My wife and I live alone. We both love each other a lot. I love being naked at home and my wife does not. I asked my wife if it would bother her if when we got back home from work in the early evenings if I could enjoy some naked time while I relaxed after working all day. She adamantly refused my request, saying she had had enough of all my nakedness. I have been trying to convince her that there is nothing wrong in enjoying nudity at home. Does anyone have any ideas on what I can do to remedy this situation? Thanks.
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- MEMemberNov 16, 2016
Do you have a basement or attic where you can build a man cave? Off limits to her and free for you to be how you want.
ReactReply - MEMemberNov 16, 2016Was there any discussion prior to getting married about this subject or is it something you discovered afterwards?ReactReply
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ManOfWicklowNov 16, 2016I gave up years ago trying to persuade my wife to enjoy the nudist lifestyle, but it certainly doesn't stop me from shedding my clothes when at home or on the beach.
If your wife doesn't want to participate, that is no reason for you to suffer. Just be nude whenever you can, and tell her to put up and shut up.ReactReply - JUjusta_PatzerOriginal PosterNov 17, 2016I did not mention that one Saturday morning about two years ago we had this conversation. My wife had never liked having sex and we had been living in a sexless marriage for over five years. She always made the same excuses, like she had to lose weight because she did not feel comfortable being obese, or she was too tired. It was always something. So on that Saturday morning we had a serious talk about our situation. I just wanted her to be honest with me. I told her that I was always going to love her and that I was not going to walk out on her because of a sexual problem. She finally told me the truth. She just did not want to have sex ever again. Then we talked some more and came to an agreement. The agreement was that if I never mentioned sex to her ever again, and she could live a celibate life from now on, then I could become a home nudist and she would always accept it. We both agreed and we both promised each other that we would both always honor the promise we made that day.I feel betrayed that now after she got what she wanted she would break such a special promise she made to me, especially knowing how important nudity is to me.ReactReply
- NANatureBoy24Nov 17, 2016
It sounds to me like you have serious problems and should see a marriage counselor, not get advice from random people on the Internet. (Including this advice.)
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ChuckNov 17, 2016I have the same problem, but I too have also given up trying to persuade her to enjoy the freedom of nudity!! I do get my nude time every morning with my coffee and hikes in the woods!! I feel for you my friend, but sometimes it is better to take what you can get and avoid the confrontations!!
ReactReply - MEMemberNov 17, 2016
My knee jerk response is well she broke her end of the agreement, then there is no more agreement. It's time to have sex.
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James HNov 18, 2016For my girl, it was showing her ALL aspects of a more care-free life, not just nudism. I feel that many things are connected, and after reading your post, I do believe what others have been saying - you have MANY things that you need to work on and once those fall into play you may be able to slowly ease her in. Start by "getting you both in shape". Be her partner in her journey. Do this then with everything else that seems to be stressing your relationship. Once she feels happier, more comfortable with herself, seeing you as a person that brings happy change into her life, etc,, she may open up to new ideas. First things first tho...
ReactReply - MEMemberDec 6, 2016
She sounds very freaking selfish!!! U need to move on and find someone who accepts u for who u are!!
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DesertRatDec 7, 2016Not being a Psychiatrist or a marriage counselor, I am convinced that some women make and keep themselves unattractive in order to avoid sex or other activities that they don't want to participate in. This is done on the subconscious level so they will always believe that it is not true. A test of this might be to get a woman to agree to engage in asexual activity, or some other activity that she hates, any week that she doesn't meet a certain goal of self improvement. The worst that can happen is that a guy ends up with a great looking wife who he can't have sex with.ReactReply - KE
KeithDec 31, 2016Yeah, lots of problems that could be worked on - the question is do you (and your wife) want to work on or fix the problems. If yes, or even the possibility of wanting to fix your relationship then by all means talk to a counselor, clergy, or someone who is better trained and equipped than most (all?) of us.
However, if you just don't care and you don't want to walk away or for her to walk away, then you have to adjust to being roommates, or two persons of the opposite sex sharing living quarters - remember that one? POSLQs Don't wander out in her presence nude and stand there "in her face" so to speak. That's just asking for something likely physical between you two and that should be avoided at all costs. But like many of us - certainly for me - get nude whenever you can for however long you can inside and/or outside. If your "wife" goes shopping, take advantage of the time, that kind of thing. Sounds a lot like sneaking around behind her back and I suppose in a way it is but do what you can.
I would certainly make certain to have a key to the house whenever you are outside though, particularly if you're enjoying the outside by being nude. You might find she is home and locks you out. I don't see much good coming of your situation but I can only empathize with you and hope you're able to get some kind of accommodation. Best of luck, maybe the new year will bring you better fortune.
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