when a mate is reluctant??????

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  Cheri Donna Dawson

  Dec 3, 2009

  [quote]How do you overcome religious convictions? Our church is very traditional, and my husband thinks nudity is lewd.[/quote]     The Naturist Society's website under "resources" has a section called "205 Arguments in Support of Naturism" - it includes responses to just about any religious argument.   I have put together a brochure, "So, your partner is interested in nudism..." and will happily email the PDF to anyone.  It can also be found at the Travelites' website on the left side of the page with a link.   I would recommend printing it out and leave it where your reluctant partner might see it, just don't hand it to him/her.  When you're sure it's been seen, offer a compromise.  In exchange of an hr or 3 of his/her time, offer something they would really like, ie. you cooking something special or a night out on the town, their choice of tv show or movie, something in your budget.   Remember as said above, let your partner know how treasured he/she is and let them know that if for any reason he/she is uncomfortable, you'll gladly leave with them.  Nudism isn't for everyone. :) Cheri

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  Member

  Dec 4, 2009

  [quote]How do you overcome religious convictions? I am so sorry but that really made me laugh...not at the poster but at myself...simply because I had chosen to join the religious life....YES SERIOUSLY , I was training to become a nun........And look at me now!..Well dont look...because I havnt got any clothes on LOL.[/quote]    Jackie, honey...I just have to tell you that THIS habit is so much more attractive on you! Jen

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  Philfreeeuk

  Dec 4, 2009

  [quote][quote]How do you overcome religious convictions? I am so sorry but that really made me laugh...not at the poster but at myself...simply because I had chosen to join the religious life....YES SERIOUSLY , I was training to become a nun........And look at me now!..Well dont look...because I havnt got any clothes on LOL.[/quote]    Jackie, honey...I just have to tell you that THIS habit is so much more attractive on you![/quote] Haha, very good Jen, ...... and Jackie, sooooooo glad you saw the light!

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• ME

  Member

  Jan 29, 2010

  Hi there,  My wife and I have been marrried for 10 years and have 2 kids 7 and 4.  I want to try the naturist lifestyle on a weekend away with the wife (minus kids at first) but have no idea how to ask her.  I am pretty sure she will not be in for it.  She is happy nude around the house and kids but she is still loosing wieght and I am not sure she would like it in front of others.

  If anyone has any suggestions for me I would appreciate emails to satanact@yahoo.com.au because I cannot get on here that often.

  Thanks
  Satan

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  Cheri Donna Dawson

  Jan 29, 2010

  I can and have recommended to others to print out my brochure to reluctant partners (www.travelites.info/brochure.html) and leave it where it will be seend. Do NOT just hand it to her.   After you're SURE she's seen it, offer a compromise.  In exchange for an hr. or two of her time accompanying you to a nudist venue (AANR and TNS affiliated venues might be the better options but this isn't a guarantee) offer her something she truly would like, ie. you cooking for her, you taking her out to dinner, her choice of TV show or movie, something in your budget.  Keep reminding her of how lovely she truly is.  Oh....and 3 more things: be patient, be patient, be patient. Nudism truly isn't for everyone.   One couple with whom I'm acquainted, she took 10 years to delve into our lifestyle.  Now she's the one to drag him to gatherings. Cheri

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  Gerry-4

  Jan 29, 2010

  [quote]Hi there,  My wife and I have been marrried for 10 years and have 2 kids 7 and 4.  I want to try the naturist lifestyle on a weekend away with the wife (minus kids at first) but have no idea how to ask her.  I am pretty sure she will not be in for it.  She is happy nude around the house and kids but she is still loosing wieght and I am not sure she would like it in front of others. If anyone has any suggestions for me I would appreciate emails to satanact@yahoo.com.au because I cannot get on here that often. Thanks Satan[/quote]    Hi Satan,   I wish you could just tell your wife that there will also be other women trying to lose weight wherever you wind up, but that may not be the right approach.   Have you absolutely never brought up the subject with her before? When I started my discovery of naturism, I kept my wife informed the whole time and she was always involved in my research on the subject. After all, she's my wife. Therefore, I hope she at least has some idea of what naturism is, at least as much as you do. If not, you may have a harder time convincing her than if she was involved from the beginning.   Have you and your wife ever perused a magazine about naturism together? Have you commented on articles about naturism or how naturist photos tend to be quite different from those used in pornography?   You say your wife is already quite happy to be nude at home. That IS an important first step. Maybe it's time to show her some printed material, preferably not just off the Internet, but all the same from legitimate sources. No matter where you live in the world, it would be hard to not recommend checking out The Naturist Society. It is one of the most credible naturist organisations around. They, in turn, can help you find an organisation closer to home for more information.   Good luck! Nude life is best shared, and a spouse or other life-partner is the first person your should share it with.

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  sunhippy

  Feb 6, 2010

  Just taking our time.  She visits the local c/o beach with me and
  dresses however she feels comfortable at the moment.  I have a lot more vacation time from work so I communicate
  with her openly when I go to the the club or beach by myself.  She expresses interest in joining me at the club and I am sure she will join
  me when she is ready.

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  gator1

  Feb 7, 2010

  [quote][quote]...[/quote] Nude life is best shared, and a spouse or other life-partner is the first person your should share it with.[/quote] That is the heart of it right there, for me.  I enjoy being nude with friends when my wife is not able to be there (like yesterday, when I spent the afternoon at the resort), but it is sooooo much more a great experiece when we share the nude time together. Edit:  Immediately after I hit "submit on the above, I read the area quoted to my sweet wife, and she responded an enthusiastic, "Well, it is.  It makes it so much better." Gator1

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  Cheri Donna Dawson

  Dec 9, 2010

  [quote]I would never think about pushing my wife into being naked, but I often think about pushing her off a high cliff, he,he,[/quote] I think all of our mates think that from time to time and I would believe that's a two-way street.  LOL

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  kramtrohs

  Dec 13, 2010

  Patience is the only way!!! My girlfriend ius slowly gettinbg there, & I want her to feel confortable while she "gets there"
  & Cheri: I thought that article you wrote was great!! I'm going to show it to my GF!

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  Cheri Donna Dawson

  Dec 13, 2010

  [quote]Patience is the only way!!! My girlfriend ius slowly gettinbg there, & I want her to feel confortable while she "gets there" & Cheri: I thought that article you wrote was great!! I'm going to show it to my GF![/quote] Thank you. Rather than showing the brochure to your GF, leave it where she'll see it.  It will have greater impact if she finds it herself.

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  Hill4986

  Dec 13, 2010

  A friend of us had Herpes....with the sporadic marks in her lower back.  She was then an on/off nudist for a while and we couldn't understand why.
  For her having herpes was a shame. She was worried of people giving her a ''reputation'' because of that.
  We ''discovered'' when my wife was with her at a store shopping for some dresses... from that point on it slowly became a non-issue. With our acceptance and ''so-what'' attitude she started to forget about potential other peoples opinion.
  Reluctance to nudity is never where or when you think it may be.
  G. Hill

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  Curt, or Cowboy

  Mar 19, 2011

  Pointless bump

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  Cheri Donna Dawson

  Mar 20, 2011

  [quote]If you have a reluctant mate, the answer is simple.Get a new mate,Problem solved.[/quote]   That's not facing the issue/problem - deal with it.  Nudism isn't for everyone but the reluctant mate might want to think his/her issues throughly through before offering any kind of ultimatum.

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  richinud

  May 5, 2011

  @jackieinoz,
  Your tale of first a confirmingly bad experience followed by a surprisingly good experience brings joy and hope to those of us with have other halves who are unable to accommodate the naturist way of life in a partner.  Well done for giving it a second (and more) shot.  I don't think it's necessary for all of us to do the same as everyone else, or even the same as our partner, but we do need to respect them and to be able to share time with them.  Sometimes we have to put our prejudices and our "histories" aside to be able to do so.  Very impressed with your experience, Jackie, good on yer!  :-)
  Rich.
  http://www.naktiv.net/

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  rickinohio

  May 5, 2011

  I can relate as well - 34 years on Saturday.  but I have only recently recognised that I am a nudist.  Went last summer to a nudist resort.  Wife is not interested, but does not try to restrict me.  But I must say, she is nude in the house more lately.  Who knows?

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  Philfreeeuk

  Jun 6, 2011

  Bump!

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  Cheri Donna Dawson

  Jul 9, 2011

  bump

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