Ladies, what is the best way for a single, nudist male to approach you?

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  StevieLorna

  Apr 2, 2019

  Single female naturists are very rare, and single male naturists are not.

  Better to try and find a partner in the textile world and convert them to naturism.

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  John

  Apr 3, 2019

  [quote]Wife Bunny here. Women DO NOT go to nudist venues to meet men. They go to relax, and chill WITHOUT the pressures of the dating dance. Best way to approach? Say hi, and move along. Honestly the best way I've known to make nudist friends, and that includes singles of both genders, are NON-landed nudist clubs. Just never go expecting to meet someone.[/quote] Well said.

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• BA

  

  Bazil

  May 4, 2019

  G'day,
  I'd also say that single female nudists are probably not in big numbers.
  My wife and I have visited a few nudist resorts and have to say that we both find it easier to approach a complete stranger and strike up a conversation at a nudist venue than outside of the nudist community.
  I think nudists have nothing to hide (which is convenient given they have nowhere to hide something) and you get to meet the real person one on one - at an equal level.
  With no fancy clothes cars or jewellery everyone becomes on the same level and it just becomes one naked human talking to another naked human.
  
  If you are searching for a nudist female you might check out some clubs / resorts but you might be better to find someone with another (non nudism) shared interest and then see if nudism is something you can share and enjoy.
  You might find someone (non nudist) and then find that gentle steps will take you to social nudity if that's what you are looking for.
  Small steps.
  Naked in the bedroom.
  Naked in the house.
  Naked in the back yard.
  Naked at the beach.
  
  Then - take a breath - tackle a resort.
  Just don't push the issue - you have to move at her pace.
  That's the path we took and I'm so glad we did.
  I love the fact that my wife and I share and enjoy social nudity so I understand why this might be important to you.
  
  I hope this works out for you.
  
  Best wishes.
  
  Bazil & Lee.

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  chadg1972

  Jun 11, 2019

  [quote]Wife Bunny here. Women DO NOT go to nudist venues to meet men. They go to relax, and chill WITHOUT the pressures of the dating dance. Best way to approach? Say hi, and move along. Honestly the best way I've known to make nudist friends, and that includes singles of both genders, are NON-landed nudist clubs. Just never go expecting to meet someone.[/quote] Thank you for that advise.

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• PA

  

  Paul

  May 5, 2020

  [quote]Better to try and find a partner in the textile world and convert them to naturism.[/quote] The biggest advantage with this is there is a fare chance she lives fairly close to where you live (unless you meet at work where she could live quite a way from you) but the problem is when to let on you are a nudist, as a few years ago I knew a girl and one day I said I am nude in the garden and she went "I don't want to know that" but we were too different to start dating anyway but, yesterday I was chatting to a girl for the second time (who lives fairly close to me) when I said the weather was alright for World Naked Gardening Day and I took part in it and, after a second or two she said her garden wasn't private enough to do it, so two totally different reaction to the subject.

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• EV

  

  Evan

  Aug 28, 2020

  then Im in a no win situation.
  I've tried talking to girls at hippy hollow during my visits.

  One of the reasons that leads me to believe Zamasu did nothing wrong, is this way that girls think.
  How I can't approach them, or cant ask to kiss when we're hugging & I have to just 'wait. Girls NEVER make the first move, especially to underdogs like me.
  But if I wait, it'll never happen. & I know this for sure because for the thousands of girls I never made contact with, they completely ignored me.
  So on one hand, I can ask & get rejected & blocked, or I 'let them approach me' & I turn completely invisible to them & they never know I exist.

  Shit like this gives me absolutely no hope in living & makes me wanna pull the trigger very badly.
  I don't deserve to live when girls find me too repulsive to approach.

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• JO

  

  John

  Aug 28, 2020

  I can sort of get how Salyan feels. If went to a strange place where there were more women than men, due to restrictions against single men, and sat down by myself hoping that maybe a man or a couple might come over and say hi to me, and not a single woman came over to greet me, I think I'd go away with a bad feeling about that place. I'd think I wasn't wanted.
  
  I don't expect every single woman to come over and flirt with me (or any single man, either). But it would be nice to be acknowledged as a human being, not a guy out to hit on any woman he happens to meet. Who knows, I might want to talk about the things you want to talk about, share a few of the same interests, hear what you have to say. Could happen.

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• PH

  

  Philip

  Aug 29, 2020

  Bunny that is some excellent advice, when I visit resorts I'm there to enjoy outdoor social nudity because I have no privacy outside my house.

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• CH

  

  Charlie

  Aug 29, 2020

  So basically, if you are a useful tool, then women might give you some attention. Also, do not try to share a part of your lifestyle with a female, she will resent it as an attempt to satisfy some primal need and not just be a support mechanism for her future. Okay, got it.

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• JO

  

  John

  Aug 29, 2020

  [quote] Note that I said "hope" and not "expect." I can't expect other people to live up to my own ideals, but I hope that someday they might.[/quote] You'll have to forgive Jehoram. He's a dreamer. Always has been. He sees the makings of a perfect world everywhere, and tries to live there. He would have been a great friend of John Lennon, if they had met.

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  Charlie

  Aug 29, 2020

  My problem with the entire conversation is every bit of the "advice" was completely adversarial with the "tenets" of naturism and what was said in this discussion, that nudity is "just another set of clothes". If that is the case and if these people are actually naturists and not narcissistic exhibitionists then the concept of a nude person, male or female, approaching another person, male or female, and opening a conversation with a shared interest or topic, at the moment, should not be alarming or considered a "hostile" move. If you really don't like being a social nudist, don't be one, just don't start creating special rules for the people you don't care for.
  
  In short, you could do what I do when I'm at a nudist function or resort, ignore the females entirely as a hazard to my legal standing in the world. You can't tell which one is going to make a charge against you just because she doesn't like your look.

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• ST

  

  StevieLorna

  Aug 31, 2020

  [quote]well do not think about nudism as a dating. Nudism means we are free of clothes, not free for dating. Or even that we want to have a nudist date. Lot of people have to really separate nudism from sex, relationship or even (sadly in many cases) promiscuity. Nudism is just another type of clothes. There is no reason to think that people go to nudist beaches to grab a quick date. In real life outside of nudism, women rarely respond to getting hitted on, because we get hit on often. To attract a woman you need to stand out of this crowd. Maybe do something for her first or try to get closer to her mind before approaching. Cheap approach of the type "i will buy you drink if you date me" is lazy and well, you will never stand out. Giving a girl a drink on a hot day and walking away is cool. So why would you think it is different on nudist resort? Is it fair? Ballanced? Probably not, but this is how we humans are wired and how society teach us for centuries.[/quote] Wise words guys. If you cant talk to a woman while you have clothes on.... you wont impress one simply by being naked. No matter how much you want to ....stand out.

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• JO

  

  John

  Sep 1, 2020

  [quote] Wise words guys. If you cant talk to a woman while you have clothes on.... you wont impress one simply by being naked. No matter how much you want to ....stand out.[/quote] I think that was my point. If you're going to be a dick with your clothes on, you'll also be a dick with your clothes off. If you're going to be respectful of women with your clothes on, you'll probably be (or at least should be) be respectful of women with your clothes off. The best thing for men to realize, IMHO, is that women who have been hit on incessantly are going to be all that more sensitive to being hit on in a nudist environment. So it's all that more important for men not to be assholes.

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• JO

  

  John

  Sep 1, 2020

  [quote] In short, you could do what I do when I'm at a nudist function or resort, ignore the females entirely as a hazard to my legal standing in the world. You can't tell which one is going to make a charge against you just because she doesn't like your look.[/quote] Is that also your practice when you're at "textile" events? If so, I'm sad for you. You're cutting yourself off from half of the human race. OTOH, if you're going into an encounter fully expecting someone to make a charge at you, maybe you should be examining your approach. Somebody said, " If you got through your day and encounter an asshole now and then, well, then, you've met an asshole. If you go through your day and every single person you meet is an asshole, well, then, maybe you're the asshole."

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• ME

  Member

  Jan 31, 2021

  I just mind my own business when out and about and out in public nude I just chill. If someone wants to approach me I'm open and friendly.
  Just chilling

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• ME

  Member

  Jan 31, 2021

  I just mind my own business when out and about and out in public nude I just chill. If someone wants to approach me I'm open and friendly.
  Just chilling

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• JO

  

  John

  Dec 18, 2023

  [quote]Single female naturists are very rare, and single male naturists are not.Better to try and find a partner in the textile world and convert them to naturism.[/quote] While it didn't last, this is something I did several years ago. I created a profile on a dating site and noted that I am a nudist. As expected, I didn't get many responses but I did make one connection. We dated a few times before she mentioned it. I informed her about it, which I guess sparked her interest, which led to her wanting to give it a shot. I invited her to accompany me to an indoor winter event. She was quite nervous and stayed close to me keeping her towel wrapped around her for a while, then as she got comfortable she went in for a swim in the pool. Taking into account that she was a BBW, at that point, I realized she got the understanding of naturism being about body acceptance. On the ride home, she said that she couldn't wait until the next winter indoor event. We went to a few others, and later went on a trip to Cypress Cove, a naturist resort in FL. Alas, like i said, it didn't last, though. Another way to meet people in general, if you are an expert or have a great deal of knowledge on a specific topic or subject, you could be a presenter at a naturist gathering, as the organizers of these events are always in need of someone that can lead a workshop. I'm an LMT, and have facilitated workshops at the Eastern Naturist festival in MA, and at the GNI Gatherings in the Poconos. This can lead to meeting both men and women and possibly making connections as people will come up to you after the workshop, and sometimes during the rest of the days of the gathering, with questions and/or asking for pointers on the topic you introduced them to. Can you give tips on writing short stories? Do you know self defense? Are you in a specific allied health profession? Could you lead a yoga or other exercise class? Are you knowledgeable of a specific era in history, or of a noted figure in history? Whatever you know about, someone at a gathering will also have an interest in it, and they will come to you rather than you wondering who you can meet and what you should say to them as an intro to get their attention.Just adding my 2 cents. Take it with a grain of salt, or leave it.

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• SA

  

  Stone Andy

  Dec 19, 2023

  Glad to have women's perspectives on this topic. I'm also impressed that Juliet G. is certified as a solo female, which is very rare on this site.
  Being on the prowl for women both live and online is difficult enough clothed. I agree it's more likely to "convert" a woman to hanging naked than to find a nudist, especially since I'm not particularly comfortable with US nudism to start with. As I pivot back to the dating scene, I'm debating if it may be best to buck the trend of trying to impress everyone in favor of being the most idiosyncratic possible (in positive ways) to attract just a handful of women who are more likely to be genuinely interested. Later I can test how far and long I can leave the bed or bathroom naked.

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