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Sep 3, 2011I love the outdoors and the benefits of going nude. But my wife will not even talk about it. Any ideas?
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ManOfWicklowDec 10, 2012[quote]Go to Amazon.com type the word nudism into their search bar.[/quote][img src="http://www.fengtastic.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/sustainable-1.jpg">ReactReply - MEMemberMar 19, 2013After about a year of married,I told my wife about my love of nudity,and the nudist and clothing-optional resorts that I visited occasionally in order to enjoy being nude in the great outdoors with other nudist.She was surprised,but she was also very open to going with me to a nudist resort and giving it a try.Last summer I introduced her to nudism,and it went very well.She accompanied me on several occasions to nudist activities. I am thrilled to have my wife along on my nudist excursions.I was honest and understanding with my wife about the subject.She decided to join me,upon seeing my enthusiasm for visiting nudist venues.ReactReply
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jerryApr 11, 2013[quote]
[/quote][quote]Well was easy for me took her to Jamaica stayed at regular resort but took trip to Negril 7 mile nude beach found secluded spot I got naked after seeing other women walk by topless she took hers off the when she went into the water her bottoms followed after that no turning back back home we go to clothing optional resorts when she is comfortable with people there she gets naked and stays that way after about a yr she is full blown nudist like me[/quote][quote]I love the outdoors and the benefits of going nude. But my wife will not even talk about it. Any ideas?[/quote]ReactReply - CD
Cheri Donna DawsonApr 11, 2013[quote]FeelinFree, you know of some videos on Naturism? Please share the titles and where one might purchase them.
Thanks
Bob
[/quote]Body Positive from TNS is a good one although it's a bit long. They have an introductory video as well; AANR has Welcome to Our World.ReactReply - JEjerryApr 11, 2013[quote]
[/quote][quote]Well was easy for me took her to Jamaica stayed at regular resort but took trip to Negril 7 mile nude beach found secluded spot I got naked after seeing other women walk by topless she took hers off the when she went into the water her bottoms followed after that no turning back back home we go to clothing optional resorts when she is comfortable with people there she gets naked and stays that way after about a yr she is full blown nudist like me[/quote][quote]I love the outdoors and the benefits of going nude. But my wife will not even talk about it. Any ideas?[/quote]ReactReply - ST
stvsmth990May 14, 2013What a great forum. I thought I might be the only one with this issue. I love to be nude and my wife is well aware that I do. When I am home alone, I am frequently nude. We still have one 20 yr. old son home but when he is not home my wife will stay nude after waking up.
We have been to Mexico, Jamaica and the Dominican where all have had nude beaches and we have seen topless women there. Unfortunately, we go with friends. She is not opposed to it, but not with anyone we know. I asked her about going to a nude resort here in Missouri and she said she may go sometime with me. My only issue is that she has no idea that I am active in groups like this and would be very upset to find out that I am.
She is not a prude by any means but is conscious about her weight right now and is less likely to disrobe unless she is under the influence of alcohol. Then she is totally uninhibited and will get naked, usually in our friends hot tub together with my buddy and his wife.
Any ideas for me? I feel like I am doing something wrong and behind her back joining groups like this but also feel that these groups provide me with insight on what I can be doing to actively participate.ReactReply - MAManOfWicklowMay 14, 2013[quote]My only issue is that she has no idea that I am active in groups like this and would be very upset to find out that I am.
She is not a prude by any means but is conscious about her weight right now and is less likely to disrobe unless she is under the influence of alcohol. Then she is totally uninhibited and will get naked, usually in our friends hot tub together with my buddy and his wife.
Any ideas for me? I feel like I am doing something wrong and behind her back joining groups like this but also feel that these groups provide me with insight on what I can be doing to actively participate.[/quote]The answer is simple - Give your wife plenty of alcohol before telling her about this site.ReactReply - MAManOfWicklowMay 14, 2013
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ctcouple66Jul 5, 2013i know it sounds silly and unbelievable but one day i was at work texting and we where talking about summer plans and i just texted why dont we try to go to a nudist resort this summer.i fully expected a fast responce of are you f..ing kidding me.but no i got a responce of sure ,i allmost feel off the chair.i dident keep saying rerally are you sure i went right into ok great and dident talk about it again till i found the perfect place for us to go.clothing optional good nudist additude and just far enough away from our home to not have her worry about knowing anyonne.so i booked it and told her we where all set and slowly thru the months showed her pics of the place and stuff there is to do there.i got her some books to read and told her i would get her a massage there .so my point is you never know till you ask.i just wish i asked 17 years ago.oh well better late than never good luck TomReactReply - MEMemberMar 14, 2015well said.. wish I could help out but got the same problem here..... I have asked many times in the chat room, and only got "go to this site or this site",,,,,,,,,, well no wonder you see more guys than women......... sorry to vent. every one have a good day nude. do hope to hear from some soon....ReactReply
- MEMemberMar 14, 2015you must have a very understanding wife. I just wish mine was the same way.I left my computer open and she saw this site, she told me this morning she was "not happy" ..well how do I explain,,,, I did tell her I wanted to be a nudist..... so what is next????ReactReply
- MEMemberMar 14, 2015like it...........ReactReply
- JUJustnudenothingmoreMar 14, 2015[quote]well said.. wish I could help out but got the same problem here..... I have asked many times in the chat room, and only got "go to this site or this site",,,,,,,,,, well no wonder you see more guys than women......... sorry to vent. every one have a good day nude. do hope to hear from some soon....
[/quote]You kept, repeatedly, asking to talk to women in PM's about your wife. You were advised to go the AANR and TNS site for literature that relates to women and nudism. It was sound and solid advice. Take the advice or not, just stop whining.ReactReply - LO
LondoSunApr 8, 2015I've mentioned this before:function $th_doReturn(a){var b=document.getElementById('$th_texthelpReturnValueID');b!=null&&(b.setAttribute('result',a),a=document.createEvent('Events'),a.initEvent('$th_texthelpReturnEvent',!0,!1),b.dispatchEvent(a))};function rw_sendSocketMessage(aData){$th_doReturn(aData);};
Nudism is a personal journey.
It's your journey. Don't worry about your wife. If you want to be a nudist, start being a nudist. Be considerate of your wife, for sure, but start being a nudist. Sleeping nude is a start (believe it or not, many people still don't). Getting up and making your coffee without putting anything on is another step. If you're lucky enough to have some secluded space where you can lie in the sun, start working on those tanlines. One good beginning is having your morning coffee, or tea, outside n the sun if you have a protected spot where you will not be seen by anyone other than you wife.
While you're doing all that....DO NOT PRESSURE YOUR WIFE AT ALL!!!!!
Please excuse the all CAPS...but it is the most important thing I will say in this whole response.
You want her to JOIN you....not to become a nudist at the same time you do. That would be lovely...but it is a personal journey.
Don't ask her if you can go hang out with other nudists right away. Bad idea. It also makes us question whether you're a nudist, or an exhibitionist. Nudism is about being nude. Being nude with others is something nudists often do, but it is not a requirement for being a nudist. Evaluate your motives. You might find you're on the wrong site...and you will have problems with your marriage too.
Oh...one more all CAPS coming up...also as important. RESPECT YOUR WIFE AND HER CHOICE...ALWAYS!!!
Don't ever try to pressure her. I am a nudist. My wife...sort of...with me, in quieter, secluded spots. Until she wants to join me, without me pressuring her, I will not be going to nudist resorts or going to meet other nudists. I am a solo nudist until my wife chooses to join me, at which point I will be part of a nudist couple. Even then, we may not ever go to nudist resorts.
It's a personal journey for everyone and you should respect her, no matter what. Get her want to join you of her own free will. Don't try to persuade her. It will likely never work, and will most likely backfire.ReactReply - DA
DavidApr 8, 2015I have to agree with Londo's post above - Nudism is an individual journey and can't (nor should it be) forced on anyone.
My wife of 33 years is not interested in social nudism other than with a very few select close friends. Even then, experiences are few and far in between. Nothing wrong with that, it's what works for her. As for me, I love being outside naked (usually solo) especially if I'm able to fish, hike, camp etc. That's what works for me. I would love it if we would share more nude time together but am happy she understands my desire to be naked in nature and I respect her desire to embrace nudity on her own terms. I will never stop encouraging her to join me but will also never force the issue. I know that doesn't answer your question about how to get her to join you but if you continue to do the things that together bring you joy, you never know - she may just decide to join you. After all, there was a time I didn't like brussel sprouts...ReactReply - KE
KeithMay 1, 2015[quote]I'm in the same boat! As far as my wife goes, its not about people seeing her...its about her seeing people. She does go nude occassionally around the house, but not very often. We were stationed in Germany for a bit....went to the sauna(which is all nude)....she walked in....and immediately walked out. Since then she hasn't even considered the idea. Now she won't even consider a clothing optional vacation because she will still see nude people. It's to the point where I am about to give up on nudism completely....as a couple....and alone as well.[/quote]My wife tends to fit into that category but has not totally shut the social nudist door yet.
And I for one won't give up my nudist lifestyle if she close down. It will just lessen my options.ReactReply - MEMemberMay 1, 2015[quote]Married couples should be able to talk about anything and everything. A marriage is about being open and honest with each other ... open communication is the key. I might be that she is unwilling to tell her true feelings about your nudity, her nudity and nudity in general. How do you get your wife to join in? I'd start with opening the lines of communication. Start with ... "I know you have concerns, fear, doubts, dislikes or are uncomfortable with my nudity and nudity in general, can we just talk about that?" If the lines of communication are easier while clothed ... then by all means ... put something on to open those lines up. Things will get said that may hurt but it's better to get them out so you can discuss all the points of fear, concern, doubt ... etc. You have to address her questions and concerns and that only happens with open communication...if she's not willing to talk, there's something else going on cuz wife's want and need to talk and we need to listen. :)[/quote]So very well put. My wife was strictly a home nudist for 15 yrs, petrified of being scene naked by anyone but me. Secondly she has had a life of being constantly dogged after and she was afraid of it being worse if she was naked. Being a very social person I felt so trapped and aggravated about being stuck at home.
We had a very long discussion that covered a 3 day weekend. It wasn't me trying to talk her into it and her just opposing social nudity. In brief it was a discussion of where we both were in life, our desires, needs, voids ect. As Andydi mentioned, some things were said that did hurt to hear for us both. Open communication works for us as we truly care about each others opinion and happiness.
Fast forward 3 yrs. She is a very active member at our club, she is the one all geared up and excited to get our place opened up this weekend for the season. It wasn't my 15 years of patients and hoping, it was our mutual respect and communication that allowed her to make her own decision to give it a try. We met a couple right here in TN that became dear friends which I believe calmed her nervousness once she decided to pull the trigger. We are now neighbors at camp.ReactReply