Body image issues

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  Bill Bowser

  Mar 10, 2020

  Yours is an unfortunate case, and I must admit that Ive never noticed anyone at a nude venue with a similar skin condition, but only those abnormalities which are blatantly obvious attract my attention. I believe it is natural for people to be curious about things they have never seen before. People who look markedly different from what we generally consider to be normal should not be disturbed because they attract some unwanted attention. People will satisfy their curiosity and then move on. Practically everyone is more concerned with themselves than they are with a stranger with an unusual skin condition. Dont worry about it; nobody else really cares.

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  Mcdcvs

  Mar 10, 2020

  I think we all have things that we are not happy with and believe that others will also have a negative reaction to what we feel is unattractive. I have been at clothing optional places which people that have skin conditions, scars from surgeries, missing breast, legs, arms, fat, skinny, hairy, hairless and all other sorts of things that we have been told is unattractive. No one to my knowledge was ridiculed or told that they shouldnt be there,

  As a fat person, I was apprehensive to disrobe in public the first time. There was no laughter only conversation about anything and everything. I think you should try a C.O. Place where you can become comfortable with the people around you and undress at your pace.

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  EarlD

  Mar 10, 2020

  At my club clothing optional venue I have seen a variety of skin conditions. I dont know what all they are but the individuals move about freely and from what I have observed are apart of all kind of group activities from dances to dinners.

  Hopefully you can find a similar situation where you are. While naturists arent perfect the response I have observed in this kind of situation has been positive.

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  Steve

  Mar 10, 2020

  I've seen a couple of nudists with whole-body plaque psoriasis. One of them got along very graciously; I watched him patiently explaining to a kid - "no, you can't catch it... it's good for me to let the sun shine on my skin" - the other tended to blame people's reactions to him on his skin , although they were actually responding to his sexual aggressiveness. I have gone in and out of a pretty serious eczema flare over the last couple of years, and if anybody noticed it, they said nothing. But... now that I'm through it, I get the occasional comment about how good my skin looks, so obviously they DID notice it, and extended me the courtesy of letting it go without comment at the time. As a kid, I had to reassure people sometimes - "no, you can't catch it." You might occasionally have to do the same, or for other reasons let people know that it's a genetic condition.

  In terms of looks / image, it really is a non-issue. Nudist venues are really accepting - anything from ostomy bags to removable body parts to the dangling skin that comes from massive weight loss, to stretch marks... really, when we expose our bodies we are abandoning the "standard" image we all try to project when we put on clothes.

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  Paul

  Mar 15, 2020

  SteveinKona nailed it.

  Let me add, as long as your cysts aren't oozing, then nobody is going to say anything. You might get a curious friendly question from someone after they get to know you a bit since your condition is very unusual.

  One of the ladies in our club has something very similar to yours, her condition just looks like a zillion large skin tags all over areas. Nobody has ever said anything. We love her very much, her skin is just another thing that makes up "her" as a complete person.

  I will admit to staring when I first met her about 20 years ago since I had never seen that before. But I was over it in like 2 minutes. After getting to know her, I don't even think about it anymore.

  I suspect, the same will happen with you wherever you go.

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  Steve

  Mar 19, 2020

  This site is not nudism; it's the internet. Very few TN members have ever visited a resort or belonged to a club; most have never even been to free beach. No nudist venue has such a thing as "popularity." No nudist venue is so overwhelmingly male, unless it's specifically designated as such.

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  John

  Mar 19, 2020

  [quote]This site is not nudism; it's the internet. Very few TN members have ever visited a resort or belonged to a club; most have never even been to free beach. No nudist venue has such a thing as "popularity." No nudist venue is so overwhelmingly male, unless it's specifically designated as such.[/quote] Well worth saying. I might add for the benefit of the original poster that if a man as breast fixated as I am can talk to a naked lady for a quarter of an hour without noticing that she had a mastectomy you certainly have nothing worth worrying about.

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• ME

  Member

  Mar 19, 2020

  OP yes I have seen some with skin conditions. The one specifically I have in mind is one of the owners of our Club which she suffers with psoriasis. Twice hit with shingles on her face and arms in one single year. We all love and feel for her certainly not look in disdain. I have had shingles and let me tell you it's unattractive and utterly painful.

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  Tom D

  Mar 19, 2020

  [quote]This site is not nudism; it's the internet. Very few TN members have ever visited a resort or belonged to a club; most have never even been to free beach. No nudist venue has such a thing as "popularity." No nudist venue is so overwhelmingly male, unless it's specifically designated as such.[/quote] Gunnison is a public clothing optional beach and I would estimate that it about 75% male.

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  EarlD

  Mar 19, 2020

  [quote]As a social naturist I can say with confidence the vast majority of naturists, in Europe at least, do not judge people physically. In fact body acceptance is one of the greatest positives of naturism. Go to a naturist club, a beach etc. Meet real naturists and feel the joy of acceptance and the simple feeling of elemental liberation.[/quote] Accurate point most naturist don't judge. There are all kinds of bodies at my club and few people have time to judge we are busy enjoying each others company and sharing our lives and experiences.

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  EarlD

  Mar 19, 2020

  [quote]This site is not nudism; it's the internet. Very few TN members have ever visited a resort or belonged to a club; most have never even been to free beach. No nudist venue has such a thing as "popularity." No nudist venue is so overwhelmingly male, unless it's specifically designated as such.[/quote] I think this is an accurate assessment of the majority of the people here fewer and fewer seem to be people who have experienced genuine social nudity as expressed in naturism.

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  John

  Mar 20, 2020

  [quote]Well... single males have been a problem for public nudist places for a reason. In fact, many resorts and clubs banned single males' participation. you can use common sense and figure out why this happens.[/quote] Oddly enough, the only occasion on which my wife has beenmade to feel uncomfortable from inappropriate male attention the person in question was with his wife.

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  John

  Mar 20, 2020

  [quote]Well... single males have been a problem for public nudist places for a reason. In fact, many resorts and clubs banned single males' participation. you can use common sense and figure out why this happens.[/quote] I've made mention of this in posts here before,but I'll say it again: In my experience, it's not the "single" male that is usually the problem, it's the "unaccompanied" male (i.e. married, but wifey is not with him at the moment) that causes the real problems. There have been exceptions of course. On the beach I frequented on Oahu, there was a guy that got great joy from sporting his erection in front of the ladies, yet he couldn't understand why the one club on the island ejected him. John aka cobeachbum (One of those single guys that gets banned for no good reason).

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  silversurfer

  Mar 21, 2020

  [quote]This site is not nudism; it's the internet. Very few TN members have ever visited a resort or belonged to a club; most have never even been to free beach. No nudist venue has such a thing as "popularity." No nudist venue is so overwhelmingly male, unless it's specifically designated as such.[/quote] On the other hand, when I do go to my favorite nudist resort, Cypress Cove, I ask the people I meet if they are on True Nudist and almost all of them tell me the've never heard of it. I find that very interesting.

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  J.

  Mar 21, 2020

  There's a fair number from this site we've met on Bare Necessities nude cruises, so we know there are some actual nudists on this site. But if I look through the members list for our local clubs on this site there are very few that I can say I've actually seen at any of the clubs in person.

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  John

  Mar 21, 2020

  [quote]This site is not nudism; it's the internet. Very few TN members have ever visited a resort or belonged to a club; most have never even been to free beach. No nudist venue has such a thing as "popularity." No nudist venue is so overwhelmingly male, unless it's specifically designated as such.[/quote] I can say I've actually met three people in in real life that are here on TN (and know a forth, but she hasn't logged on in years and I knew her long before TN even existed). We met by letting each other know our plans (one at Forty Acre Club in Missouri, and the other two at Valley View Hot Springs in Colorado), so there are some on here. My general rule to separate the real from the fake is certification in the beginning, but I also realize that not everyone is comfortable with that so I will also take into account their participation and the type of posts they make. I also usually discard those that can figure out how to post pictures (presumably of them) but can't/won't certify. It's pretty easy to spot the fakes, and it amazes me the number of people that "friend" them thinking they're real. John aka cobeachbum

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  Mcdcvs

  Mar 21, 2020

  [quote] It's pretty easy to spot the fakes, and it amazes me the number of people that "friend" them thinking they're real. John aka cobeachbum[/quote] I wonder the same thing. The young single women advertising their nude picture web sites should be a clue but people still become friends with them.

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  EarlD

  Mar 21, 2020

  [quote]It's pretty easy to spot the fakes, and it amazes me the number of people that "friend" them thinking they're real.John aka cobeachbum I wonder the same thing. The young single women advertising their nude picture web sites should be a clue but people still become friends with them.[/quote] Some people on here seem desperate for some kind of connection mainly sexual and they bite at any opportunity for that.

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