I have been hosting guests for about 5 years. I am a nudist and in my profile I put that I'm a nudist in my home and that I welcome other nudists or those who wish to participate (try it out). I do not invite textile people to be here while I'm nude. My home, my rules. So far it's worked well and I've had some great guests. But some people, women in particular, take offense that I'm hosting men only (I'M GAY) and they think being a nudist is weird. Am I wrong to have these kind of rules?
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SoupieJul 27, 2011I was just about to join as a host, but I discovered that they charge for it. That seems odd.
ReactReply - MEMemberJul 27, 2011[quote]Honestly YOu get women only gyms, women only swim times at the pool. Men are not allowed to have anything men only these days. Your house, your choice.[/quote] Well put. It is your house and your right to invite whomever to your house for nude socializing. I someone has a problem with that, then that is there problemReactReply
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markJul 27, 2011good going guy. nice to hear someone is doing hosting, as lots of folks dont have that option.
ReactReply - MEMemberJul 27, 2011
Yep, your house, your rules. EFF what anybody else thinks.
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DesertRatJul 27, 2011Like they say "A man's home is his castle." You're the owner and the ruler, You make the rules. Remember this is a private home. It is not public accommodation. If it were, the rules would change.
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MichaelJul 28, 2011[quote]Like they say "A man's home is his castle." You're the owner and the ruler, You make the rules. Remember this is a private home. It is not public accommodation. If it were, the rules would change.[/quote] I don't think he's suggesting you'd be offended by "women's only" but "men's only" meaning you couldn't stay with him because you are a woman. I think you got the point, just saying. I will say that anyone who'd be offended by it shouldn't want to stay with you anyway. You have the right to welcome whoever you do or don't want into your home. However, I will say that there would be nothing wrong with letting a woman stay. If I was traveling with a nudist friend and it was a woman and you said I could stay but she couldn't, I'd probably be upset and I might question your motives behind letting me stay. BUT, as others said, you have the right to do your home however you choose.ReactReply - RA
ravensflyinnowAug 22, 2011I am part of couchsurfing too...I open my couch up to all, but state that I am a nudist. Its a great site and as far as I know its still free, but they encourage, like on here to be certified (verified) which cost something...but it helps keep the site going. You are more than welcome to couchsurf here in Long Beach. Happy Surfing!! Stay Naked, Stay Happy...
ReactReply - SOSoupieAug 22, 2011
I have joined as a host. But I need to fill out my profile more. Perfectly good guestroom here and I love meeting people from different countries. I didn't put any nude conditions in it, but I will mention it in my profile.
ReactReply - SOSoupieMay 11, 2012
I've been hosting for a while now, and I have loved the experience.
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BrianMay 11, 2012I think it seems perfectly reasonable.
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NakedBadgerJul 12, 2012I'm a member of "CouchSurfing" also.
When you're the host, you set the parameters yourself: Guests are Male or Female or both; no more than such or such a number at a time; guest in a private room or public space. And your guests are empowered to be as safe as they want to be: they can report any thing that makes them uncomfortable.
So, as a host, if you're a nudist and you are open to one or more guests of either gender, gay or straight, you only need be as clear as you can be.
CouchSurfing is a great program. May you have many happy guests. May all of them be as naked as you are. May none of them ever be uncomfortable, and may you also never want for comfort.
Peace,
BadgerReactReply - MEMemberJul 12, 2012[quote]I have been hosting guests for about 5 years. I am a nudist and in my profile I put that I'm a nudist in my home and that I welcome other nudists or those who wish to participate (try it out). I do not invite textile people to be here while I'm nude. My home, my rules. So far it's worked well and I've had some great guests. But some people, women in particular, take offense that I'm hosting men only (I'M GAY) and they think being a nudist is weird. Am I wrong to have these kind of rules?[/quote]
Speaking as a female, if you want to have men only nudist get togethers, it's your business. Just like you don't invite textiles, you should also feel free to not invite women.
Like you said, your house, your rules. I can't fathom anyone taking offense over whom one invites into their home.
My .05 worth. (inflation, don't ya know)ReactReply - SOSoupieJul 13, 2012
My guests have mostly been young and straight couples, but I did host one Dutchman who enjoyed nudism and it was a treat.
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Timo2009Jul 15, 2012Great signs!
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ManOfWicklowJul 15, 2012[quote]But some people, women in particular, take offense that I'm hosting men only (I'M GAY) and they think being a nudist is weird. Am I wrong to have these kind of rules?[/quote]Being a gay nudist is not weird, but being anti-women, IS.ReactReply - NANakedBadgerJul 15, 2012But Jon didn't say he was "anti-women": he said he's a gay nudist, and he's more comfortable with men who are open to being hosted by a gay nudist ...ReactReply
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OcoeecoupleSep 19, 2012[quote][quote]Being a gay nudist is not weird, but being anti-women, IS.[/quote][/quote]We could apply the same assumption to the racism issue and say that black only colleges are anti-white...just sayin.ReactReply - WO
womannudistaOct 22, 2012[quote]i was speaking today with friends about why they see the nudism how offensivei think that there isn,t information about this world and why are we more confortable naked... some days ago was a post about that we weren,t people without education...i speak with them and then they say"i am sorry about what i was saying" education and information[/quote]ReactReply - RO
rolie100Jan 19, 2013I agree, your house, your rules, and the visitor can decide by themselves whether they will come over or not. I have hosted several people and we are always naked.ReactReply - MEMemberApr 19, 2013
Is there a group for couchsurfing? I'd gladly host here in Bangkok... but my apartment is a studio, maybe not the best.
ReactReply - MEMemberSep 24, 2013
Your house, your rules. As has been pointed out no one would look twice if you were a woman only hosting for women. Call out the double standards wherever they appear.
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BlasterjaxxJul 7, 2014If someone is going to Sweden, just let me know and maybe you can stay on my couch for some nights.
ReactReply - NANakedBadgerJul 13, 2014Hmm ... I realize I've posted on this thread before; but it seems I need to repeat myself. Gotta say, though: I think it's weird that this subject comes up under the thread of sexuality rather than some thread like "hospitality", but Oh well.
The first I heard of "couch surfing" was a New York Times article about a nudist (guy) NYC who made his practice of living without clothes clear in his couchsurfing profile. In other words, "You're welcome to stay here. I'm going to be naked."
I see any number of Couch Surfing profiles by gay men who make it clear that they would prefer male house-guests: what's the problem with that? They are not dissing women, they're saying they'd prefer male house-guests.
A gay nudist joins Couch Surfing, identifies himself as gay and as a nudist and says he prefers male houseguests: he's not advertising for sex, he's offering hospitality; but he's also alerting potential houseguests that if they stay with him, they're gonna see some skin: that's simply being honest.
And that gives no one any right to complain.ReactReply - NANakedBadgerJul 13, 2014Looks like this thread belongs with this group:
Couchsurfing - Places To Stay While TravelingReactReply