Hello, I joined TN to find fellow nudists I can relate to and get guidance as this is a fairly new lifestyle for me. As I have accepted friend requests, twice the very first communication is asking if I am shaved? I asked if they would go up to a clothed woman and ask that question? Then why is it ok to ask me that, especially the very first thing! Also the men that send messages of a sexual nature. This isn't a porn site! Anyone have thoughts, suggestions how to minimize these poorly behaved individuals? If I wasn't so secure in my skin, it would be enough to scare me away.
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Roy StephensJul 23, 2020There is way more perverts on TN than there are true nudist. Why they don't go to a porn site is beyond me. Won't solve the perverted questions problem because of so many on here but id get use to using the block button!!! One problem I see tho....you've been on TN for only 7 days and you already have 96 friends. You're just asking for trouble when you collect friends that soon.....you look easy.....if you understand what I'm saying.
Welcome to TN by the way. Hope your time here gets better and ends up being a good time!!!
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SteveJul 23, 2020Don't confuse this site with actual, real-life social nudism. It's the internet, and it can be a tough neighborhood. Groups are a good way to find like-minded folks - you can judge the tenor of them by the discussion threads they contain, before you join. No one gets notified, by the way, if you delete a friend request or un-friend somebody, so you can let go of any folks you're not comfortable with, drama-free. You are absolutely right that questions right off about your body are inappropriate. Men are idiots. Your tolerance may vary.
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Rick60Jul 23, 2020So sorry Di. Just like any Internet you have to be careful. Scammers everywhere. Jerks and more than what you're like for.
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SamJul 23, 2020I like this site because it gives me a connection to a world that I am not always able to access.
I apologize in advance if my thoughts seem inappropriate. I'm a Christian, that means I am a Christ follower. As a result I'm not comfortable with posting nude pictures of myself here because that is "on the internet". As a Christian I am concerned with what is sin and what is not. This opens a whole new aspect, and dimension of my proclivity for nudity. I don't believe nudity is in and of itself sinful, if it were we all sin everyday, and the saying that "cleanliness is next to Godliness" is rendered ridiculous. That is because we all bathe everyday.
My premise is, that nudity is not wrong, and is scripturally sound, but because of peoples puritan thought training it would be hard to convince them otherwise. I'm okay with that.
I don't come here with the thought that I am going to satisfy some prurient interest. That is not my interest at all.
I am intrigued by people here that have arranged their lifestyle so that nudity is an accepted practice. Those that have the ability go without clothes. There is a school of thought here however that doesn't allow for my way of thinking. If you don't have a full frontal photo of you on your page that disqualifies you from membership in many groups. That's fine because people should be free to set their parameters on groups they set up but I'm not sure these attitudes help the "True Nudist" cause.
Oh well I'm going to step down from this soapbox now. You go girl!ReactReply - GO
Gordy57Jul 23, 2020I see you are now at 104 friends. I suspect you have so many because your pictures are viewable to "friends only" I have had a few so called friends, once accepted I never heard from most of them again. Most friend requests I get are from 20-30 yo Sweet honey's, who I am guessing are looking for a lonely old sugar daddy, or links to what i am guessing are porn sites :-( So you are not the only one targeted by the creepers.
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That does suck, unfortunately you won't know if the people here are perverted unless you communicate with them. Good thing is that if they are block em right away. In the beginning I used to get a little offended when i would see "no guys" or something close to that but after being here for a while i understand why. But just keep your head up and block out the negative
ReactReply - STSteveJul 23, 2020
Indeed. If someone's being obnoxious, that's on them, not on you.
ReactReply - CAcaesar22002Jul 23, 2020
I too am somewhat new at this myself. I joined here several years ago out of curiosity, but did not really become active until this year. Like most, I started as a home nudist and then "bravely" visited a nude beach! Once that ice was broken, I started spending more time on here to talk with other like-minded people. Here is what I have found....clearly all my own opinion:
In some ways, things are the opposite of what you would hope. The real nudists tend to be a bit more stand-offish because they don't want to be burned by pervs. The pervs are out to get as many friends as possible, so that they look like regular nudists. To find real people, I spend time in the chat room. You can tell from the chat in there, after a bit of a break-in period, who is real and who is not. Also, if someone sends you a PM and just says "hi"....don't pay attention. If they contact you with something worthwhile, then, certainly take them up in conversation. For example, if I saw you in the chat room, I might say: "Hi there, Alan here, from Wisconsin but did go to school at Drake, in Des Moines. Thought that I would say hi". Hopefully, that is normal enough and we can chat from there.
Think of making someone a friend as a "reward" for a nice chat and potential future chats. Make sense?
ReactReply - ALAlbertJul 26, 2020
Just ignore them. Don't let them upset you.
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CraigApr 14, 2021I agree with most people here. Ignore the people that ask those types of questions. After a few months here, you will learn who the real nudists are and who the perverts are.
ReactReply - MEMemberApr 23, 2021[quote]I agree with most people here. Ignore the people that ask those types of questions. After a few months here, you will learn who the real nudists are and who the perverts are.[/quote] There are real nudists here? Well, maybe a dozen at best................ReactReply
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DaveApr 24, 2021This site is marginal, at best, at keeping people out that shouldn't belong here. This site was suppose to promote nudism/naturism in a positive light but in our opinion, failed miserably. I say that knowing that they owners have already singled me out as some sort of trouble maker or at least one of their big PITA's! This site is packed with fakes, pervs, creeps, trolls and those seeking sexual gratification by viewing pictures of others and being able to talk dirty to a stranger and suffer zero ramifications or take any responsibility for things they say. Regrettably, many, many other women weren't think skinned as you are but I wonder how long that will last because the fakes, pervs and creeps will just keep bombarding you with disrespectful comments and messages. This site and it's owners have shown who they care most for, the real truenudists or those that pay them a fee to look at pictures and get away with giving our female members grief for being truenudists. I wish there was someone you could talk to about your issues but truthfully, I have a close female friend that has tried to remain her and thought she had the ear of the female half of the ownership but unfortunately she does not. Many others, women and men, have tried to have their gripes and concerns heard but never receive any response from the owners. Why do I stay if I feel this way? Many, many of us feel this way and we remain because we've found some really nice people here and made friends. Some of us have met face to face and have friendships because of this site but we have had to weed through some really bad apples to find the good ones. Be well and be strong.[/quote] ( I shortened the quote) Great reply. I'll add that the chat room is a waste of time. When I tried a couple of times it seemed like it was the children's play room. As for inappropriate question, it shows up front that the person is a flake; and there are several of them here and elsewhere. Good luck on this site.ReactReply - JA
JasonMay 2, 2021Thank you for your post. I am new here, & new to PUBLIC nudity. (Actually, Ive never consciously been naked in PUBLIC! Although I was naked, in a coma , in a public hospital bed for 6 weeks - with a machine breathing for for 3 of those.)
Due to the ABI (Acquired Brain Injury) I sustained the first time I broke my neck (C-1) I struggle with Social Norms. (Acceptable forms of behavior in given situations.) Id appreciate you guidance, advice & your friendship, please?ReactReply - JAJasonMay 2, 2021
Well said!
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Strandjunge59May 2, 2021Nobody has asked me that question because you can see it on my profile pic. Everybody can see me nude on a nudist beach. This is a nudist forum. So why not a profile pic where you can see everything. This is fair to others who do the same here. This is my opinion but everybody has his own decision about it. And I respect their and your decision.
Besides that I think it is a stupid question but it doesn't necessarily have to be a sexual question in their mind. Some nudists think only shaved nudists are real nudists.ReactReply - STStrandjunge59May 3, 2021
When I read today my posting from yesterday it sounds if I want to apologize those men who asks such a question in a first chat. But that was not what I wanted to say. My wife would say that I wrote a nice nonsense and as a man I can't evaluate how she would feel if she hears such a question. And I think she would be right. So I say it clearly: You are right to criticize such a behavior.
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