at the numer of posts they have. Almost like spaming![/quote] LOL! You'll find that those with the highest post counts have been on the site a long time, some since it's beginnings. Those with the higher post counts are active, participating members who post frequently to the forums and to the groups they belong to. Be thankful for those who post frequently - there is no FAQ on the site - except for those created by the "active" posters. Aquanaturist, you've only been a member for 7 months - let's see where your post count is if you're still a member in a year, 2 years, etc. While you don't post often on the forum, I know you're fairly active in the groups you belong to - you'll be surprised at how quickly your post count adds up. And then, you too may be considered a "know it all", receive a supernudist cape and even a secret decoder ring!Jen
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ME
Member
May 30, 2011
[quote]Not many people on here are true nudists! I have not met a single person , or even talked to anyone on here. I think this site is just a way to put nude pics on the web. I am a real sincere nudist, and yes I have pics on, but Geez, I just want to meet nudist friends near me! Prove me wrong, but no one here is sincere about connecting to others.[/quote] Monkey, we've had the honor of making many nudist friends on this site and have had the opportunity to meet well over 30 members in person and many more than that if and when the opportunity rises we will gladly meet with open arms. It takes time and active participation to get to know someone well enough "online" to actually meet in person,regardlessof the site you're on. Jen (Cheri - did you catch that?)
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Aquanaturist
May 30, 2011
[quote][quote][/quote] LOL! You'll find that those with the highest post counts have been on the site a long time, some since it's beginnings. Those with the higher post counts are active, participating members who post frequently to the forums and to the groups they belong to. Be thankful for those who post frequently - there is no FAQ on the site - except for those created by the "active" posters. Aquanaturist, you've only been a member for 7 months - let's see where your post count is if you're still a member in a year, 2 years, etc. While you don't post often on the forum, I know you're fairly active in the groups you belong to - you'll be surprised at how quickly your post count adds up. And then, you too may be considered a "know it all", receive a supernudist cape and even a secret decoder ring!Jen[/quote]You are perfectly right!! I was kind of thinking of those who lectures everyone, and therefore has a high number of posts! And if you don't roll over right away, they keep hammering on til you get sick! I'm kind of surpriced of the lack of tolerance to other peoples point of wiew here on TN forum. (and I'm not talking about sexual stuf! I'm all for moderators)
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Somerserttom
May 30, 2011
It has the potential to be a good site. Many stay because there are not many alternatives. I used to be on Skinbook but the site owner closed it because of all the abuse he got, which was sad. That was a case of a few spoiling it for the many. This site runs the same risk. Personally I am fed up with the rude and offensive attacks that a few, and one in particular, constantly make. It's all very well moaning about all the 'pervs' etc but the bigotry and and continual rude and provocative attacks by a certain individual contaminating every post just turn me off. This is supposed to be a friendly site for people with a shared interest, not a personal soapbox for a few. You asked why we stay. Because we hope it will get better, but I fear that it won't whilst certain people remain uncentured.
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ME
Member
May 30, 2011
[quote][quote][quote][/quote] Well, I can kind of relay to that! There are some "know it all" persons on this forum, just look at the numer of posts they have. Almost like spaming![/quote] LOL! You'll find that those with the highest post counts have been on the site a long time, some since it's beginnings. Those with the higher post counts are active, participating members who post frequently to the forums and to the groups they belong to. Be thankful for those who post frequently - there is no FAQ on the site - except for those created by the "active" posters. Aquanaturist, you've only been a member for 7 months - let's see where your post count is if you're still a member in a year, 2 years, etc. While you don't post often on the forum, I know you're fairly active in the groups you belong to - you'll be surprised at how quickly your post count adds up. And then, you too may be considered a "know it all", receive a supernudist cape and even a secret decoder ring!Jen[/quote] How many posts till I get my secret decoder ring and do I have to drink Ovaltine?
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ME
Member
May 30, 2011
Overt sexuality of the site. Harrasment. Shock that certain members of a certain elite group on the site are not what they would have you believe. Three reasons I have heard.
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ME
Member
May 30, 2011
[quote][quote][quote][quote][/quote] Well, I can kind of relay to that! There are some "know it all" persons on this forum, just look at the numer of posts they have. Almost like spaming![/quote] LOL! You'll find that those with the highest post counts have been on the site a long time, some since it's beginnings. Those with the higher post counts are active, participating members who post frequently to the forums and to the groups they belong to. Be thankful for those who post frequently - there is no FAQ on the site - except for those created by the "active" posters. Aquanaturist, you've only been a member for 7 months - let's see where your post count is if you're still a member in a year, 2 years, etc. While you don't post often on the forum, I know you're fairly active in the groups you belong to - you'll be surprised at how quickly your post count adds up. And then, you too may be considered a "know it all", receive a supernudist cape and even a secret decoder ring!Jen[/quote] How many posts till I get my secret decoder ring and do I have to drink Ovaltine?[/quote] LMAO! You only have to drink the Ovaltine if the decoder ring is not in the Cracker Jack Box! Jen
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Tom === Thomas S. Tierney
May 30, 2011
Ovaltine? Decoder ring? Cracker Jack Box? I know you cannot be that old.
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Curt, or Cowboy
May 30, 2011
[quote]Ovaltine? Decoder ring? Cracker Jack Box? I know you cannot be that old.[/quote] She's not, but on internet, no one knows....... ( OK, The Shadow does )
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ME
Member
May 30, 2011
[quote]Ovaltine? Decoder ring? Cracker Jack Box? I know you cannot be that old.[/quote] Hahahaha...but I am! I was young back then...but I do remember! Actually, Tom is probably the best person to ask this question of as he has gotten fed up and canceled his account several times over the years, only to return...so he could best answer both questions. I like to think he returns because he misses my scrabble game and my emoticon kisses to him!Jen p.s. May I have some more Ovaltine, Tom, PLEEEEEEASE???
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DanandJanette
May 30, 2011
[quote][quote][/quote] Why does everyone else stay? Jen[/quote] Not to sound like a "stuckup", but good people cause me to stay here. Good people like Steve and yourself.
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DesertRat
May 30, 2011
[quote]Not many people on here are true nudists! I have not met a single person , or even talked to anyone on here. I think this site is just a way to put nude pics on the web. I am a real sincere nudist, and yes I have pics on, but Geez, I just want to meet nudist friends near me! Prove me wrong, but no one here is sincere about connecting to others.[/quote] We can verify that there are people here who are really true nudists. We have met some people on the site who we have become friends with. We have also met people at nudist events who were already members of TN and they are now on our Friends list. There has to be a little give and take when personally meeting people who we have only met on the site. Trust is very important when it comes to meeting other nudists.
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DanandJanette
May 30, 2011
[quote] Shock that certain members of a certain elite group on the site are not what they would have you believe. [/quote] Was this meant to be a tease, or do you have facts to back it up?
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Hill4986
May 30, 2011
I prefer a ''know it all'' that says the right things based on many many years of naturist lifestyle (not just for short recreation periods or home exciting moments)
Then others seeking to provoke or initiating posts on manhood anxieties or fantasies. How could we get rid of those ones....
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Cheri Donna Dawson
May 30, 2011
[quote][quote]I just want to meet nudist friends near me![/quote] In your beautiful state there are three "official" nudist venues:Rock Haven Lodgein Murfreesboro;Cherokee Lodgein Crossville; andNOPEThere may be non-landed clubs in the state, although a cursory search found none. TN's "Nudists" listing has 854 profiles for members in Tennessee, so there are bound to be some near you. However, a common complaint seen here is that trying to get together with others in a social setting is akin to trying to pull a molar with tweezers. People tend to be cautious if not downright wary of meeting people based solely on a Web contact. A good way to get your feet wet is to take a day trip to Cherokee (snip) and see what's happening. Depending on how far east in TN you are, it might be a several-hour trip, but if they know you're coming and you go expecting a good time, you'll have a blast.[/quote] Please note there are only two nudist parks in TN: Cherokee & Rock Haven. I wish both were closer. There are probably at least one or two nonlanded clubs as well. Serendipity in northeast GA might not be that far as well.
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Cheri Donna Dawson
May 30, 2011
[quote][quote]Not many people on here are true nudists! I have not met a single person , or even talked to anyone on here. I think this site is just a way to put nude pics on the web. I am a real sincere nudist, and yes I have pics on, but Geez, I just want to meet nudist friends near me! Prove me wrong, but no one here is sincere about connecting to others.[/quote] Monkey, we've had the honor of making many nudist friends on this site and have had the opportunity to meet well over 30 members in person and many more than that if and when the opportunity rises we will gladly meet with open arms. It takes time and active participation to get to know someone well enough "online" to actually meet in person,regardlessof the site you're on. Jen (Cheri - did you catch that?)[/quote] Yes, Jen, I did. LOLTo the OP, I have thought about leaving during the time I've been here, but I would definitely miss my on-line friends. There are a few people here with whom I've communicated with online and a few I've met in person as well.
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Somerserttom
May 31, 2011
But that is part of the problem, this misconception that you have to have been going nude for years and years in order to have something worthwhile to add. I first went naked on a beach 30 years ago and have been naked whenever the opportunity permits, including a corner of my garden, when I had one. Not all of us are lucky enough to live in a sparsly populated country or have large yards/gardens. It does not mean we are lesser nudists. Not all of us have access to nudist venues, particularly single men (my wife did not like going nude) so only have more limited experiences of social nudism. Perhaps the members of TN should be working to promote greater acceptence of single naturists (of both genders) than simply continuing the same old unfounded prejudices. It makes no odds whether a member has been a nudist for one day or 100 years and frankly this elitist attitude has to stop.
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Somerserttom
May 31, 2011
Ever heard the expression 'empty vessels make the most noise'?.....
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Thomas
May 31, 2011
Some excellent responses like usual Jen. I stay here because it is the best site for true nudists I have found. I have met 20 people so far from here IRL and will be meeting more this weekend. There are a lot of others I hope I can meet someday, just need to go to CT, NY, GA, FL, CA to meet them. Once I win the lottery, I will be able to meet the friends in other parts of the world.
Thomas
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monkey2010
May 31, 2011
The resorts here in Tenn. are NOT single male friendly!!! The only one I will go to is Timberline in Crossville. I have met friends there. Love it ! At Cherokee , they watch you like a hawk , NOT a fun time, lol.
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