private pm`s

I don't get into the room for such a long time and when i do i remeber why i don't. I have my setting on no private pm's but for some reason they still come through. Please tell me what you want to say to me in private you can't say to me in the public forum. Those who know me know i chat freely and openly in public so there's no need to ask for private chat. All i want to do is come in the room for a while and enjoy the chat i don't need to be bugged constanly with hi babe wanna chat private. FFS give me a break.