Being a gay man at a primarily straight resort

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  Stone Andy

  Aug 16, 2023

  [quote]Resorts of what ever kind, are private venues and they can set their own rules. Even 'male' resorts some will state 'males only'.[/quote] This is the key issue. Resorts often do not state their rules, including their quotas, their discrimination or their codes of conduct. Nor do organizations like AANR. When is a single male a single male? When it depends on the direction the wind is blowing, it's a sign to stay away.

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  Zeke

  Aug 18, 2023

  A good deal of resorts do state their rules of conduct and clearly reflect if they are an AANR or other afficidated organizations. Even when you show up, they make your sign a paper that states the rules. Now if you didn't read them that's on you. Been to more than 30 resorts, and each one made me sign what they accepts are proper behavor. It's up to those that are there to behave within those guidelines. The only way the management can enforce those guidelines is if it is not withing the rules, it is brought to their attention when individuals violate them. They can't be everywhere and actually would you want someone standing in the corner watching what is going on?
  As I stated, it comes down to the intentions of individuals attending these places to how they will behave, not the resorts to question each individual of why they are there. It is expected that individuals will behave according to the rules they were presented.

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  Zeke

  Aug 18, 2023

  [quote]I am more comfortable at "straight" or couples resorts than at a gay one - mostly because any sexual tension is eliminated. I would never simply announce that I am gay, but if the topic were to come up, I wouldn't hide it. Can I assume a straight male nudist wouldn't have concerns? I actually like forming friendships with straight men in a bonding sort of way. Every man I meet is very friendly, but I am wondering if it's better to steer the conversation elsewhere when talking about partners, dating, etc. Thoughts? - Particularly from men over 50.[/quote]
  
  One of the main things that nudism is to accept others for who they are, regardless of what labels we are put into ourselves or by others. This of been 'straight' or 'gay' or 'transgender' or 'bi' is just a label for our sexual desires. And then within those labels, is another whole range of ways that individuals feel they are within that label. What you talk about is what the conversation is about. If it gets to be something about your relationship, then be honest about it. Why should you have to be something different so that you don't offend someone who may just be accepting of you been a 'gay' man. If you get the impression they are not comfortable with the conversation, then change it but to be somewhere that is to be accepting of all, been a nudist, then who sexually we prefer should not matter.

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  kynudedude03

  Aug 18, 2023

  Talk about Navet, you are completely self absorbed in it! Grow up.

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  gabare

  Aug 19, 2023

  i've been visiting nudist camps - resorts and nude beaches since the 90's both coed and gay , i've always identified as bi-queer to friends but i don't announce it when i go . where ever you visit you can find a relaxing or fun that's up to you and visiting the bathhouse at a gay camp doesn't mean your going to encounter sex or have sex again it's what your looking for. most times i going i want to get some sun , pool time and when my legs don't give out hike .

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• ME

  MemberOriginal Poster

  Aug 20, 2023

  [quote]Talk about Navet, you are completely self absorbed in it! Grow up.[/quote] What does this mean?

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  Stone Andy

  Aug 21, 2023

  [quote]Talk about Navet, you are completely self absorbed in it! Grow up. What does this mean?[/quote] Navet means turnips in French. Something about veggies?

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  StevieLorna

  Aug 24, 2023

  I have it on excellent authority, that navet is a gobbledygook word meaning, sexuality that is neither repressed nor gone wild, and it would be naive to believe otherwise.

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  sunbeamer

  Aug 24, 2023

  Well I just enjoy being a nudist no matter the venue. If you treat everyone with respect you usually avoid any problems especially on a platonic level. As a gay man I've noticed that other gay or bi guys will usually be attracted to me and vice versa. There are also couples who enjoy being with gay men even if only platonically.

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  Blue

  Dec 28, 2023

  Wouldn't bother me a bit.

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  Blue

  Dec 28, 2023

  Wouldn't bother me a bit.

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  Joby

  Nov 20, 2024

  A gay man being at a straight resort is not unlike a gay man having a close relationship with a female friend.
  When the tension is removed from the equation it leads to a more authentic interaction in many ways.
  First of all, the obvious. Women will be okay with it because they know they are safer with that man who is gay because there isn't that tension.
  I will say to the straight guys, a lot of gay men really like straight men. And I don't mean that they will hit on you or lear at you (necessarily). Or that you will be some conquest they will seek to take over. They know you're straight and they will respect that.
  But gay men like men. And many like men who act like men.
  Now that doesn't mean there aren't masculine gay men. Actually, I would say that most gay men don't fit the stereotype that society and the media have put on us.
  There is a pecking order among men though. With straight men being at the apex. Though gay men know they're unattainable because they're straight, straight men are very appealing to gay men. I can see why gay men would like being at a straight resort. Straight men are the fantasy for many gay men.

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  Rick

  Nov 20, 2024

  [quote]A gay man being at a straight resort is not unlike a gay man having a close relationship with a female friend. When the tension is removed from the equation it leads to a more authentic interaction in many ways. First of all, the obvious. Women will be okay with it because they know they are safer with that man who is gay because there isn't that tension. I will say to the straight guys, a lot of gay men really like straight men. And I don't mean that they will hit on you or lear at you (necessarily). Or that you will be some conquest they will seek to take over. They know you're straight and they will respect that. But gay men like men. And many like men who act like men. Now that doesn't mean there aren't masculine gay men. Actually, I would say that most gay men don't fit the stereotype that society and the media have put on us. There is a pecking order among men though. With straight men being at the apex. Though gay men know they're unattainable because they're straight, straight men are very appealing to gay men. I can see why gay men would like being at a straight resort. Straight men are the fantasy for many gay men.[/quote] Your post(s) say more about you, your attractions, fantasies, and ideals then anything else. Please refrain from confusing your likes with those of a group. Please feel free to speak for yourself; not for all gay men, straight men, nudists, or any other large group with diverse thoughts, values, likes and dislikes.

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  Ask me

  Nov 7, 2025

  Even when I was younger, I felt more comfortable with straight men at nudists places. Being naked doesnt have a sexual component with me at all. Gay resorts are fun, dont get me wrong, but you go there for different reasons, I think.

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