My wife embarassed about nudity

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  DesertRat

  May 8, 2016

  This site is more about nudity than marriage counseling. What you do at home is your own private business. If you went to a resort or a nude beach and you were nude and she was not, maybe we could suggest some things for that. If she refuses to go the the nude venue with you, then we can do nothing for that. Good luck.

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  silverback3Original Poster

  May 9, 2016

  Before I schedule an appointment, is there anyone else that has crossed this bridge?
  

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  Keith

  May 9, 2016

  Your problem is quite wide spread across the world. My ex was totally against the idea of me being nude outside the bed or bathroom. But I persevered and the comments slowed to a trickle over time but the angst was still there as was the odd sarcastic comment.
  My current partner, was also a little up tight with my nudity, but after I took her to a deserted beach and talked her it to losing her costume whilst swimming her attitude has changed considerably with her slowly adopting to the nudst life style and has enjoyed herself at various nudist social activities back in Australia.
  Similarly she will only on rare occasions go braless outdoors here in Vietnam because the peer pressure generated if others see a nipple shape or unfetted boob wobble underneath total modest clothing.  Whereas in Australia the bras stay in the drawer.
  To help in your situation , discussion, support and love should help you both reach a compromise that hopefully over time allow your wife to be more at ease with nudity be it yours or hers.

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  tripllama

  May 9, 2016

  [quote]Before I schedule an appointment, is there anyone else that has crossed this bridge?
  [/quote]You say YOU don't feel comfortable walking around her nude.
  Why is that?  Does she make comments or give you "side eye", or is it just that you, yourself are not comfortable being around her in your home when you're nude?

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  silverback3Original Poster

  May 9, 2016

  The first time I did it she looked at me , then at the door to see if it was locked. There after she would let me know if any of the children were scheduled to stop by. She has never made any negative comments or crazy looks. I just thought she was uncomfortable, maybe she is not. That being said, from now on, during the day (we have neighbors that could see in if the lights were on), at home, nudism is what I will practice. I will give update tomorrow.
  

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  StevieLorna

  May 9, 2016

  We have always been casual with clothes around the house, but until my late 30's (her Mid 30's) we never were naked in front of others and it never occurred to us that this was something we should do..
  
  That changed when we visited our first CO beach, and since then we've never worn clothes on the beach, and have now moved on to staying at all nude resorts.
  
  I very much doubt I'd be a naturist if Lorna wasn't as keen as I am.
  
  But that's just me, it's obvious from the posts here that a lot of guys are desperate for their GF or Wife to join them.
  
  All I can say is... I wish you all the luck in the world convincing her.
  
  
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  nudony

  May 10, 2016

  1. When I was "starting out", with my now-ex, I also had some misgivings about being nude at home as much as possible.   I did get some negative - and even derogatory comments - from her at first.  But I persevered.  In time she accepted my nudity; and eventually even joined me.  It was a "journey"; but eventually it paid off nicely.

  • When I moved in with my current GF, I explained to her that clothing at home was optional for me.  At first, she was resistant to the idea.  But I persevered.  She also came to accept it.  Then her resistance to nudity started dwindling.  Now she routinely stays nude at home after showering or changing.  It's become a normal thing for both of us.

  1. Patience and perseverance - key words.  Good luck to you!!

  
  
  
  

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  silverback3Original Poster

  May 11, 2016

  I Donald Ducked all morning and the only reaction was her first reaction, a playful giggle and "your nakie".
  

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  silverback3Original Poster

  May 18, 2016

  Turns out, my wife is okay with me being a nudist at home, one day I hope she surprises me with some home nudity also, like vacuuming or doing the dishes. Maybe when it gets a little warmer.
  

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  Keith

  May 18, 2016

  Well done, we too hope she joins you even on a part time basis to start with.

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  Scott

  Mar 24, 2017

  My wife is ok with my nudity as long as do not answer to door in that fashion. She is growing bolder but not as fast as I would like. Letting her go at her own pace.

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  Tom D

  Oct 5, 2017

  My wife is uncomfortable with nudity in general and even topless women. The latter limits our vacation choices. She is fine with me being nude when we are home alone, but rarely me. She has even gotten to the point of commenting that it seems odd if I have clothes on when we are the only ones at home in warm weather. Since she feels that way and I didn't get interested in nudity until after we had children, our they were not raised with nudity. Now that we have only one grown son at home. she is OK with me swimming and sunning nude when he is home, and wearing just a towel in the house when he is there. She even jokingly said that I should try it more often and see if it encourages him to move out!

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  Tom D

  Oct 5, 2017

  Meant ...rarely joins me.

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  Bill

  Oct 11, 2017

  Before we moved to Florida I would often go nude around the house, my wife would rarely join me though. However, once we moved here, and we got a house with a private backyard and pool, she decided to join in. She loved getting in the pool without having to wear a suit, and would take that even farther and go nude in the house.

  I tried to take it a step further and look at swinging, she shot that down, but did decide that she would go to a nudist resort with me. I introduced her to the website for Cypress Cove and she looked at it and decided she would try it. She loved it and the freedom to be able to go naked there. We are now members at Cypress and go at least once a month to enjoy the freedom with other people. We have also gone down to Apollo Beach and enjoyed being naked there as well.

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  FullSun

  Oct 11, 2017

  [quote]I tried to take it a step further and look at swinging, she shot that down, [/quote] How is that taking nudism a step further? Thats taking it a step backward and is exactly why people have such a negative view of it Good for her for shooting it down.

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  Brady Lee

  Oct 20, 2017

  I am new to this lifestyle, so obviously so is my wife. Last year we went to Black Beach north of San Diego and walked around. I told her recently that I would like to go back but strip down. She agreed that would be fun and agreed to do it. I mentioned even home nudism and she says no because she hates her body. She travels for work, so I have spent time at home being a nudist. I am going to continue to go with it when she gets back home this time. If she feels safe, I think she might say, "screw it!" and join me. Safe meaning, we know our 24 yo son living with us will be at work until after we go to bed.

  Fingers crossed. I want to jump into nudism with both feet, but will take baby steps with her if that is what she needs.

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  Tom D

  Oct 29, 2017

  [quote]I am nude around home 100% indoors and outdoors when possible, weather permitting (now not so much...37 degrees this AM). My wife will rarely leave the bedroom unless clothed. She like most women has body issues, although I have tried to tell her it doesn't matter. She is totally OK with my nudity, actually telling me to get out of my clothes and get comfortable when I get home from work. I plan to purchase a hot tub soon...something we've been considering for quite some time. Maybe...just maybe...when she sees hoe much enjoyment can be had tubbing in the nude...she'll hop in without hesitation.[/quote] As I have noted before, our adult son lives home and his son from a prior relationship and his current girlfriend are here a lot, so that limits my nude time.e My wife, while rarely nude herself, will encourage me to take everything off as soon as we are home alone. "Everything" is probably a bad term because my at home summer wardrobe when others are here is only 1 article of clothing - cotton gym shorts- no shirt, footwear or underwear.

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