Growing old not so gracefully

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  Tom D

  Jun 8, 2021

  [quote}If your physique is something than concerns you a lot you can still work out to get rid of fat and tone your body. But that requires discipline and determination.[/quote] True, but it is a also more difficult to do in your 50's and 60's than 20's and 30's.

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  Steve

  Jun 8, 2021

  I see plenty that cannot be said to be in their prime. They don't seem to worry, just get out and enjoy the sunshine. And there's always the option to grow olddisgracefully. :-D

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• ST

  

  Steve

  Jun 8, 2021

  I've never had a particularly good body image; I was in the best shape of my life in my 50's, after moving to the farm. But that's been 20 years, and the years certainly show. In person, I generally don't think about it - just get on with interacting with people. I DO think about it when taking and posting photos, here or on facebook or wherever. One likes to look one's best, of course, and in photos there's nothing there but the image, nothing about who you are or how you are interacting, just the image. So a higher and higher percent of them disappear unseen.

  We are surrounded by photographic images, a world of models and athletes and influencers. Entering that world is really challenging.

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  Mark Hatlen

  Jun 8, 2021

  I think you look great. Beautiful cock. Nice smile. I like your nose. Rafael was so rude to say you definitely don't look young anymore. Does he not have manners?

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  Paul

  Jun 9, 2021

  [quote]Don't you think that at some point, your hair and or beard will be so long that you will find it annoying?[/quote] My beard has been the same length for several years -- it's not getting any longer. As far as the hair on my head is concerned, no, it will not become anymore annoying than never wearing shoes or clothing.

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  FullSun

  Jun 9, 2021

  [quote]Well I've heard a lot of excuses but not a lot of motivation here. Get off your ass and get walking, running, biking ,swimming or whatever. Do it everyday.[/quote] I too have am seeing all the signs of aging with hair, weight etc. and do agree with the statement above but unfortunately its not reality for me. Due to serious back issues and other medical problems brisk walks and walking more than a quarter to half mile is not feasible. I used to love to run but if I tried even a slow jog Id be flat on the ground in seconds. So, at this point all I can really do is eat more sensibility or at least try. Going back to the original question, the media has taught us al, to hate the way we look. See how many young fit people have eating disorders. Im guessing you havent spent much if any time at a nude resort, if you do, youll see people that have all sorts of issues that the media has taught us to be ashamed of from weight to hair loss to scars and all of the above combined. The difference is theyve realized it doesnt matter or at least doesnt matter enough to stop them from enjoying life as God intended.

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  Jim

  Jun 9, 2021

  [quote]I'm kinda wondering if this is a me thing, or if there are others who suffer from the same issue. I've been a nudist all my life, as far back as I can remember, there was a time I was extremely proud of my appearance, nice tan, smooth, 6 pak abs. I'm not going to sit here and tell you I was some kind of God in my appearance, but I liked the way I looked. Now at 57, the 6 pak has turned into a keg, I have hair sprouting out of places I didn't know hair could grow, and then hair falling out on the roof. Honestly, I am almost embarrassed to be seen nude. Am I the only one who is going through this? Do I need to just get over myself and be myself? or stay under the rock I've been hiding under for the last few years? I'm seriously struggling with this. Any advice would be helpful. I've posted a photo of myself back in the day, it won't be hard to tell which one it is. I had hair in the photo. lol Thanks in advance.[/quote] We have choices in life. If we let popular culture dictate what's acceptable and not, 0.5% of us would be attractive and the rest repulsive and unworthy. Nudism and naturism share the belief that all bodies are beautiful because they aren't anything but flesh and bone without the person that inhabits and animates them. You can compare yourself endlessly to what you are not today and you will always come up wanting and less than. It will never produce your happiness. Your confidence was something you didn't have to work at as much in the past, but instead of mourning the loss of something you didn't actually lose (because you are the same man you ever were inside and that confidence is not anything to do with how you look but how you feel, and by doing what you're doing you preclude the possibility of feeling good about you. You know how. So do it! I know, easier said than done. I like to watch others. Guys with big bellies, in wheelchairs, little people and very old men... who are active engaged smiling and loving life nude and free and from these men the lesson that I can always find fault with myself but if he's not finding fault and he's not and he's not then why should I? Neither in myself nor others. Each phase of life is either the loss of who you were OR the opportunity to discover who you ARE. That means relearning and reworking. Endlessly. Right up to the day you move from this phase into the next. You won't be attractive to the same people in the same way. You will be disappointed. And surprised too. But neither will YOUR attractions be thus also limited. You can't stop time. But you can keep with it. Yoga is by far and away the best way to keep your body fit and your mind youthful. Tai chi too. The masters I know in their 80's look like they are in their 60's. My tai chi master's hair went back to grey and black over the ten years I went to his classes. He healed the circulation and the oxygenation of the follicles and reversed some premature aging. He still was going bald ... everything in measure. He also never fell or slipped on ice in winter could lift anything above his head, make love for hours (so he said) and fight off the unfortunate thing who tried to mug him with the tip of his bamboo cane (black eyes, bruised eardrums and swollen tongue in under 15 seconds he rendered his assailant deaf dumb and blind without causing permanent injuries. He demonstrated on me once only with a feather light touch. I just had to not move at all ... lol. We don't have to be that much crouching tiger hidden dragon but there are joys of the flesh to be had beyond the six pack (I've never had one). Well. Underneath maybe. You're a sexy guy. Believe it.

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  Stone Andy

  Jun 10, 2021

  Paul Simon sang "I'm older than I once was, younger than I'll be, that's not unusual."
  We can become old farts, but there are plenty of young farts out there too.
  We can follow media with its cartoonish extremes, but who wants to be a living cartoon?
  We can only live in the here and now and control what we can control. That's why I focus more on my routines and habits than results. A goal of 6 packs in unattainable alone, but one of regular exercise, healthy food and sufficient sleep will provide better results.
  One day at a time, young or old, it's all attitude and gratitude.
  Aging vertically beats the alternative.
  You are all beautiful and the only thing keeping you from that beauty is perfection.

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  Jim

  Jun 10, 2021

  [quote]Paul Simon sang "I'm older than I once was, younger than I'll be, that's not unusual." We can become old farts, but there are plenty of young farts out there too. We can follow media with its cartoonish extremes, but who wants to be a living cartoon? We can only live in the here and now and control what we can control. That's why I focus more on my routines and habits than results. A goal of 6 packs in unattainable alone, but one of regular exercise, healthy food and sufficient sleep will provide better results. One day at a time, young or old, it's all attitude and gratitude. Aging vertically beats the alternative. You are all beautiful and the only thing keeping you from that beauty is perfection.[/quote] That last line. The only thing keeping you from that beauty is perfection. Brilliant.

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• ME

  Member

  Jun 10, 2021

  My advice ...I look pretty fit for the age. I am a medical wreck but I don't let on. Just sit up in your chair straight and not drool when you speak. :D

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  Chuck

  Jun 12, 2021

  I was there... Took me a bit to realize it. My Primary doctor started getting on my case about weight and blood pressure early on for me hitting 49. I had gotten into that spiral of sitting all weekend. For the past 3 years now, I have worked hard to change that. I started Hormone Replacement Therapy. I did not realize how much testosterone impact the body beyond the reproductive functions. It his everything including your metabolism. A couple of weeks after I started taking it, I found I could not sit still and had to keep moving so I ended up as the guy frequently. Has been one of the best things for me and has been a game changer on my overall health. It has given me the motivation to push myself. It also has changed my attitude and how I view things an life. Not in a funk or feeling my age (soon 52). Age is more of a number now more than anything. Hormone Replacement did take a bit to get used to, I opted for self injections over pellet implants. I tired the pellets and they don't dissolve at a consistent pace or rate so its up one day and down the next. Also they are very expensive ($1200 for 6 months). The injections are 2 a week and its about $42 every 2 months. It does help with the libido, shortly after starting, the signs be being 20 again with the mornings. I have down well with my weight, I was a lot of flab at 49 and have been changing over to muscle. As with anything you do there is a level of effort required, you get out of it what you put in to. Hormone replacement has been working here, may have a different effect on others, we each have a unique chemistry test as genetics go.

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  Strandjunge59

  Jun 12, 2021

  [quote]I was there... Took me a bit to realize it. ...[/quote] Sorry I really don't know what you want to say us. I think it must be a warning not to do that because it sounds horrible.

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  Bill

  Jun 15, 2021

  At the end of the day we all have to accept the fact we are going to get older. The question for me is HOW do you want to get older? Personally I try to stay as active as I can. I exercise and watch my diet, nothing obsessive but if I over indulge one day I cut back a bit the day after, easy. Overcoming a serious medical problem a number of years ago it would have been very simple to just take life easy. But that only leads to more problems so I decided to stay as fit and active as possible. Not everyone can do that of course and some days I struggle to find the motivation to get off my backside. But being single I want to stay as independent as possible for as long as possible and that too is a great motivator.

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  Geoff

  Jun 18, 2021

  When younger, I was in the Army. I had an eightpack at times without even trying. After the Army I was in Emergency Services and always had a flat stomach and tight buns, not bad guns either and was always proud of my broad chest. But we age, I knew Id most likely go bald on top. Im quite happy that a haircut now is just running the clippers over whats left haha. Now the stray hairs grow long in my eyebrows, the top is just skin, and the body hair spread. I was never one of the model looking guys when young but I did turn eyes when even semi naked. I feel the most important thing is to just be oneself. Real nudism/naturism isnt about age or looks, its about simply being comfortable in ones own skin. Ok, so we all looked better younger from some points of view. Silly girls and queens can be insulting, and offensive. Just get over it, isnt really helpful either. Perhaps be happy you had what you once had. The early fitness will see your good health last longer as long as you didnt overdo things when young and fit. The injuries we thought we had recovered from back then come back after fifty. I even call it overfiftyitis. I did many things as a soldier and an ES worker others could not do or would not do. Im grateful my body was good enough, and strong enough, back then to do those things for others while I could. I cant do the exercise I once did due to my former careers. So embrace the keg, youre older and hopefully wiser. Try to be grateful for people who accept you for who you are and not what you look like. And push yourself just a little to get back out naked. Look around you, therell be many in the same boat. Many who never had the lean muscular bodies we once had. Just be you.

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  Jennings Lee Johnson

  Jun 18, 2021

  Hey Sam. Body beautiful is not the issue. It's frame of mind and acceptance of continuing change, without regret, that fills the bill. Anticipate the joy of the coming years and enjoy each day. From a dude old enough to be your father "bragging rights"

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  Terry C

  Jun 22, 2021

  As a 75 year old retired physician, welcome to the getting older body club. The only way to attempt to stay in shape is to work out daily, eat non-fat food, shave that hair or get manscaped, and then get back into the nudist groove. Personally, I am shrinking (used to be 6'3 now 6'1 inch tall, had so much different surgery in the past 10 years that my belly is sagging and somewhat flabby, it covers the penis and makes it look smaller than it is, etc. Well, I remain enjoying being nude and being with nudists and sharing stories and chats and swimming nude, etc. You cannot change getting older you can only deal with it to look the best you can. Stay a open and loving nudist!
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• ME

  Member

  Jun 26, 2021

  I'm in my 60's carrying a few extra kilos "not to many though" and balding, but I love the beach and getting naked, sure I would love to look how I used to but that is not going to happen. So just enjoy going, strip off and enjoy yourself and if you look around there are plenty of people who look the same.

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• ME

  Member

  Jun 30, 2021

  Im in my early 50s and most of you who posted here might say that Im still too young to worry about growing old ungracefully. As I hit my 40s I started feeling my body changing. At one time, I was 200 lbs and I didnt like the way I feel and my blood pressure and cholesterol went up as well. I also noticed that most menas they grow older, they tend to just let go and didnt bother to take care of themselves physically, mentally and emotionally. Also, I see a lot of people men and women, as they grow older, the first thing that they lose is their flexibility. When I see theseI get scared. Thats when I decided to change the way I lived especially the way I eat. I did all these changes merely for medical purposes and not to look good nor catch up with what the society is expecting us to be. When my weight dropped significantly, my blood pressure normalized and also my cholesterol level went down. Then I started doing stretching exercise to maintain my flexibility. I dont like going to gyms so I took some alternative exercises like walking and biking. Doing this regularly is very important to get results. My body has its own flaw but Im ok. Getting older is hard. we all come in all shapes and sizes. What is important is that we are comfortable in our own skin and body. Take care of your own body for yourself and for your kids and not for anyone or the societies opinion. Be happy and enjoy being naked.

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  nudeyooper

  Jun 30, 2021

  [quote]Im in my early 50s and most of you who posted here might say that Im still too young to worry about growing old ungracefully. As I hit my 40s I started feeling my body changing. At one time, I was 200 lbs and I didnt like the way I feel and my blood pressure and cholesterol went up as well. I also noticed that most menas they grow older, they tend to just let go and didnt bother to take care of themselves physically, mentally and emotionally. Also, I see a lot of people men and women, as they grow older, the first thing that they lose is their flexibility. When I see theseI get scared. Thats when I decided to change the way I lived especially the way I eat. I did all these changes merely for medical purposes and not to look good nor catch up with what the society is expecting us to be. When my weight dropped significantly, my blood pressure normalized and also my cholesterol level went down. Then I started doing stretching exercise to maintain my flexibility. I dont like going to gyms so I took some alternative exercises like walking and biking. Doing this regularly is very important to get results. My body has its own flaw but Im ok. Getting older is hard. we all come in all shapes and sizes. What is important is that we are comfortable in our own skin and body. Take care of your own body for yourself and for your kids and not for anyone or the societies opinion. Be happy and enjoy being naked.[/quote] I know your system works. I have tried it myself and it takes a lot of work. Unfortunately, it is too easy to fall away from the discipline that it takes to do the work. Life events get in the way. I joke that I cannot make future plans because I am married. Things my wife, who is partially disabled, needs come at inopportune times. Grandchildren who live with us part of every week, though enjoyable, do get in the way of what is needed sometimes, and my restless leg syndrome and sleep disorders contribute to my obesity. Eating helps the legs calm when the drugs are not enough and it helps me stay awake in the evening so I can sleep in my bed instead of on the couch or in my recliner. The good news is that I have been able to keep it from getting worse. Most days, I do more than a half hour of stretching and strengthening exercises and do at least ten miles on my bike. If I can't do that, my stationary will keep me busy for at least one hour. It is necessary to make this just one more thing that has to be done every day, but it sometimes interferes with travel needs, appointments, and other tasks that must be done at a certain time. Though I am retired, if I don't do that hour and a half first thing in the morning, other things take precedence.

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  Stone Andy

  Jun 30, 2021

  Whereas age is both a gift and a challenge for all, our youth-obsessed culture focus more on its burdens than blessings such as wisdom.
  The problem with maintaining fitness is that we think we deserve too much: the benefits of youth without the vitality, the savoring of life without exerting the same level of commitment and effort.
  I've come to believe that it's best to focus on core strength and flexibility in training and vitality in our lifestyle. It's focusing on the process, not the results, and it applies to any age. There is no what in the perfect diet or exercise regime, it's the how in living it day to day. Don't walk to the grocery store to get in steps, walk to enjoy the sunshine or even rain. Don't keep yourself from the mega-dessert to lower calories, enjoy small portions while making the association that you'll have more energy without carrying around extra weight. Be grateful to your belly fat, how it's life's energy reserves, but acknowledge that life is so rich and generous that you can fly with a smaller gas tank. Fast and pray or meditate to keep you grounded.
  I acknowledge my shortcomings and health issues, while at the same time I see men at the gym half my age exercising lopsidedly and peers my age struggling to get out of their cars. Reminding myself that it's the process, not the results which matter makes it easy to acknowledge that it's all worthwhile and good, so I'll continue showing up.

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  floridaslim

  Jun 30, 2021

  I've never had a weight problem but did experience the start of the dreaded "belly" at about 60. It was then that I stopped the beer, stopped the sugars, and some other great tasting foods that seemed to turn to fat on my body. I increased my exercise and developed a taste for plain old water. I have been able to keep the weight off but the years have continued to pile up. There is only one way to stop that and right now I'm not interested. Stay safe and stay naked.

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  Strandjunge59

  Jul 8, 2021

  You don't look with 60 like you looked with 20. But you have much more experience. I don't want to be 20 again. About what things I thought about when I was young which are really no problem. It's the passage of time that you get older. It's something you have to accept. In fact you have 2 options: to get old or to die early.

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