I'm finding it hard to separate being nude and it being sexual

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  Steve

  Jul 19, 2019

  Of course it's normal.

  First, just to get this out of the way: The basic convention of social nudism is that people act, naked, pretty much the way they would do clothed. This means, among other things, that just because people are naked doesn't mean they are sexually available or interested. Discretion and courtesy are in order, naked or clothed.

  But what's going on inside your head is a different matter. One use society has for clothes is to frame and control sexuality, and we've all internalized that and to some extent rely on it. Part of the work of going naked, and the power of it, is that you have to re-think your sexuality, how you live in your body. This is very very hard to do sitting at a keyboard, by the way. It's surprisingly easy when you are in the company of social nudists. I'd suggest it.

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• OL

  

  Olly

  Jul 19, 2019

  Nudity and sex each have their place, quite independent of each other. Sometimes they overlap but it's useful to learn the difference. As said above: nudists do what anyone would do in normal life - just without clothes. And it can be more about personality and confidence than body image.

  When I see a stunningly attractive young woman naked do I see her as a thing of beauty or something sexy? I came to nudity through the nude in art and, especially at my age, it's the beauty which prevails. Indeed I'm more likely to be distracted by a scantily clad woman than one who is totally nude.

  It can be difficult for a new nudist. You will get accustomed to it. And, incidentally, we all look - who wouldn't? I was just listening to a young reporter after her first visit to a nude event. Amongst other things she commented on the widespread absence of pubic hair. More to the point she commented on how relaxed and natural everyone was, behaving as they would have done if they'd been clothed

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• RO

  

  Rob

  Jul 19, 2019

  In time those feelings will pass

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• ME

  MemberOriginal Poster

  Jul 21, 2019

  Thanks

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• ME

  MemberOriginal Poster

  Jul 26, 2019

  Ok thanks everyone

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• JI

  

  Jim

  Nov 16, 2019

  [quote]Don't confuse sexual, with sensual. [LIKE] and totally agree![/quote] This is really common in people who are touch starved and who grew up with either abuse or lack of affection. They either really don't react to touch, or get way overboard from something that may not even be erotic. I was shocked running platonic touch seminars (I wanted to see whether they would help or be manageable the last part not so much, some are hundreds of dollars, I was doing 20 buck). I found that many participants had really unusual reactions, and then we did a screening questionnaire to see what might be up, and it turns out, lots of issues (aside from those who don't read, don't listen to rules and do the bad touch anyway even though it's not the point and ruins the experience for all). I worked with men of all orientations, but I get feedback from women I know that there are similar issues. Long term nudists seem to have really good balance and I think that is the skin being open and fully engaging with the environment not clothing, ;plus the supportive and positive environment. But newbies commonly have this confusion on some level (NB not talking about raging boners or such, just touch that is misread ).

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  Rod

  Apr 2, 2020

  When I'm nude I often feel more sensual, especially with the sun on my skin. I don't usually feel sexual unless the environment goes that way. To be honest if I'm being touched I'm likely to get a boner, even if it is nonsexual. But it usually goes away after a bit if it's not the situation for it.

  As you interact more with other nudist folks you'll find it becomes less of a problem.

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• ME

  Member

  May 29, 2020

  This is normal especially when you are first starting out. Even when you are clothed, you can look and appreciate someone but don't ogle.

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• SA

  

  Stone Andy

  May 30, 2020

  After a long dark winter, the warm sun on my cheesey pale, sensation deprived body can be quite arousing. I don't think I'm unusual in that either. In a society that has this annoying habit of sexualizing everything, it's a clear indication that I am a sexual deviant falling way off the McKinsey scale (between homo and heterosexual) into the unknown territory of solarsexuality. And that can get pretty hot.
  Or maybe I'm just sensual and my body responds to the vitality it feels of its environment, and it's all good.

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• ME

  Member

  May 30, 2020

  If both parties are fine with nude and sexual then let it be.

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• GA

  

  Gassenhauer

  Jun 1, 2020

  It's encouraging to read about commonality in this experience when starting out. Since the Covid-19 thing kicked in, I've really started living my life naked in a way that i've never been able to before. At first it was super intense, and highly sexually charged (me and my partner had just started living together as well). Its been fascinating to experience the different stages I've been moving through since (wtf am i doing, self-consciousness, etc), but bit by bit its starting to feel like normality and that's the goal... but it has definitely been a process.

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• CH

  

  Chris

  Jun 27, 2020

  I relish the sensual nature of being naked outside, or naked in company. Enjoy the freedom. What is better than having your back massaged with sun tan lotion to enjoy the sensual connection between two naturists. As strangers become friends, how wonderful.

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• ST

  

  Steve

  Jan 17, 2021

  [quote]"When I see a stunningly attractive young woman naked do I see her as a thing of beauty or something sexy? I came to nudity through the nude in art and, especially at my age, it's the beauty which prevails. Indeed I'm more likely to be distracted by a scantily clad woman than one who is totally nude."[/quote] Perhaps it's because the scantily-clad one has chosen to dress that way out of a range of options, whereas nude may merely be for the sake of being nude? I agree the distinction you see is certainly there.

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• MA

  

  macnude

  Jan 17, 2021

  "When I see a stunningly attractive young woman naked do I see her as a thing of beauty or something sexy? I came to nudity through the nude in art and, especially at my age, it's the beauty which prevails. Indeed I'm more likely to be distracted by a scantily clad woman than one who is totally nude."

  Should the simple appreciation of beauty in any form be considered wrong?

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• CO

  

  Curt, or Cowboy

  Jan 17, 2021

  Perhaps it's because I've been a naturist as long as I have, and in the company I keep...
  YES a naked young attractive woman is attractive !
  Is it *necessarily* sexual ? No.
  Is the Grand Canyon sexual ? Of course not, but it is still beautiful.

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• ST

  

  Steve

  Feb 11, 2021

  Strongly agree mikenshel. Nudity is freedom to be yourself if you find attraction to another nudist use self restraint and commonsense first and manners secondly. Talk to the person/s concerned and go from there. You will find a true nudist is open and honest. If it is amiable then enjoy but respect there wishes and privacy.

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• JO

  

  John

  Feb 12, 2021

  curt44319 wrote: [quote] YES a naked young attractive woman is attractive ! Is it *necessarily* sexual ? No. Is the Grand Canyon sexual ? Of course not, but it is still beautiful.[/quote] There is nothing in my conception of nudism that forbids people from appreciating the beauty of the naked human form in any of its manifestations. If people look at a painting or a statue of a nude and all they're getting from it is "Gee, that person is nekkid" or gets an erotic buzz from seeing it, then the artist or sculptor has failed as a creator, and the observers have failed as appreciators of art. But because our society puts nudity only into sexual contexts, it follows that we must make an effort to separate the two. It isn't really difficult to do, as thousands have discovered. And once we do that, and liberate our minds and senses, we can see a naked person as the beautiful thing he or she is, without investing it with an erotic component.

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