Hey folks,
I'm so glad I found your site and it seems like there are a lot of very cool people here. I've never been in any kind of social nude situation, but have always been very interested, but scared. I've been doing a lot of thinking and reading lately about naturism and I still struggle to come up with an answer to what seems like my most fundamental question of all: am I a nudist? I suppose that I ultimately have to answer that for myself, but I'm hoping that some of you fine folks can help me figure out if social nudism is really for me or if my interest in nakedness is better kept behind closed doors.
Ever since I was a kid, I've had a fascination with being naked. I can remember as young as age 7 or 8 going to bed and as soon as my mom left the room after tucking me in, I'd strip off my PJs and sleep nude. I was raised by a single mother and spent a lot of time home alone. Whenever I felt safe enough, that I wasn't going to get walked in on, I'd get naked. These habits have stuck with me into adulthood.
Sadly, something that has always accompanied my nakedness has been my shyness. I was a tall, skinny kid and I took a lot of heat about it growing up. As a result, I came to be very self-conscious and took every step possible to avoid exposing any part of myself for fear of mocking. I never went skinny-dipping with friends in high school or college even though I wanted to badly every time the chance came up. It even took a couple of years before I could completely comfortably walk around nude in front of my wife despite the fact that she does it all the time. Nowadays, I'm usually just worried that one of my neighbors might catch a glimpse through some partially-open window treatment. But that's enough to keep me from being nude even in my own home as much as I'd like.
It seems simple on the surface. If I like to be nude but am too shy to be so around others, then I should just do it at home. I've had a few conversations with my wife about having "naked days" at home to which she readily agreed and we've had a couple of nice evenings. But for some reason, I can't get out of my mind the idea of taking a walk outside or swimming in the ocean or participating in some kind of outdoor activity nude. I don't ever even go to the beach normally despite living within a half-hour from it. I never go hiking or anything like that. I just don't find them all that much fun. But it sounds fun to do them naked. It sounds fun to do just about anything naked. Is that a sign that my motives are wrong that the nudity itself is the primary motivator for me to try this?
I'm so close to just going down to the nude beach near me and giving it a shot. I think I just need a little encouragement.
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macnudeJul 9, 2010Very few that have tried social nudity have had a bad experience. I have likened it to a plunge into a cool pool. a bit of a shock at first but once in, it feels great. You are very lucky to have a nude beach, nearby. I wish that I so lucky.
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JackNeilsonJul 9, 2010I think that once you screw up your courage and try it you will be surprised at how quickly it begins to feel normal and you will wonder why you were so hesitant. I know the first step will not be easy after a lifetime of having body image insecurities but it is definitely worth the effort.
ReactReply - MEMemberJul 9, 2010Take a deep breath. Now, set a date with your wife to go to the nude beach! Within moments of being there you will wonder why it took you so long. And you'll quickly realize nobody is "looking" at you or "judging" you as they are all naked too and come inall different shapes and sizes. And when you lie on the beach and feel the sun warmingeverypart of your body and discover the joys of swimming nude and not having to deal with a wet, clammy bathing suit, you may say to yourself what have I been waiting for? And then you might just decide to try free-hiking. Nothing like walking through the woods unencumbered by clothing. The only way you will truly know if you are a nudist is to just give it a try. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If you try it and don't like it at least you'll know. If you try it and like it a whole new world will have opened up for you. Got for it! Jen p.s. Make sure you use SUNSCREEN!ReactReply
- MAmacnudeJul 9, 2010[quote]Take a deep breath. Now, set a date with your wife to go to the nude beach! Within moments of being there you will wonder why it took you so long. And you'll quickly realize nobody is "looking" at you or "judging" you as they are all naked too and come inall different shapes and sizes. And when you lie on the beach and feel the sun warmingeverypart of your body and discover the joys of swimming nude and not having to deal with a wet, clammy bathing suit, you may say to yourself what have I been waiting for? And then you might just decide to try free-hiking. Nothing like walking through the woods unencumbered by clothing. The only way you will truly know if you are a nudist is to just give it a try. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If you try it and don't like it at least you'll know. If you try it and like it a whole new world will have opened up for you. Got for it! Jen p.s. Make sure you use SUNSCREEN![/quote] Excellent response, as always!ReactReply
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TerryJul 10, 2010I think that once you realise that all true naturists don't see a body no matter what size/colour or blemishes there are, a naturist is a person not an object to stare at and make comments, pluck up the courage and take the plunge, once you do and get over that complex you will wish you had done it ealier, Go with the wife to beach/private area or where ever you can and take of those clothes and enjoy. I have been going clothes free for so long now I don't feel there is anything wrong in it and I don't care if people look and don't see the body they would wish it to be I am comfortable with my own body and seeing others is just in my mind as another like minde naturist.GO FOR IT.
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westheathenJul 10, 2010Tooshy: My advice would be may be if possible to make it a clothes optional venue that you go to first time. That way you can take your time. I have been told; but not tried it myself that if you are naked when others are clothed you feel uncomfortable and the opposite is also true. At least that is what one of my friends told me after she had come back from Japan. While there she had gone for a sauna and (being a typical brit put on her one-piece). Only to walk out into the sauna area to find everyone else bare ass. She carried on as usual, but bailed out after a few minutes feeling very uncomfortable; returned to the locker room dumped her kit and then she felt much better.
Skorpio: There is a very good reason for the hermit crab's shyness though - they are soft skinned and vunerable to predators. Where as we have no predators in our normal lifes although if you go into the jungle that may be different.ReactReply - MB
mr. billJul 10, 2010Right on Jen with a good use of the english language.Ya wife enjoys being naked so got to the beach with her and damn it, enjoy. Once the first time is over ya won't wanna put cloth on again. As for the nieghbors seeing ya, well we all have the same parts, just different size and shapes. Ya may find they enjoy naked times too. The next neighbor party may relax all ur fears.ReactReply - CD
Cheri Donna DawsonJul 10, 2010Give it a shot, you've nothing to lose but a good time. Read the posts above. Within 10 minutes, you'll be comfortable and wonder why you didn't do it sooner
ReactReply - NUnude-and-tattooedOriginal PosterJul 12, 2010
Thanks for all the encouragement folks! I'm definitely going to go for it in the next couple of weeks. My wife is apprehensive about going to the nude beach near us (San Onofre) because of a concern for there being too many single men and gawkers there. If she decides she wants to try, we might go to a resort instead. Otherwise, I'll hit the beach alone. I'm feeling better and more confident about it every day and am excited to go give it a shot. I have a feeling that I will be an instant convert!
Has anyone been to San Onofre recently? I know they've had some issues with the police down there, but I'm not sure if that's still going on.
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PhilfreeeukJul 13, 2010Bumpt re multiple posting.
ReactReply - MEMemberJul 14, 2010[quote]Thanks for all the encouragement folks! I'm definitely going to go for it in the next couple of weeks. My wife is apprehensive about going to the nude beach near us (San Onofre) because of a concern for there being too many single men and gawkers there. If she decides she wants to try, we might go to a resort instead. Otherwise, I'll hit the beach alone. I'm feeling better and more confident about it every day and am excited to go give it a shot. I have a feeling that I will be an instant convert! Has anyone been to San Onofre recently? I know they've had some issues with the police down there, but I'm not sure if that's still going on.[/quote] Glad to see you're no longer "tooshy"! I can't offer you any advice on San Onofre as I'm on the wrong coast, hopefully someone else can help you there. Just wanted to say glad to see you're giving it a try. Let us all know how much you enjoyed your day anddon't forget the sunscreen!!! JenReactReply
- JAJackNeilsonJul 14, 2010[quote][quote][/quote] .don't forget the sunscreen!!! Jen[/quote] As Jen said and remember to use iteverywhere. At the beginning of this year's sunbathing I got a severe and very sore sunburn between my toes. Also got a less sever burn on the soles of my feet. Not fun when you have to put shoes on to drive home.ReactReply
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Paul VoglerJul 14, 2010EVERYTHING'S MORE FUN NAKED!
ReactReply - MAmacnudeJul 14, 2010.don't forget the sunscreen!!! Jen[/quote] As Jen said and remember to use iteverywhere. At the beginning of this year's sunbathing I got a severe and very sore sunburn between my toes. Also got a less sever burn on the soles of my feet. Not fun when you have to put shoes on to drive home.[/quote] Hey Jack, What were the soles of your feet doing facing toward the sun? I'm getting a funny mental picture, here. LOL
ReactReply - JAJackNeilsonJul 14, 2010
Nope feet not up in the air. Just lying on my back and the angle of the sun got to them. It was not as painful as the burn between the toes.
BTW how do you attach the super nudist logo to your posts?ReactReply - MAmacnudeJul 14, 2010[quote]Nope feet not up in the air. Just lying on my back and the angle of the sun got to them. It was not as painful as the burn between the toes. BTW how do you attach the super nudist logo to your posts?[/quote] I'd love to help with the logo thing but I just don't remember. I seem to remember that Phil had the procedure posted. If I can find it I'll let you know or try a message to Phil.ReactReply
- MAmacnudeJul 14, 2010[quote] BTW how do you attach the super nudist logo to your posts?[/quote] Try this, I think it will work! Copy Super Nudist Logo from some ones post. Go your account-Edit Profile-Forum settings Paste into My Signature. Save I hope this works for you.ReactReply
- JAJackNeilsonJul 14, 2010
Great. It worked. Thanks
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UpstatenudeJul 17, 2010[quote][quote] • . Humans are the only creatures on Earth that find it necessary to conceal their natural beings within an artificial exoskin, [/quote] Really? Have you never heard of Hermit Crabs?
Mike[/quote]
the key word is artificial, hermit crabs dont manufacture their clothing... LOL... I would have to agree with the "Just Do It" (hopefully Nike doesn't sue me) I had a lot of the same feelings as you mentioned, I was brought up in a VERY conservative home, and I dont think any of us EVER saw each other nude. But I knew that I wanted to be nude all the time... but never was able to well... except for sneaking out on the roof or in the woods... a few times... but Finally something told me that I should look up and see if there were others like me... (dont know why nudists/naturalism never crossed my mind before) and I found that here were others like me.. AND places to go to be nude.... WOW... I was totally amazed, and within 4 or 5 months... got up the courage to head out.... and went to the closest nude resort to me.... got there on a Friday, and left on a Sunday... by the time I had to pack up, I didn't want to put my clothes back on, and wanted to move it... The people were very friendly, the atmosphere was great... met lots of other people made new(d) friends... and now I go every chance I can... If you go to a resort, they will typically give you a "free" tour and it was on this tour that I found that being nude was perfectly normal.... two days later.... I was back with camping supplies all packed and ready to go. DEFIANTLY DONT FORGET THE SUNSCREEN!!! I made that mistake the first time... OUCHIE!!!!!ReactReply - MEMemberJul 31, 2010
so did you go? i would think your wife could stay partially dressed (bikini bottom?) at the nude beach and if she feels comfortable than get naked. My ex used to feel all the men were watching her at Haulover (they were), so she would keep her bottoms on. No reason for your wifey not to go and enjoy the day with you..
As for neighbors looking in your house, they would be "peeping toms" which is illegal. It's your house, be naked in it. If you are in the yard naked, than just make sure it is private...ReactReply - CDCheri Donna DawsonJul 31, 2010[quote]so did you go? i would think your wife could stay partially dressed (bikini bottom?) at the nude beach and if she feels comfortable than get naked. My ex used to feel all the men were watching her at Haulover (they were), so she would keep her bottoms on. No reason for your wifey not to go and enjoy the day with you.. As for neighbors looking in your house, they would be "peeping toms" which is illegal. It's your house, be naked in it. If you are in the yard naked, than just make sure it is private...[/quote] David, People can remain clothed at a nude beach. There are people at Haulover, ie. who do until they are comfortable. In several US states, if you can be seen in your home from the public right of way, it's not legal.ReactReply
- NUnude-and-tattooedOriginal PosterAug 2, 2010[quote]so did you go?[/quote] We haven't yet made it our to a beach or resort, but that's primarily due to other obligations and opportunities rather than a hesitancy to go. We've been house-sitting for our vacationing next door neighbors who have a beautiful pool and spa in their back yard which is totally private. We've now spent two weekends and every weekday evening last week taking advantage of that privacy swimming, sunning, and soaking nude. And it's not ended when we leave the pool. We've been making dinner and doing dishes and just generally spending as much time as possible naked at home as well. My wife has taken to it like a duck to water and went from timidly agreeing to try a resort with me to being positively intrigued and excited to go. Her only request is that we start at a strictly couples and women only resort. She even suggested that we change plans we have to spend her birthday this weekend in a suite at a 5-star hotel in San Diego and instead go to a nude resort! Alas, the resort of choice was booked since it was so last-minute, but I suspect we will be making plans for another weekend get-away very soon.ReactReply
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RoosterockAug 2, 2010After you go , you are going to look back and wonder what was I afraid of. Also why did I wait so long to enjoy the freedom that I feel. Wishing you the best on what ever you do.
ReactReply - CDCheri Donna DawsonAug 4, 2010[quote]I have always been a home nudist; could never get the courage to go to a resort or beach (until yesterday). I went to a nudist resort near me, and thouroughly enjoyed it. I was definitely nervous at first, but after getting to the pool area and talking with other nudists, I was very comfortable. Everyone treats you the same, and it's a great experience.[/quote] Welcome to our worldReactReply