Any one else trying to get wife into this

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• HA

  How about taking the time to ask

  Nov 17, 2018

  Yes , I am having same struggles

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• PC

  

  P C

  Nov 19, 2018

  Good Luck. Married 38 years and I've been going to nude beaches and trying to find time to be nude since before we were married. I've made no progress other than she knows I'll be gone for the day and that I'm off to the nude beach. Still doesn't understand it, but more accepting that it is going to happen.

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• TD

  

  Tom D

  Nov 19, 2018

  My wife and I have sn understanding that if we are home alone in warm weather I will be nude, including the deck and pool although she rarely is. She also knows I sometimes go to a nude beach, but probably doesn't know that sometimes is almost always.

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• ME

  Member

  Nov 20, 2018

  There are many of us in the same boat...just be patient and persistent. It has taken me about 5 years to get my wife to agree to weekend trips to our local retreat. This past summer we became members and made about 6 or 7 visits. She wore a wrap around the campground and only skinny dipped twice...but she said it was enjoyable and is ready to go back. Hang in there...and hurry up spring!!

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• MA

  

  ManOfWicklow

  Nov 20, 2018

  [quote]Good Luck. Married 38 years and I've been going to nude beaches and trying to find time to be nude since before we were married. I've made no progress other than she knows I'll be gone for the day and that I'm off to the nude beach. Still doesn't understand it, but more accepting that it is going to happen.[/quote]Same here, PC_sun. I've been married 37 years and wife still not interested in the nudist lifestyle.

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• JE

  

  John English

  Nov 24, 2018

  My wife goes to the club with me she always stays dressed we both have fun and she made a few friends with some woman

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• FL

  

  Florida2007

  Nov 24, 2018

  Well written!

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• OL

  

  OldNerd

  Nov 25, 2018

  We have been married 44 years and when we was young she was shy but more open to new things. But as she got older and fatter she will have nothing to do with nudism

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• TD

  

  Tom D

  Nov 25, 2018

  My wife was never nude at home often, but as she got older and heavier, she has become even less likely to do so.

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• HO

  

  hottubfan

  Nov 25, 2018

  I wish my wife would share my enjoyment of being nude with friends. My wife enjoyed social nudity with me before we were married, we spent time at Huntington Gorge in Vermont and we were ready to join Pine Tree in Maryland when we lived there and then my work transferred me. I could never get her back into it. We have been married 38 years and have gone from our first 30 years of together 365/24/7 to realizing its OK to have different interests.

  Best friends want their friends to be happy and my wife is my best friend so my wife encourages me to spend time enjoying my nude hobby, just don't make her do it so I don't. Our marriage has actually gotten stronger even as I run off on a regular basis to various nude and clothing optional resorts, I thinks its because when we are happy we feed that happiness back into our relationships and everyone ends up in a happier place. While I wish my wife would join me I have made many friends on my travels and the nudist life has brought me a ton of joy.

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• CH

  

  Chuck

  Apr 22, 2019

  I got back into being a home nudist about two years ago. I've tried to get my wife to join me but she's too self conscious. We both are overweight. I've become accepting of my body, its shape, and its imperfections. My wife, however, doesn't think she's either beautiful enough or has a body that others would want to see naked...even when it's just us at home.

  Her view of her body came from the body shaming she received from her first husband when her pre-pregnancy body didn't return after having their two children. He continued the shaming after their divorce (he cheated on her several times).

  At first, she thought it was just a phase I was going through but now she knows it's something I enjoy. I've explained to her why and how I feel so comfortable when naked. I've invited her to join me when lounging around the house but she has yet to give it a try.

  One evening, she asked/commented "I suppose you want to go to a nude beach or something sometime, huh?" I told her it's on my bucket list. I honestly don't know if I would go to one without her though. The nearest nude beach (that I know of) is close to 1,000 miles away.

  Maybe someday I will be able to get her to be naked at home and even in our backyard.

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• NU

  nudeyooper

  Apr 22, 2019

  After 17 years of marriage, I doubt that my wife will ever get into this. I'm not sure that I am. I've been spending more nude time as we have gotten older, especially after her kids left home. I'll sneak out with the garbage in the dark of early morning, not get dressed until I have to go out, and not get dressed after a shower or soak in the hot tub. I have not been there for a few years, but there is a beach near us that is unused enough that I can go nude. It is a long walk and walking has gotten hard. I've been on a rural bike trail nude for a few miles, but have not yet tried WNBR because it was just too hot and sunny.

  She strips off as soon as she gets home from work, but then almost always heads straight to bed. We live in two houses about a half week in each and she will sometimes enjoy her mornings nude in one. Her wake up time before work in the other is with clothing on. In our two story home, she will come down the stairs which can be seen from the street, then put on clothes or lounge under a blanket. In the ranch, if she thinks she might be seen from outside, she will put hands over her breasts.

  I like to see outside. She has the window coverings closed almost all of the time. It makes me wonder why I went through the trouble and expense of putting windows in.

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• NU

  

  nudony

  Apr 23, 2019

  Been there done that...twice.

  My first wife had body acceptance issues and would not even go nude around the house. With lots of persistence and patience, it started with her being ok with me staying naked at home. Then she very slowly and gradually transitioned to being nude at home with me. She eventually agreed to a trip to the nudist resort; and things "took off" from there. She started being nude at home more often, agreed to more trips to the nudist resort, met other nudists, started being more comfortable being naked around other nudists; until eventually she developped her own preference for nudity. That took quite a bit of time.

  With my current wife it also took a lot of patience and persistence. She first agreed to a trip to the nude beach; and that didn't turn out so great. A couple of years later she agreed to a trip to the nudist resort; and unlike my first wife who took several tries staying covered around people, she was almost immediately comfortable being naked amongst other nudists. To the point where she started planning subsequent resort visits.

  The biggest differences between my fist and current wives is that my first wife eventually embraced home nudism to a larger extent than social nudism; choosing to be naked at home 90% of the time. My current wife is more of a recreational/resort nudist; and only goes nude at home "casually." Other than that it took about the same amount of time...2-3 years.

  What is true however in both cases was that it was resort nudism that "did the trick." Probably has a lot to do with being around nude people; particularly seeing other women being openly and comfortably naked. That does a lot to quell their own anxiety about being seen naked themselves. But "getting them there" can take a lot of patience, negotiating, bartering, etc... The "trick" for me was emphasizing clothing-optionality (they would not have to get naked unless they wanted to) and giving a lot of room for negotiating logistics (how far we would go and where, and how long we would stay.) In both cases the negotiating part was long and extensive (and sometimes exhausting) but at the end of the day, when I eventually saw them both walking into the pool area naked and comfortable; well it was well worth the effort.

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• SA

  

  Sam

  Oct 10, 2019

  Thats my situation as well... Ive been trying to get my wife to go to a nude beach for years... She always sort of laughs it off as a joke.... but im serious. But not giving up..... being nude just feels so great

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• MA

  

  Mark

  Nov 26, 2019

  I've been in the same boat, I've been a nudist for 2 years. Wife thought I was a little strange at first but came to accept it but would not strip down. I first got into the naked life in St. Martin while we were on vacation. So for our 35th Anniversary I took my wife back to St. Martin. To my surprise when we went over to Pinal Island I stripped down and she followed suit. I was very surprised but it was a good introduction since we were the only couple there for a good couple hours and then there was only another couple who came later. The next day went to Happy Bay, again very secluded and then ended up on Orient Beach. So there is hope, just be patient

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• ME

  Member

  Dec 13, 2019

  Show her this. Maybe it will help her confidence

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• QC

  QCrash

  Dec 14, 2019

  My wife has always been self-conscious, and thought it was weird and I didn't push it. We were causal around the house, but couldn't convince exploration, and probably had some missed opportunities before kids just because of my own ignorance. After kids, she started to become more and more conservative to the point it is taboo. Eventually, it was obvious this was just the tip of a larger marriage issue. So, not to be a downer on the subject, but we're splitting up. If I meet anyone in the future, it's going to be a requirement.

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