of course thus will be particularly difficult for me considering I am only recently a naturist and I am VERY self-conscious for some reason. I do not want nudity to be sexual, but I worry about it too often which makes it difficult
Getting erections so frequently is really the only thing keeping me from being naked away from home.Thanks guise
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SteveApr 16, 2014The way to train your mind is to have the experience of nonsexual nudity. Alone in your room, there'sno way. At nudist clubs, and to a somewhat lesser extent at beaches, you'll find no shortage of nudists who don't match whatever sexual preferences you have; try focusing on them, rather than gravitating first to the folks that might push your buttons. Be as social as you can be - active and engaged. As for the erections, there's lots of sensible advice, but basically it amounts to minimizing rather than emphasizing: Sit down, turn over, walk away, pull up a towel, get in the water. You are much more likely to get an erection sitting at home thinking about social nudity than you are in the actual event, so please don't let that be barrier to you.ReactReply - PUPurpleMoonOriginal PosterApr 16, 2014
Yeah im just awkward. not a very social person. I suppose I'll just find a particularly "confident" day and force myself into it so I can get started. Thanks
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JohnApr 18, 2014Absolutely positively just go for it. All my apprehensions (adequacy, looks, erections, etc) disappeared in 5 minutes upon arriving at my first resort. I was self conscience of course but also very liberated and enjoyed the experience a lot. Just do it. And talk to other members while you are there. Nudists are very friendly and welcoming.
Don't forget to carry a towel for sitting on and for that rare need to discretely shield a normal reaction. We're guys, nude and human, after all. Enjoy!ReactReply - OV
overexposedApr 18, 2014Social nudity never gets me aroused.. it may seem odd to a newbie to hear that, but you'll find it to be true when you get out there and spend time with others nude. there really isnt anything sexual about nudism.. just something we like to do..ReactReply - MEMemberApr 22, 2014agree with the above. Over many years of social nudism I rarely leave the flaccid state. Does not mean there is no movement because the penis is part of the living body.ReactReply
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MikeApr 23, 2014Have to agree with all the above comments, based on personal experience. Still recall early visits to co beaches. Initially all the hangups about what might happen and the first few times remained very remote and things were a bit hard going. So one one visit, i decide that was not the way to be and headed off along the beach walking right through the middle of the main nude crowd with nothing as a safety covering. Apprehension was alive and well and totally unfounded. All the anxiety simply melted away, no erection and total exhileration. So bite the bullet
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John EnglishApr 25, 2014the first time i went to a club i thought i would have to keep my towel handy to cover myself but nothing like that happened at all for me the turn on was being able tobe nude in a public place and not have to worrie about for me i just felt relaxed in a short time and had fun with other people
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DesertRatMay 6, 2014Sexuality is such and innate force and drive in humans that it is almost impossible to remove from our consciousness. As social beings we have learned to control it but not dismiss it. It is always with us.
We can however learn to accept others just as people and not necessarily as sexual objects. It is very possible and desirable to work with people on strictly a human level. That is just people to people. In the nudist world this is nudism as its best.
A similar argument can be made for racial relations. Although not an innate characteristic, racism is instilled in people at a very early age. To paraphrase what I said above; we can learn to accept others just as people and not necessarily as persons of color or race. It is very possible and desirable to work with people on strictly a human level. That is just people to people. In the human world this is just people being their best.ReactReply - FRFreecospiritMay 7, 2014
In my experience nudity only tends to be sexual when on my own or with just my partner. I've been on countless beaches and often simply forget that I am naked even when there are clothed around; the environment is simply not sexual. Before I started naturism I could not understand how nudity could not be sexual but found that beach nudity is not. I've never been into club or other social nudity so cannot comment about such situations. I never actually trained my mindset it just worked out that way; trying to train your mindset if anything will make it much harder to see nudity as non sexual.
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renebbareJan 10, 2015There is plenty you can do! Police your own morals and at the very least cover it up!
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Good77Jun 12, 2015Sexuality is almost impossible to remove from our consciousness. As I have learned to control my sexuality. II know its always going to be with me
I have learnt to accept others just as people and not as sexual objects. I except everyone for who they are not just because they are nude, being nude is a choice. A choice i gladly took 18 years ago. I can talk to both male and female nudists with ease, as i have learned to control my sexuality around others and to not offended anyone of either sex.I think thats why i am so at ease to live a nudist life style and be comfortably around other nudists of either sexReactReply