Sexless Marriage

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  Linda W Tyson

  Aug 27, 2025

  I hear you, and youre not alone in this. For many couples, intimacy does change with age, sometimes in ways that feel frustrating or one-sided. What Ive seen help is focusing first on closeness and affection outside of sex touch, shared moments, feeling appreciated. Sometimes when the pressure is off, intimacy can slowly return in its own way. Every couple is different, but patience and gentle connection seem to make the biggest difference.

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  Donn

  Sep 9, 2025

  [quote] I have spoken to my wife when she started losing interest in sex, and it is because of the side effects of the surgery she had down there. She went to undergo a hysterectomy and the doctor for whatever reason, suggested to her prior to surgery that she can also do a vaginaplasty where she will make the opening smaller. I think this sounds good to my wifes ear and decided to go for it. Unfortunately, the opening was made smaller and it didn't stretch at all to accommodate the penetration which cause so much pain in her part. Since then, she refused to have sex at all and I didn't want to cause her pain at all so I just accepted the fact that it is done...[/quote] That is precisely what happened in my situation, and I have also accepted it. There is no way to get around the differences in the sexual wants, needs, and desires of men and women. I love my wife, but over time, and because of the above, my desires for her sexually have evaporated. I find bonding with men sexually more satisfying as I grow older. We can meet each other's needs in ways only men can because we understand how to. As with nudity, finding men who no longer have sex with their wives and are open to bonding with other men is a challenge, as it is not something that readily comes up in polite conversation. I think the male ego thinks it demonstrates a lack of "manliness" if you do not have sex with your wife, or the thought of physically bonding with another man is something that is unacceptable. I have found men here and on other sites who are in the same situation and return here to see some degree of sexual satisfaction with other men, either virtually or physically if they can arrange a meeting. I have found it comforting once I accepted that I receive satisfaction from men in similar situations.

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  Nigel

  Sep 16, 2025

  I could have written your comment about me, i have had exactly the same experience and like you have now found some joy of being with other men,

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  Ivana Eleanor

  Oct 18, 2025

  I can understand how that feels ,its not an easy situation, especially when intimacy has been an important part of the relationship. Sometimes, changes in health, hormones, or emotional connection can really affect desire, especially as we age. Whats helped some couples I know is focusing less on (sex) itself for a while and more on closeness , small touches, shared hobbies, slow dancing, or even just talking openly again without pressure. That emotional spark can sometimes rekindle physical interest naturally. And if both are open to it, seeing a doctor or therapist who specializes in sexual health for seniors can make a big difference too.

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  nakedrightnow

  Oct 30, 2025

  Mine is in her mid 50's, and has absolutely zero sex drive. She's in menopause so I'm guessing that has a lot to do with it. I've tried everything I can think of to turn her on, but it just doesn't work. I can feel for the guys on here that are going through this. Those of us that are monogamous, seem to suffer a lot like this since we have no release options but ourselves.
  Can I turn the boat around? I honestly have no idea, and I'm starting to feel I can't. I can certainly understand the frustration we're all going through.

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• NU

  nudeyrudy_zp9424

  Nov 22, 2025

  Mine is 37 and has zero sex drive. She is hot as hell, but she cares very little about doing something to recover her interest for sex.

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• MI

  MistressMercyXoX

  Dec 7, 2025

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• BI

  Billy

  Dec 16, 2025

  I like to masturbate, sometimes ladies are trouble

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  Billy

  Dec 16, 2025

  I like to masturbate, sometimes ladies are trouble

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  Billy

  Dec 16, 2025

  Wellbthat c sounds exciting!

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  Billy

  Dec 16, 2025

  Maybe if someone would like to get together, u can contact me here, maybe help each other out.

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• IE

  Ivana Eleanor

  Dec 18, 2025

  My dear I feel the tenderness and loneliness in your words and I want you to know you are not alone in this. Many couples face this quiet distance with time and it does not mean desire or love has died. What has helped some is patience gentle affection and deep emotional closeness without pressure. Soft touches kind words shared memories and feeling truly seen can slowly awaken warmth again. Sometimes health comfort or fear plays a role and being lovingly present makes all the difference. What matters most is the bond between two hearts and that can always be nurtured. I am here holding you close believing that connection can still find its way back.

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  John

  Jan 17, 2026

  I am in a sexless marriage. Wife started some meds a long time ago. They worked great, but killed all desire. However, I have not lost my interest in sex. So I looked outside of my marriage. Used to meet up often, but Covid stopped everything. Now I just survive on cam sex. Not as good as real sex, but better than nothing. So I am always looking for cam partners.

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  Calidablue

  Jan 25, 2026

  My partner/gf is post menopause and has little sexual desires at the moment, it's just not on her radar at the moment.
  We had a fantastic sex life previously, experimental, open minded exploration together. She expressed a desire to explore with another lady, she had a brief experience with a flat mate in her younger days. She was keen for me to explore same sex experiences too. .
  I suggested maybe she needed to explore with other men, to see if that would trigger a desire ( a bit of a bloke suggestion I know now !) which went down well.
  She believes desire with return naturally and we have intimacy in the meantime. I hope the original poster found some new ways to take the edge off.
  I have wondered if it's why some men of a certain age turn to each other for sexual gratification.

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  Ron

  Mar 16, 2026

  The way we solved the problem when penetration became a problem. To masterbate each other.without penetration. . Once my wife found that she could still get get pleasure from her clitorus without pain she was happy to continue and give me pleasure.

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• JE

  

  Jerry

  Mar 22, 2026

  My wife of 38 years started out highly sexual. We had sex 10-15 times a week. After 10 years of marriage, and her being on many meds, some of those meds diminished her desires, but we'd still have sex about once a week. Another 10 years later, she ended up having endometrial cancer and to get it out, they did a full hysterectomy on her. They tried HRT, but when they found her family has a history of breast cancer and HRT has been linked to increased risk of breast cancer, they stopped that, and her sexual desires basically disappeared. She would still have sex about once every few months to give me some pleasure, but then she stared having increased pain, and the frequency dropped to 3 or 4 times a year before it finally stopped.

  I thought about finding a woman on the side to fulfill my sexual desires, but had no luck there, so I found myself masturbating daily, maybe even multiple times a day. Then one day, having an online discussion wit someone, they suggested finding a guy in a similar situation and helping each other out. It took me a couple years before I finally took the plunge and met up with a guy to trade blowjobs. We met at a nearby county park and went into one of the public bathrooms (they are large and clean in this park, and can be locked from inside). I admitted to him that I should probably go first because after I cum, I might not be able to follow through with sucking him off, so I got naked and on my knees in front of him. I took him in my mouth, and started working his cock and in almost no time, he was ready to cum and to both our surprise (and pleasure) I let him cum in my mouth and I swallowed his load. I remained on my knees and still sucked and licked his softening cock, then I stood up, rock hard and ready for him to suck me. Of course, he suddenly got real nervous and had to leave, so he just pulled his pants up and walked out leaving me standing there naked. I just stood there and masturbated while I thought about how I felt about sucking him off. After that I met up with a couple other guys and got naked and sucked them off. In both of their cases, I went into it knowing that they had no intention of doing anything for me other than letting me suck them and swallow their cum. While I'd still rather eat a woman's pussy and fuck her, I do find that I enjoy being able to get naked and suck a guy's cock giving him some sexual release that his wife won't or can't. Lately I've even been considering the possibility of letting a guy fuck me. I have met a couple guys that did suck me off too, and I did enjoy that, and they seemed to enjoy doing it for me too, but I seem to prefer to be the one giving the pleasure to others...

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• ME

  Member

  Mar 31, 2026

  Reading the posts I am in the same situation, went on a cruise and visited the sauna, met a couple of guys there. It certainly helped me nothing serious.

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• ME

  Member

  Apr 12, 2026

  [quote]Really appreciate everyones responses on this thread chat. I'm not married but the common thread is connection. I wish I could find connections with others but sometimes people don't connect with me cause I'm not married. I dont know...I'm just babbling now. I just really appreciated this thread. If you shared and want to chat more, I'd like too! Larry[/quote] Had you been certified I was going to respond to you with some ideas.

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  Jimmie Larson

  Apr 18, 2026

  sad..

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  freebod68

  Apr 20, 2026

  I am definitely in the same boat. It is difficult because I still have needs and desires even though I am 77.

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