Hubbies are nudist but wives don`t approve it. Why?? Lets discuss and solve it..

iamrajOriginal Poster

Apr 13, 2016

Hi
As per my personal experience with girls and women, i do feel girls are naturally nudist and exhibitionist but after reading few post and profile of men, most of the profiles read, husbands are nudist and wives either not nudist or don't approves it. How come...???

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ME
Member
Mar 14, 2017
I find the last post to be thought provoking for myself. My Office manager 23 years ago and I got to be best friends. Sadly even more so than our own spouses as neither one of us were 'friends' with our spouses just married. As time went on I divorced and she subsequently did too. It's times like that we lean on our friends and we did. She admitted to me her deep feelings for me, long story short I had kids to raise first but we did marry a couple years later.
We discovered living naked together. Before nudism we had the deepest respect, friendship and common ground. However having been practicing the lifestyle for near 20 years it's become a very important element. Even much more so after successfully launching the last kid and being able to get out in social nudity activities.
Mrs Rock knows there is no going back for us now. She is the one more anxious to get this season started than I am and I'm pretty stoked.
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John
Mar 14, 2017
[quote]My wife is ok with my nudism. She is looking with me for places we can go to where I can be nude while she can remain clothed.[/quote] I'd be very happy with that.
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John
Mar 14, 2017
Very well said NakedNaturalist.
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traildoc
Mar 14, 2017
My wife has come with me to various nude resorts, though she remains clothed except when in the pool or sauna. Actually, I can't blame her because we both are very sensitive to the skin and have to drench ourselves with sunscreen before we can go out. Last year she came with me to a nude resort for a week. It went well enough and this year she said she'd go again.
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John
Mar 14, 2017
Lucky man. Ask her to give my wife a call will ya! LOL
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Phil
Mar 29, 2017
I don't think about it, just accept it. I was a closet nudist for a long time, at home when no-one else was around. Some time ago I was helping my wife clean the house one Friday morning and I suggested we do it nude. I was really nervous about suggesting it, my heart was beating fast and my throat dry. Anyway, she didn't go crazy and think I was nuts. She did for about half an hour, but then didn't like it so got dressed while I carried on nude. I found that some things, like cleaning the shower, are easier done while nude. Next Friday we started cleaning and I joked "how about nude cleaning day again?" She just said no, but you go ahead. It was like the greatest relief in the world! Since then every Friday has been nude day, for me. The more often I am nude the more I like it. The best thing is that my wife doesn't mind, although she remains clothed. She probably thinks I'm a bit eccentric, and doesn't want to end up the same! I think she is worried about either being caught, or someone finding out we are those weirdo nudists. To be honest I don't really know why she doesn't want to be nude, and I don't ask. It would be nice if she would join me, but it doesn't matter to me.
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ToreAnders
Mar 29, 2017
Some activities are in fact quite common; for example home nudity, morning routines like drinking coffee in the nude, undressing long before one goes to bed... men often think these "activities" make them a nudist, whereas women also include going to a nude beach or naturist swim, or socializing with other nude people. Practising on my french horn at home doesn't make me a musician - playing in a band does :) As for approval from the wife that has never been a problem for me as I don't have one. However, I think many of the "couples" here are men who seek some excitement from picture swapping or chatting. This is what the wife doesn't "approve" of - she has of course not been asked.
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YT
Feb 25, 2021
I find this interesting even though the topic has been dormant for quite some time. I do disagree with those of you who think the single (married) male is after one thing while a nudist venues (cheap thrills and the like). So, your saying that single males attend for these reasons and that because your married you should share and mostly do activities together? My wife and I have vastly different ideas of what is fun, relaxing, interesting and so on. In fact, in over 25 yrs of being together only twice have we ever vacationed together. Sad, maybe, maybe not, but what is the point of doing something if your going to be miserable the whole time even if you are there together? I have many activities I like to do with all kinds of people and my wife is the same way with her groups of friends and the activities they do. Ulterior motives may be the case for some but certainly not all.
I attend nudist venues for a legal place to enjoy and experience nakedness with other like minded individuals/couples and have made friends with many of them while doing so. My wife simply has no interest, so why should I or she have to do something we don't want to do? My wife has no issues with me doing so.
I feel life is too short to limit yourself and your experiences just to appease others.
What is a "Normal" marriage relationship? I don't think anyone can really say without putting some limitations or conditions on it. I have friends whose wives would have made it to the end of the first date with me because of personality differences but it works for them, so who am to say any different.
I wonder, what would psychologists say is the reason for this single point of view of why some think there can only be one reason why men attend as a single? Jealousy, insecurity, confidence, public image or some other? That isn't meant to offend, just wondering why so narrow minded as to rationale.
All things being equal, one could then say the same about single females, correct? What about 2 males or 2 females, they must be gay and in a relationship with each other, right? Or is it entirely possible that they are just friends and enjoy companionship while enjoying nudist venues. Or maybe they are new to nudity and came together for moral support?
Point is, a single reason is extremely shortsighted and goes against the naturist values that I personally have come across. But, what the hell do I know.
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John English
Feb 27, 2021
I am lucky I am the nudest my wife is cool about even goes to clubs but stays dressed
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AustinJohn
Mar 1, 2021
And sadly for me personally I prefer older women so they are thinking they don't compare when are actually gaining with my interests. Always been attracted to older women my whole life.
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nudony
Mar 1, 2021
I think the primary concern for women is being objectified/sexualized. I've often heard comments from non-nudist women along the lines of "I don't want to be paraded around naked in front of strangers." The implication is that in a nudist setting they are not in control of their own nudity; and that their nudity will be "entertainment", presumably for male nudists.
What will often debunk that preconceived notion is observing other nudist women; specifically when they demonstrate confidence being openly nude, with no apparent "adverse repercussion." The "comparison" that occurs is less in terms of physical attributes; but more in terms of "attitude" (which is not to say women don't also compare their bodies to others'). Because then they start to wonder why it is that these women are comfortable nude and they aren't. And in my wife's case for example, there was only one way she was going to be able to answer that question: by trying it.
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Cougar01
Jan 19, 2023
The wife has accepted the fact I prefer being nude at home even though she will not join me even for a romantic evening at home. I do thank her for being so understanding and respect her viewpoint. Sometimes I will stretch the limits of her patience and go out nude, like a quick walk down the wash early in the morning or late at night or a drive to the mailbox or ATM. She did get upset when I picked her up at the rec center with just a towel on my lap, afraid somebody might see! I can work in the garage and backyard nude if I wish as well as anywhere in the house.
She has no interest in being nude but allows me some freedom which I try not to abuse. It's just a difference in upbringing I guess.
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Tom D
Jan 20, 2023
[quote]The wife has accepted the fact I prefer being nude at home even though she will not join me even for a romantic evening at home. I do thank her for being so understanding and respect her viewpoint. Sometimes I will stretch the limits of her patience and go out nude, like a quick walk down the wash early in the morning or late at night or a drive to the mailbox or ATM. She did get upset when I picked her up at the rec center with just a towel on my lap, afraid somebody might see! I can work in the garage and backyard nude if I wish as well as anywhere in the house. She has no interest in being nude but allows me some freedom which I try not to abuse. It's just a difference in upbringing I guess.[/quote] Similar to my situation. My wife is fine with me being nude at home including the back yard even she rarely is. Doesn't want me to drive nude.
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Tom D
Apr 7, 2023
[quote]So there you have it. I'm a nudist and she's not. Do I wish she would join in? Absolutely. Will I try to pressure her into going with me when I know she's extremely uncomfortable with the idea? No, I will not. Did I marry the wrong person? Definitely not.[/quote] That sums up my feelings also,
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ME
Member
Apr 8, 2023
[quote]Hi As per my personal experience with girls and women, i do feel girls are naturally nudist and exhibitionist but after reading few post and profile of men, most of the profiles read, husbands are nudist and wives either not nudist or don't approves it. How come...???[/quote] Nearly every comment is an essay! The reality is social conditioning. In the first instance is the demand that women be virtuous and since the sexual revolution society has been programmed to believe men are all predatory. Society is also conditioned to believe that nudity and sex go hand in glove. Men are also conditioned to accept social nudity within the male gender by locker room and even military for showering and changing etc. There's a bit more to it but that's the essence of it. Studies have shown all genders can be comfortable being nude once the social conditioning is marginalised or understood
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Bill
Apr 8, 2023
[quote]Nearly every comment is an essay![/quote] I cannot tell -- is this a complaint or compliment? Sometimes it takes more than a few sentences to fully flesh out a complicated topic, if this is complaint. I still feel that there is no real solution to be had on this subject, but reading other people's thoughtful arguments can enlighten and inform those here who have reluctant partners, maybe giving them ideas as to how to give gentle pushes in the naked direction. It's a case by case situation. If even just one couple is brought closer together through these words, that is still positive momentum for the bigger picture of nudism.
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Sheila
Apr 12, 2023
As wife, I can tell you that not every man is pro nudism. My first hubbie was not into nudism even though he knew I grew up a nudist. At first I thought I'd be able to change his mind. But eventually I realized that would not happen, so we divorced. I will not live with a man who isn't a nudist.
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nudony
Jun 8, 2024
[quote]I have finally managed to persuade my wife to go with me in a few weeks but that's been 20 years in the making.[/quote] Good for you! I hope it goes well and she enjoys herself. I would say there's a third cause: personal values. Someone raised religious or very conservative is often going to be resistant to - or even completely reject - the notion of social nudity. My wife's primary concern was not so much feeling sexualized or that her body was "not good enough"; but more so that it was "just morally wrong" for a woman to "display herself" to strangers, or be able to see other men's penis. Her ingrained opinion changed, luckily, as she interacted with nudists and found that seeing them - and being seen naked by them - in that context was far from immoral. But those values can make them "tough nuts to crack." When you combine all three, then it becomes even more difficult to navigate.
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ME
Member
Jun 8, 2024
I would completely agree with your assessment about personal values / boundaries, as that is the case with my wife. Your comment was completely spot on,"I would say there's a third cause: personal values. Someone raised religious or very conservative is often going to be resistant to - or even completely reject - the notion of social nudity." She initially directly stated the same but after a slow, gradual process (a couple of years) of being around the folks and interacting at our resort / camp, her view point moderated. I am quite glad she now skinny dips, hangs out in the camper nude & occasionally sits out nude under the awning; we both are enjoying ourselves. And that's what really counts.
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Tom D
Jun 8, 2024
These suggestions only work if the reluctant spouse is comfortable around nude people. My wife doesn't want to see anyone nude except me so it wouldn't work in my situation.
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Tom D
Jun 8, 2024
These suggestions only work if the reluctant spouse is comfortable around nude people. My wife doesn't want to see anyone nude except me so it wouldn't work in my situation.
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Tom D
Jun 8, 2024
These suggestions only work if the reluctant spouse is comfortable around nude people. My wife doesn't want to see anyone nude except me so it wouldn't work in my situation.
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Tom D
Jun 8, 2024
These suggestions only work if the reluctant spouse is comfortable around nude people. My wife doesn't want to see anyone nude except me so it wouldn't work in my situation.
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Tom D
Jun 8, 2024
These suggestions only work if the reluctant spouse is comfortable around nude people. My wife doesn't want to see anyone nude except me so it wouldn't work in my situation.
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