Okay, I am only pretty new to this site, not nudism itself but I would like some help understanding how to describe myself to others here. I am a married man that has been into nudism for decades but my wife has no interest in the lifestyle so I attend resorts alone only looking for friends and like minded people. So am I really single? Couple but alone? Or some other team I havent come across yet.
Any help with this would be great. Thx!
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- MEMemberApr 30, 2020
Yes there are hundreds of threads and numerous groups on the site covering that very topic. Do a little search on those in the forums and seek some of those groups pertaining to it might be some support to you.
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SteveApr 30, 2020I think what you've done is exactly right - you are an individual member of TN who lists their status as "married." That's really common. Some folks - and some resorts - will tend to assume that means you're looking, but the people you want to know - who completely understand that one might enjoy being naked in company without having the least interest in stepping beyond their marriage relationship - will get it.
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StevieLornaApr 30, 2020Lone male is a term weve used.
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Lakeman221Apr 30, 2020Here's group for you to check out that may answer some of your questions.
https://www.truenudists.com/group/married-men-with-non-nude-wives/
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Tom DApr 30, 2020I am also married to a woman who has no interest in nudity and is rarely nude at home.
She is fine with me being nude in the house and inside the privacy fence in the back yard when we are home alone.
She has gone back and forth on me closing the back curtains and sunning and swimming nude when she has friends in the house. She is OK with me doing so when our adult son who lives with us has male company.
She is aware that I go to nude beaches sometimes, but not sure she realizes that "sometimes" is whenever I go to the beach alone.
Only gone to a resort once, and that was for an afternoon visit when I was in the area for another reason.
I don't want to be away from her overnight just so I can be socially nude.ReactReply - 1N
1nakedfarmerApr 30, 2020Don't make the question seem weird. If you respect your marriage, you are "married". Using any other term my be taken as "available".
ReactReply - MEMemberApr 30, 2020
I'd say you're a married nudist. Spouse non-nudist. Not unusual.
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Stone AndyApr 30, 2020Your legal/relationship status for this site is "married". As far as resorts, they are likely to consider any unescorted male "single," but that's another story.
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JayApr 30, 2020'I' am married & clearly indicate as such. My Wife is fully aware of my nudist lifestyle & interaction with others. Even though she has NO interest in participating in the lifestyle, she freely supports mine & has even met some of my nudist friends. As a longtime member of AANR, I planned to join my local AANR approved Club. For more than a year before I relocated I was in communication w the Club; even meeting some of the officers when they had an open membership drive at our local nudist venue while visiting here.
After my relocation I contacted the Club & arranged a meeting with one of their officers. My Wife accompanied me & the meeting started off great. Everything went well until the Club officer learned that my Wife would only attend textile events. Our meeting ended with the understanding that she would speak to the Membership Committee & get back to me. A day or so later I got a response saying that they were sorry to inform me that they were adhering to their policy to uphold their ban on "lone single males" new members. Explaining that the ban is due to the fact they they don't want the other female members to feel intimidated.
The POINT of my rather long post is that even though 'I' declare myself as "married" it seems in some circles (nudist) if you don't meet a certain criteria you are automatically deemed "lone single male" by THEM. Their Club; their rules.
JayReactReply - BObobApr 30, 2020
Unfortunately aanr and resorts see us as undesirables with out ever getting to know us .. They let their preconceived notions and extremely discriminatory actions deprive single and solo married men of equal membership or acceptance. . It is backed up by couples and the women of them couples . They let all women in with out question single or otherwise with or with out their spouse. . What is even worse is that the whole of nudism is being run by women's fearfulness. Which should raise the question are them fearful women really nudist or just go to accommodate their husbands. If and that's a big IF they are nudists they should see their actions are causing discrimination something women have fought for yrs.. on other nudist,, People that do not behave or abide by the rules should be removed or put on notice about it, members or guest alike.. Just for info i seen more inappropriate behavior and breach of resort rules by the actual members than the guests or visitors, the guests and visitors know their on a short lead,, and normally are more friendly than the actual members.. facts, and hopefully food for thought of some who the shoe fits both sides of this UnNudist type behaviors.
PS most TNS members i ever met , I E naturists don't act like the aanr resortists
Something else to think about that i didn't even touch on was most nudist mission statements claim they are non judgmental .. to most that encounter the discrimination that other statement of non judgmental just went out the window too!ReactReply - STStevieLornaApr 30, 2020
We dont belong to any clubs so cant really comment on how they are run.
A lone males lack of a naturist partner is hardly the fault of any club.
The problem is your own. Take some responsibility.Weve met many lone males at resorts in Europe and never had any problem.
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hikenudeApr 30, 2020[quote]We dont belong to any clubs so cant really comment on how they are run. A lone males lack of a naturist partner is hardly the fault of any club. The problem is your own. Take some responsibility. Weve met many lone males at resorts in Europe and never had any problem.[/quote] And likely wouldn't have any problems in the US if clubs and their patrons weren't so Victorian. To quote an old friend "Four centuries after the last Puritan died, and we *still* can't get the bastards out of our heads!"ReactReply - GOGon4kedMay 17, 2020
Hi
My wife has no desire to go naked yet I do and Im unsure how to achieve this alone.
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FullSunMay 21, 2020Yes, I agree with Andy, as usual He has nailed it with great advice
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