Hello:
I am new to this group, I am a closet nudist, one that gets nude when eveyone is out and I have nothing else to do. But my question is how do I break the ice in knowing people even tho I am 62yrs old happily married and all my kids are gone. I have tried but I would like to have friends chat with me, I am a good email pen pal, and I am open to most ideas and life styles.
If you need a good email pen pal drop me a line and we can get to know each other.
jim
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- MEMemberJul 20, 2011
hi if you would fill out your profile maybe, and maybe a pic does not have to be a naked one ,you might get more response,I know we are reluctant to add friends with not much profile info , are you certified that would help too
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Cheri Donna DawsonJul 20, 2011Welcome to this great community. As previously stated, you really should enter some information other than where you call home into your profile.
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mallardm45Jul 20, 2011Blank profile and no picture equals no friends or anyone to chat with. Most will just figure your another troll and not bother with you until you do something wrong then they will flag you. Add info and get busy in the forums and you'll get known soon enough and find this is a most enjoyable site. Good Luck
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ChuckJul 21, 2011First off let me welcome you to the site!!!! But your profile does not interest me in the least little bit. You say nothing about yourself. No picture either clothed or nude. Sorry man this does not get you friends. Help yourself out and fill out your profile!!!!!
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MidGaNudistJul 21, 2011Welcome to the group! I think once you have filled out your profile, you will find it easier to make friends. Being Certified will go a long way as well.
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mr. billJul 21, 2011Meeting folks is not difficult, actually the same as in a clothed world. If ya was casper there the same problem would happen. Bet ya have checked outothers fileto see if wanna get to know. If ya have time to visit the forum/chat rooms, then time to fill in the blanks and get certified would be myrecommendation.ReactReply - MEMemberJul 21, 2011get out socially nude, in real life, you make friends in reality easier than you will ever make 'real' friends on a website. It took us at least nine months to make a 'real' friend on this site (to actually meet them in person). There are two places that both accept single males in your area.... Empire Haven,http://empirehaven.homestead.com/,, and Steph's Pond http://carbonbuttprints.com in Williamson, NY sReactReply
- MEMemberJul 21, 2011
I think like others posted before me, put more info in your profile along with some pics of you nude or clothed or both. That way ppl here know you are real and sincere about the nudist lifestyle. Welcome to this site. You will enjoy it immensely.
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BobnBarbieAug 16, 2011Jim,
Meeting people is difficult because of our own inhibitions. I am lousy at meeting people, I think by choice. My job forces me to be infront of people all the time. As such I withdraw to the safety of not meeting people unless they start the conversation. If I put on the "Game Face" I can and have walked up to strangers and started conversations, but that is difficult. It takes practice and you get better at it with practice. I mean at a nudist resort you're not hiding anything and you can't stand there with your hands in your pockets! You have no pockets. Try it.....you might find that it is fun.
BobReactReply - MEMemberSep 27, 2016Can shy people make friends at a resort? Maybe they leave the shy person alone and he or she is too afraid to introduce themselves. Dilemma.ReactReply
- MEMemberSep 27, 2016If you try a smaller resort, you'll probably have better luck. The smaller ones I've visited were more inclusive...there were just fewer people and the ones there would speak to you. That's been my observation...I can't speak for the others. John.ReactReply
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FlokieSep 28, 2016[quote]Can shy people make friends at a resort? Maybe they leave the shy person alone and he or she is too afraid to introduce themselves. Dilemma.[/quote] Of course you can but there are couple of things that will help ... first, going during an event of some sort that will draw in more than just the regulars who live there. The regulars already have busy lives and routines and friends and it can often be easier to chat with someone else who has come for the car show, or the concert, or the potluck or whatever is going on. Second? Say hi to people. I often find someone else sitting alone and ask if they mind if I join them (this works best at restaurants / picnic tables because you might get a weird look or two if someone has obviously gone out of there way to find a quiet corner to be alone). Push yourself outside of your comfort zone by initiating contact if you can. Just like in the real world if you ask someone a question, most of the time they will answer and be glad of your interest. Compliment someone's hat. Ask about the book they are reading. Whatever you do, don't initiate contact by asking a closed question that can be answered with just a yes or a no because that more or less ends the conversation before it begins. And don't forget, it's also okay to hang out by yourself if that is what you want and are most comfortable with.ReactReply - CR
craigopSep 29, 2016In general, meeting new acquaintances is difficult at best - especially if you're new to the lifestyle. It is even more difficult for those who are single or attending nudist events alone. I think maybe because people, in general, are suspicious of one's reasons for attending alone. With that said, I find that people in the nudist lifestyle are friendlier and emit less attitude. Personally, I would love to find a travel partner eliminating the loneliness of the road and the ability to meet others without suspicion.
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BobSep 29, 2016My wife is dead set against nudity, so I have not gone to a nudist resort or beach.
Do the resorts allow pets? I find walking a pet tends to encourage spontaneous conversation.
I did mass commuting for about 25 years. I took a bus and a train to and from work almost every day. I know that idle times feels longer than occupied time, so I would try to talk to whoever was standing near me on the platform waiting for the train or bus. Some people would look at me as if I was from outer space, others would pick up with conversation.
BobReactReply - MEMemberSep 29, 2016Our club allows pets, many who live there through the season of course have them with them. And yes if someone is walking down the road with a cute puppy or their dog they always get stopped by someone to greet and pet the dog.ReactReply
- MEMemberSep 29, 2016[quote]Hello: I am new to this group, I am a closet nudist, one that gets nude when eveyone is out and I have nothing else to do. But my question is how do I break the ice in knowing people even tho I am 62yrs old happily married and all my kids are gone. I have tried but I would like to have friends chat with me, I am a good email pen pal, and I am open to most ideas and life styles. If you need a good email pen pal drop me a line and we can get to know each other. jim[/quote]ReactReply