Group problems

Is it just me or are many of you also confused by the number of repetative groups. Not to mention I joined one and when I try to access it only four of the 111 members shows up and I am not allowed to post to the group because I am not a member, even though I am. I am here for networking and meeting others who enjoy the lifestyle but are forced to only enjoy it behind closed doors and the occasional escape to a resort. Groups and chat rooms are a great way to feel like part of a community and share our trials and tribulations.