MALE NUDISTS

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  StevieLorna

  Sep 17, 2019

  The next time your wife joined you, you will have the couples perspective. Also, ask her how she feels about all the lone men.

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  Brett Rapley

  Sep 20, 2019

  [quote]I am curious about nude males on beaches. I have been going to nude beaches on and off most of my life and I am straight. Recently I have been going at least 2 to 3 times a week by myself for the last 3 years to the same beach (my wife occasionally joins me as well). I have tried to strike up conversations with others but it seems that I have spiders all over me. Not one has ever approached me and said hello. Very few if any will engage in a conversation and when they do, they seem very introverted/reluctant/suspicious. I thought nudists were likeminded people who would gladly associate or engage with others. Is it a fear that I am bi and after some action? Or it believed that 2 male nudists chatting are perceived as bi or something sexual? From experience on this site, a good proportion seem to have an agenda other nudism. Is it a male thing, some sort of taboo or is that male nudists are loners because of public perception that all males are somewhat perverted and have a hidden agenda. Nudist couples do not seem to have a problem from what I have seen. Id like to hear your thoughts.[/quote] Nudists are supposed to be like minded people, but you will always get those that assume because your a single male on the beach, naked, that you are there for sexual fun, it makes no difference if your Straight or Bi, it's their preconceived idea that your on the prowl for sex ! Those types of nudists are small minded and think they know you before even bothering to talk with you and get to know you in the slightest, case of "oh, your single, you MUST be here for more that just being a naturist/nudist", even if you are married, they assume or expect the wife to always be with you, or they think you might be swingers if you are with your wife ! You can see what I mean from my comment on being small minded. If your with another male, even if you just chatting, again, it's assumed that your there for fun and not just to enjoy the beach naked and top up your tan, neither of you even have to have an erection or be touching (non sexual touching I mean). The so called public perception is the thing that is at fault there, no one has the right to state that all single males on a nude beach are loners or perverts, we may look around the beach itself, taking in the view of the sea and location, but some will say your eyeing up the so called talent to see who's possibly going to be your next conquest, point there is that as you look along the beach, your going to see other naked people, that does not mean that you are scanning them for anything they assume that you may want from them. If you have seen people there regularly (over the 3 years you have been visiting the same beach), who you know by sight and they have seen you there as well, and you have done nothing other than be naked and enjoying the sun, sea and sand, then surely they have to realise that your not there for there for the assumed sex. If they can't see past the end of their own faces, then it just shows how shallow and piss ignorant they are in their perception of a single individual male enjoying a day naked on the beach. The thing about nudist couples, is again, assumed that they are all pure and virginal in their pursuit of a naked day at the beach, they think because they are there as a couple that, no one has the right to even think they MAY be there for something more than the sun. They could both be sexual predators for all you know ! Yes, I am making my own assumption there, but there is nothing to stop me from thinking that is there ? At the end of the day, those types of people are not worth your time, IF they automatically think your there for a sexual conquest, when your not, it simply shows their level of arrogance towards other nudists.

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  Stone Andy

  Sep 21, 2019

  I've encountered similar dynamics as a single male and encourage you not to take things personally. Being over 40 makes you even more suspect. People are suspicious. If you were 20 it would be easier, but most 20 years are so clueless that reality doesn't really matter and when they're smart enough to wake up and wonder, they're old curmudgeons like the rest of us. So have fun anyway. Good luck.

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  StevieLorna

  Sep 21, 2019

  To all the lone men, would you sit down next to a dressed couple in the park and expect to be treated like an old friend just because you are all wearing clothes?

  They would probably think you a weirdo.

  So why do you expect the reaction to be different on a nude beach?

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  Al

  Sep 21, 2019

  When I go to any beach by myself I expect it to be a solitary experience. Bring a book. If I make a friendly comment to someone nearby and they reply in kind, then we may chat more. But it's the exception. I expect the same situation at regular and CO beaches.
  Not sure how the idea of "like-minded" as nudists would necessarily imply being gregarious with strangers on a beach just because we are both nude. Peruse this site, any thread. I think you will discover many people who you would be happy never to meet on a beach or anywhere. Some are mean-spirited in their replies, some dogmatic, sone just plain insufferable.
  If I was at the same beach often (unfortunately, I never am) I might look for other regulars and start waving in mutual recognition. You might find another single or two who are compatible buddies. Good luck.

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  Jim

  Nov 3, 2019

  [quote]The next time your wife joined you, you will have the couples perspective. Also, ask her how she feels about all the lone men.[/quote] I can't like this enough. I'm a gay man but nonetheless on mixed beaches I am not traipsing up to single women or even couples unless it's very clear my presence is desired. What I have noticed is that regulars do introduce themselves once they see the guy come a few times act appropriately and be respectful of the experience most women have on any beach nude or otherwise. I did a little research experiment with a woman nudist friend who agreed to have her friend write down every unsolicited male interaction in one day. She stopped at 45. Of those 10 were overtly sexual in content or implication. I had no unsolicited interactions despite the beach having a sizeable LGBTQ2 demographic in the same time period. It's abusive at those levels.

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  Andy

  Nov 4, 2019

  In response to 1nakedbird, most single male nudists hang out alone because if they start socializing they look suspicious.
  And in addition, as a gay male nudist, we have two men's nudist clubs here in Louisville, KY that always have lots of guys in attendance. Neither is a sex club and we enjoy socializing nude with other nude guys. Right now we are trying to form a men's nude yoga class.
  I have never understood nudist club's attitude that "single men are disgusting so the way to solve it is to keep the good guys out."

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  StevieLorna

  Nov 10, 2019

  (Harley?)

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  Member

  Nov 23, 2019

  Not enough use of "ALL CAPS"...but it was a thought.

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  Tom

  Nov 27, 2019

  Single male nudist have always been shunned by the nudist community, you only have to look at this website and the amount of profiles that say Single Males not wanted.

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  StevieLorna

  Nov 27, 2019

  And the couples who have that in their profile often complain that they still get unwanted attention from single guys..... that should tell you all need to know.

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  mako09

  Dec 4, 2019

  [quote]I am curious about nude males on beaches. I have been going to nude beaches on and off most of my life and I am straight. Recently I have been going at least 2 to 3 times a week by myself for the last 3 years to the same beach (my wife occasionally joins me as well). I have tried to strike up conversations with others but it seems that I have spiders all over me. Not one has ever approached me and said hello. Very few if any will engage in a conversation and when they do, they seem very introverted/reluctant/suspicious. I thought nudists were likeminded people who would gladly associate or engage with others. Is it a fear that I am bi and after some action? Or it believed that 2 male nudists chatting are perceived as bi or something sexual? From experience on this site, a good proportion seem to have an agenda other nudism. Is it a male thing, some sort of taboo or is that male nudists are loners because of public perception that all males are somewhat perverted and have a hidden agenda. Nudist couples do not seem to have a problem from what I have seen. Id like to hear your thoughts.[/quote] Yoy either suck dick or you don't, is the average understanding. If you want action go find a gay guy, but if you aren't attractive they won't give you the time of day. If you are trying to "turn" a straight guy, you will probably get your ass kicked. Enjoy the view and Shut the Fuck Up!

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  Steve

  Dec 4, 2019

  I am a single male nudist myself and I always plan on a solo trip. Keep expectations of meeting anyone low. If it happens cool.. if not, still a good day. I find books to be a good arbiter in this dilemma..

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  John

  Dec 4, 2019

  When a person goes to a beach why on earth would they go there to be naked and talk to complete strangers and have a conversation with them ?
  Our experience of a beach in SCOTLAND was of middle age men in anoraks on a hot summers day trying to take photo's of us with their mobile phone's which in turn made us start looking for a club to join to get away from that type of bullshit as we had encountered very little of this type of thing on holidays to Fuerteventura

  It is the behaviour of people that is important to us and not the gender or their sexual orientation

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  cwick744

  Dec 28, 2019

  I totally agree with you and have even had other str8 men, as I'm str8 myself, turn down nude hangs because of that reason alone. I'm very comfortable in my sexuality and have no issues talking with another man at a beach or resort or having some social nude time with another man.

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  DonOriginal Poster

  Jan 7, 2020

  Thanks for all your contributions and all the different points of view.

  To the people who said a nude beach is no different to a park, you wouldn't just walk up to someone in a park and start chatting, well generally you don't unless you have something in common like children or dogs etc.

  In my mind nude beaches are different, because nudists are a minority group and they have something in common - nudity. Well I appear to have made some long held misguided assumptions.

  After reading all the comments and reflecting on my own ideas of what nudists are about and my experiences over the years, I have now come to the sad conclusion that beaches are not clubs or social venues or places to make friends or where people have something in common but somewhere to enjoy your own self and what nature has to offer.

  In future I will do exactly that, enjoy what I love doing and accept that socialising on nudist beaches is not common practice or invited.

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  DonOriginal Poster

  Jan 7, 2020

  Hi,

  We have never been approached by anyone on our beach nor have I seen it happen

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  DonOriginal Poster

  Jan 7, 2020

  Hi,

  We have never been approached by anyone on our beach nor have I seen it happen

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  Debbie12

  Jan 7, 2020

  Hi i am Debbie am still new here i need a good friends of mine too i want you to give me all the attention

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  bob

  Mar 28, 2020

  i have gone to resorts and tried to be admitted to others but turned away solely because i was a solo male, and even worse a solo married male nudist. I have come to the conclusion that AANR plays or played a big part in the anti male attitudes at their associated resorts and the attitude of their members especially the married cples do treat a solo male as if he is deseased or worse. They are often the ones that are rude and standoffish .. That is a big part of why i quit the aanr oranization membeship., TNS folks i never found to be that shallow minded..

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• ME

  Member

  Apr 12, 2020

  Maybe your going to wrong place !! Find a better place and be yourself !! Ive never really had much of a problem being a nudist for 30 years now ! I believe nudity is the freedom of being able to express themselves socially ! Because we are all in same place are birthday suite !!

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  StevieLorna

  Apr 24, 2020

  Everyone wants to talk to me when Im nude.

  Probably because I wear a cock ring and ear muffs.... But nothing else.

  Its a conversation starter.

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  ecurbaus

  Aug 28, 2020

  Coming from a country where each state has different laws, and in my state where nudity on the beach is illegal, if I spot another nudist on a beach, in my state or anywhere Im travelling, Im likely to approach them and ask whats the norm or etiquette for that beach. I got opposite levels of response from the two other people on the beach the original poster visits when I went there a couple of years ago - the first very negative, the second quite informative and friendly. I find that responses often vary, but people tend to at least respect that youre willing to learn what local behaviours are and what is considered acceptable (eg on some beaches it is stay in the dunes, others theres unwritten expectations about where the nude/ gay/ straight section begins/ ends, etc.)

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  John

  Aug 28, 2020

  [quote] A club in my state charges a non-member female $25 per day to use the resort. But an unaccompanied male would pay $150. [/quote] What state do you live in? Is this sort of disparity common? I've heard that some clubs favor females over males, but SIX TIMES the amount?

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