Married but wife not a nudist, males are not all creepy...

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  Randall

  Sep 21, 2011

  I totally agree. I too am a married nudist, but the wife is not into it at all. She doesn't like it, but knows I get out nudeevery chance I can.I know I'm not a creepy guy , in fact, told by most that I'm too nice for my own good. I know what you mean about the single male is so often stereotyped as pervs and after sex only, but that is too often far from the truth. Many of us solo males just want to be a part of the nudist scene and join in, even though we can't do it with our parterner.Everyone should be given a chance to reveal their real colors. True enough that there are a lot of bad guys out there, but it doesn't take long to figure them out and send them on their way.Just some of my thoughts on the subject.
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  paul

  Sep 21, 2011

  dito total agree

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• CA

  

  caster1

  Sep 21, 2011

  Maybe Ashton Kutcher being nude on Two and a half men will help our plight.

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• MA

  

  mallardm45

  Sep 21, 2011

  I can understand your concern about all of us who practice our lifestyle being catagorized as creepy, pervert and unsavory. I'm luck though that those who have met me know just the kind of person I really am and except me willingly. I might not be the best looking or have the best body but if there is trouble I'm the first there to jump in and lend a hand. Just be who you are and those that wish not to befriend you be the ones that loose. They will never know what a good person you are. I know I would never want to be around anyone who considers me anything but a friend.

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  intune

  Sep 21, 2011

  all i can say is i agree.

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• TE

  

  Terry

  Sep 21, 2011

  Yes, you are absolutely right. Its been a hot topic everywhere with nudists including the AANR monthly bulletin. At our club we see many single men. Some are married, live on the property and their wives are at home. Some are single, not married and just there for a nice day. No matter what the reason we have never had any problems with single guys. Most of the problems at the club seem to involve married men, alcohol and hitting on women. Single, married or otherwise. Not sure what the otherwise would be, but I thought I'd toss it in there. I've seen opinions expressed in other forums that all single males should be banned from any nudist clubs or resorts. They claim that their wives are NEVER safe from these men and can't even walk alone without men following and harrasing them. I'd like to think my wife is attractive and she's never had a problem like that. Any male encounters ahve always respectful.

  I guess the solution is for clubs to just have a more tolerant policy towards single males. You don't want quotas, but you can't be overloaded with males either. Some clubs even have singles clubs within for socializing much like a singles ministry in a church. Another part of the solution is for each person to prove themselves trustworthy and establish a good reputation.

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  LondoSun

  Sep 21, 2011

  I agree that there is a stereotype that singlel guys are creepy. That is unfortunate and usually not true. I am a nudist. My wife is not. However, I'm not a single male nudist. I'm a married male nudist. I wear my wedding band, even when nude. Everyone seems to be commenting on single males here. By definition, you can't be married and be a single male, unless you are separated from your spouse.
  There probably is some of the "single male being creepy" stereotype that "creeps" over to the married male nudist who's wife does not join. Does anyone have any experience with that?

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• SR

  

  Srcon28

  Sep 22, 2011

  I'm part of this club too......

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• ME

  Member

  Sep 22, 2011

  I totally agree that this is an issue - like in all walks of life a small minority of "creepy" people, be it criminals, lazy people or whatever creates an image that is not desired. I am not married, but my wife passed away in 2006 from cancer - so yes, I am single. My new G/F is not closed to going to a nude beach, but does not classify herself as a nudist per se. Suppose its just a matter that we need to deal with.

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• ME

  Member

  Sep 22, 2011

  U know when single and living in Wales I was victim to this thought when I tried to join a naturist swimming club at my local sports center-I was turned away for being single. Now to find discrimination because only I care for the naturist life drives me live. Just a closing thought here,,,, if naturism is supposed to be a non-sexual choice,,, why are we asked our sexuality on this site??? maybe that should be removed?

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  mallardm45

  Sep 22, 2011

  [quote]I admit it...I'm a "Mingle"...a married single.  Wife is a confirmed textile.[/quote] Great word "Mingle" that should be part of the nudist vocabulary. Mind if I call myself a Mingle too.

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  ManOfWicklow

  Sep 22, 2011

  [quote][quote]I admit it...I'm a "Mingle"...a married single.  Wife is a confirmed textile.[/quote]    Great word "Mingle" that should be part of the nudist vocabulary. Mind if I call myself a Mingle too.[/quote] Ha,ha, yes Mallard, you could change your username to-Mallingleor maybe-Mingmal.And Free2befree, you could be-Freeming,ha,ha. I could be known as-Mowming.

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  BurnsintheSun

  Sep 22, 2011

  I am a married nudist.  My wife is not, because she is uncomfortable with her appearance.  She has even said that if she were more comfortable with herself she would be willing to go to a resort/campground with me, but I'm not holding my breath thinking she will ever get to that point.    I understand the arguments that organizations make about why they discriminate against single, and as I term myself "unaccompanied" men, and it's basically because there are more of us then there are women or couples.  So in essence the groups who have discriminatory policies are catering to the minority by excluding the majority of their potential member base. That is what I have the most trouble accepting. Here is a good article on the subject.http://www.examiner.com/nudist-culture-in-dallas/single-dallas-nudist-men-and-the-discrimination-issue

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  feelinfree2

  Sep 22, 2011

  I also agree...When I read a profile that starts off no males unless your a couple I wish I could flag them....Yes some guys are bad but I have meet many nice guys and had many "married" women asking to do "things" also.  Get to know someone before you judge them.  Just my thoughts.

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• FR

  

  freedomnudeOriginal Poster

  Sep 22, 2011

  Great idea about a sections for married 'single'  men, I'm always at the beach and the couples first impression is I'm after sex, on the contrary, just enjoyin nature...

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  freedomnudeOriginal Poster

  Sep 22, 2011

  Ha! like ' mingle'

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• FR

  

  freedomnudeOriginal Poster

  Sep 22, 2011

  Turning you away should be illegal... close minded people...

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  freedomnudeOriginal Poster

  Sep 22, 2011

  married, but single in the context the partner is not a nudist...Love It. (And happily married too...)

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  freedomnudeOriginal Poster

  Sep 22, 2011

  good for you. we are such a new culture here in the US we don't know yet about how beautiful our bodies are...

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  freedomnudeOriginal Poster

  Sep 22, 2011

  good article...

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  wayneo

  Sep 22, 2011

  have to agree but unfortunatley because of the actions of some others who dont know how to treat people with repect we all get tarred with the same brush not all people judge us that way , but a majority its just a fact that we have to live with unfortunatley, but in time maybe with the right attitude and doing the right thing we will all be able to enjoy the company and friendship that everyone deserves , best wishes

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  Thomas

  Sep 22, 2011

  I used to be a mingle, but am divorced now.  I have found that by going to chat I have made a lot of friends even though I am single.  I have friends who want me to come visit if I am ever in their part of the country or world and have had some visit me at my home.  They took the time to get to know me and we became friends.  I feel that the ones who don't want to know me because I am single, it is their loss.

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  chris

  Sep 22, 2011

  ibnaked whenever possible although my lifstyle was hampered when I married twenty years ago and wife refused to participate or allow. I divorced last year and am happy to be FREE from the chains that bound me. I have been enjoying my backyard and have visited a resort in Sacramanto a couple of times although I felt un-welcome and lonely. I had a very busy Summer running two business's (one a start up) and have deferred my 'vacation' untill the Christmas Holladay (four days). I am planning a trip to Palm Springs, am bi but not Gay and do not want to stay in Warm Springs and be hit on all day. I look to relax, read a book, and exist......I did book a room at a nice resort to enjoy the above mentioned but realised the compormise (not optional) would be uncomfortable so am now searching to find a singles friendly resort (not cruiser resort) which proves difficult. The distast for singles does not line up with the lifestyle in my opinion and seams hypocriticle. Bad people can be married or single and singles can be bad or good; take them for what they are worth and ban the bad, welcome the good.

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• ME

  Member

  Sep 22, 2011

  Having a wife who is only going nude on few occassions, like holidays, I can call myself an part-time mingle

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