My wife won't get nude.

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• FU

  

  FullSun

  Sep 10, 2020

  Look through the group Married But Spouse Not Into, where this has been discussed many times with good ideas and stories. I know there are some other groups where this has been discussed but I cant think of them now.
  https://www.truenudists.com/group/married-but-spouse-not-into/ Update, heres another https://www.truenudists.com/group/married-men-with-non-nude-wives/

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• ST

  

  SteveOriginal Poster

  Sep 10, 2020

  Thank you, I'll look for the group.

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• ME

  Member

  Sep 10, 2020

  I understand your experience as my ex went from a very sexy pretty party girl rock lead vocalist then morphed into an anti naked person. It went to the disdain of me even being naked at all except the shower. I tried to figure out WTH that happened but no way would she loosen up. In my experience it was nothing that could be over. If I had to do it over I would not have been on her whipping bitching post and I now see I should have "manned up" if you will. Heck it was my 70 hr work weeks that had her living very comfortably.

  Yes we all want a peaceful home but it is really not if one is kissing ass on a daily taking orders from the Warden. To think I let a 5' 110 lb partner in life kicked my ass for 17 yrs makes me ashamed . Luann knew when we got together I could not and would not ever be run over like that ever again. Still it spins my head I went from anti nude drill sergeant to a sweet heart that lives naked .

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• ME

  Member

  Sep 10, 2020

  I dont know about you, but I spout out yes, sweetie on a very regular basis...and Im proud of it!

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• JO

  

  John

  Sep 11, 2020

  I'm in the same boat. My wife used to accept nudity to the point where she slept naked when we married but now has very negative feelings about it.

  There are some very good reasons for it (medications and a history of abuse) and I empathize. I'm not going to go into this in more detail on a public forum. But I think it's going to be a cold day in Hell before she consents to be seen nude in front of other people.

  I think she'll be cool, or at least accepting, of my being nude, though. We'll see.

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• ME

  Member

  Sep 11, 2020

  well if she loves you go for it may be surprised

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• LE

  Lee

  Sep 11, 2020

  Best thing I did was get a hot tub. Nobody wants to wear a swimsuit in a hot tub. Great way for her to try it on her terms.

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• MC

  

  Mcdcvs

  Sep 11, 2020

  If the club is clothing optional, I would go and invite your wife to attend with you. She can stay dressed and in the camper if she wants and you can be nude. She may come to a different understanding of the lifestyle.

  My wife is not a nudist. She will go nude at resorts with me but doesnt want join the club. She allowed me to join. Apparently there was a rule at our club that the spouse had to approve you joining if they were not going to join with you. That rule no longer exists but there is a male to female ratio that is maintained so single males have to wait on a waiting list sometimes.

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• TD

  

  Tom D

  Sep 11, 2020

  [quote]Hey guys, I love being nude. Every chance I get I'm naked. However I have never been anywhere but my house and backyard. My wife does not share my enthusiasm towards the nude life. When she is around I try to stay dressed she nce it's awkward being nude around her. I don't think I can ever change her mind. Here's the problem. I want to expand my area of nakedness. I want to go to a nudist resort. I do any the feeling of being around other nudists. How do I explain that to my wife? She will think it's all about sex and probably freak out. I don't really want to sneak out on a day off but I'm afraid that's what I might have to do. The place I want to go to, in northern California, has camping so I could park my camper there but that would be real hard to explain. Anyways, if anybody has been in the same situation, I'd appreciate some advice. Am I stuck at home forever? Thanks[/quote] How does your wife feel about seeing people who are naked other than you? My wife is not comfortable with it so a visit to a clothing optional resort would not work for me. She is fine with me being nude in the house and back yard as long as we don't have company, but she rarely is.

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• JO

  

  John

  Sep 11, 2020

  [quote]Best thing I did was get a hot tub. Nobody wants to wear a swimsuit in a hot tub. Great way for her to try it on her terms.[/quote] Yes, agree. This is the only time my wife gets nude other than the shower and to sleep.

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• JO

  

  John

  Sep 11, 2020

  Lee, thank you for such a well written story. That is my dream but does not seem to be on the horizon. Cypress Cove was my very fist social experience and it was the most liberating experience of my life. Best wishes to you both.

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• JO

  

  John

  Sep 11, 2020

  Billy, ALWAYS be honest. I encourage you to explore the options for nude time but always let your wife know where you are going. She may object and disapprove but she will rightfully be more hurt by dishonesty.

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• TD

  

  Tom D

  Sep 11, 2020

  [quote]My better half feels the same way. She's cool with me going to CO beaches or my club, but won't accompany me...[/quote] My wife know that I "sometimes" go to a clothing optional beach, but probably doesn't realize that "sometimes" is "usually". I just tell her I am going to the beach. She only goes to the beach when our grandson is coming too or we are on vacation and can walk to it. I have only made one day trip to a resort. I was going to be in the area for a ride in a race car so I told her there was a pool nearby that I was going to go to afterward and didn't mention that it was clothing optional. How much time do you spend at the club? Did you spend more when you were temporarily retired?

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• JE

  

  Jerry

  Sep 11, 2020

  [quote]Billy, ALWAYS be honest. I encourage you to explore the options for nude time but always let your wife know where you are going. She may object and disapprove but she will rightfully be more hurt by dishonesty.[/quote] In addition to what John has said, think of this. If she finds that you were not honest about where you were, why do you think she should then trust you when you said you were not there for sex with others? Once you lose her trust, it will be difficult to regain it again, so dont make her mistrust your motives because she cant trust your word on where you were...

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• JE

  

  Jerry

  Sep 11, 2020

  [quote]Billy, ALWAYS be honest. I encourage you to explore the options for nude time but always let your wife know where you are going. She may object and disapprove but she will rightfully be more hurt by dishonesty.[/quote] In addition to what John has said, think of this. If she finds that you were not honest about where you were, why do you think she should then trust you when you said you were not there for sex with others? Once you lose her trust, it will be difficult to regain it again, so dont make her mistrust your motives because she cant trust your word on where you were...

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• JE

  

  Jerry

  Sep 11, 2020

  [quote]Billy, ALWAYS be honest. I encourage you to explore the options for nude time but always let your wife know where you are going. She may object and disapprove but she will rightfully be more hurt by dishonesty.[/quote] In addition to what John has said, think of this. If she finds that you were not honest about where you were, why do you think she should then trust you when you said you were not there for sex with others? Once you lose her trust, it will be difficult to regain it again, so dont make her mistrust your motives because she cant trust your word on where you were...

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• RS

  

  Roy Stephens

  Sep 11, 2020

  [quote]Hey guys, I love being nude. Every chance I get I'm naked. However I have never been anywhere but my house and backyard. My wife does not share my enthusiasm towards the nude life. When she is around I try to stay dressed she nce it's awkward being nude around her. I don't think I can ever change her mind.Here's the problem. I want to expand my area of nakedness. I want to go to a nudist resort. I do any the feeling of being around other nudists. How do I explain that to my wife? She will think it's all about sex and probably freak out. I don't really want to sneak out on a day off but I'm afraid that's what I might have to do. The place I want to go to, in northern California, has camping so I could park my camper there but that would be real hard to explain.Anyways, if anybody has been in the same situation, I'd appreciate some advice.Am I stuck at home forever?Thanks Hi Billy. First let me say welcome to TN. I can relate to your story, mine was very similar. It was also similar to Rockdad's. I had a controlling ex as well. I felt and knew your pain Rock! I think Rock made a point, which I did in my life as well. Be free to be yourself! Being nude around my upgrade seemed awkward at first. It wasn't what I/we did, but I wanted to. I wanted the freedom but didn't want discord. My eventual reasoning was, "after a half century of trying to please everyone else in my world, it was time to be free to be me"! One Sunday morning I just decided I wasn't going to wear my clothes, sat in my favorite chair and read. When Annie woke and joined me for coffee, she didn't say anything at first but finally asked why I was naked. I just told her, "because I can"! I didn't feel like putting my clothes on, that it was more comfortable this way. Later she asked if I was going to get dressed and I told her I didn't think so. I eventually did as I needed to go outside, but it set the stage. It was a side of me she usually didn't see. A bold side. I think she respected it. Better yet, she accepted it. As time went on, I was nude quite often and we would we conversed about it on occasion. I told her that I was almost 60 years old and if I feel like being naked, I'm gonna be naked! I held my ground most of the time from then on but would compromise from time to time for harmony's sake. Eventually it wasn't an issue any more, even on our back porch. The following summer we were booked at a convention in Orlando. I told her I wanted to check out a resort called Cypress Cove. After much debate I convinced her to spend our first night there and go on a tour, then head to the convention center for the remaining four nights. I explained that it was clothing optional so there was no expectation for her to follow suit. She finally relented to do it for me but I better not bug her about being nude, which I promised I wouldn't. We arrived mid afternoon and checked in. Then we were given a golf cart tour. Afterwards we settled into our room and prepared to head out to the pool for some sun and cocktails. Again, I was threatened not to bug her about her clothes which I promised I wouldn't. We headed off for the pool, me nude, her in her suit. We settled into some lounges and prepared our drinks. Within five minutes she said "this is stupid", stood up and pealed her suit off. A half hour later we cancelled our room at the convention center and booked our remaining four days at Cypress. We have gone every year since. It's wonderful to be married to someone who is respectful of my need to be me. She knew how controlling my ex could be and that I should feel free to express myself however I like, even if she didn't necessarily agree. It opened up a whole new world for both of us. Sometimes you just have to do what makes you happy. "Be free to be me" and "because I can" became my words to live by. I hope my story is helpful.[/quote] I think "because I can" just became my new slogan :-)

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• ME

  Member

  Sep 11, 2020

  My 1st wife morphed from fun a loving girl to anti naked anti sex. I would love to have handled it differently looking back. I would not have been walking on egg shells about it all or kissing her ass in an attempt to keep her appeased. Heck I was the one working two jobs and then come home only to walk on glass as not to bring on her disdain.

  Personally I would not have allowed her to tie me to a whipping post should I raise her ire and fired her earlier than near 20 years when I finally pulled the trigger. Hind sight is 20/20 as they say. We only have a set amount of days and I learned not to let one of them burn in waste especially being the bread winner. I pretty much am disappointed in myself how I dealt with the naked thing all away around back then.

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• HE

  

  Henry

  Sep 12, 2020

  For us it was going to a Korean spa that changed my wife's mind. She loves massages and mineral saunas but she was real apprehensive about the same gender locker room wet area. In a Korean spa in the hot tubs and steam room you have to be naked. She was self-conscious at first but in order to get a body scrub you have to soak for 15 minutes. Once in there she noticed that there were women of all shapes and sizes and no body stared or cared what you looked like. After about 2 years of going to Korean spas on vacations we decided to try a nudist resort. Once again she saw that nobody stared or cared that she was naked. Just good friendly conversation and more eye contact then when she is wearing a bathing suit. She loves it so much now that we bought an RV so that we can travel to nudist resorts around here in the Midwest. However, I still say it is because she realizes that there is no laundry at the end of a nakation.

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• CO

  

  Connor

  Sep 12, 2020

  I have a few resources in my feed thatmighthelp. It was posted last year. Keep loading my feed to about a year ago. You'll know it when you see it. Just copy the text links and paste to your browser.

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• JA

  

  Jason

  Sep 12, 2020

  Great account of your journey. Would love for that to happen to me however I cannot imagine sitting naked in my favorite chair as a way to introduce my wife to nudism. Thank you for sharing.

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• SI

  

  silversurfer

  Sep 14, 2020

  The truth shall set you free. Well...maybe not but i sure wouldn't hide it from your wife. She would never trust you again if she found out and marriage is based on trust.

  I am fortunate that while my wife has no intention of joining me at a nudist beach or resort, she is okay with me going to them and I am nude almost 24/7 now at home. I am totally honest with her. I even gave her my password on here when I joined. We are even discussing getting a travel trailer which I can take to my favorite nudist resort for a week or so so I don't have to stay in a tent. And since the kids no longer live at home she has joined me in the hot tub nude on occasion.

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• NE

  

  Newandnervous1

  Sep 18, 2020

  I totally feel your frustration. My story is more than a little strange...I still dont understand. My wife, in the beginning of our relationship, was very open about her nudity. Every morning after her shower she stayed nude until she had to go to work. I was NEVER one to be naked in front of others. One day after my shower I did as she does...stayed nude and went to the garage to smoke like she does. She was dressed and ready to leave and gave me this look and said did you forget something why are you out here naked? I was stunned, had no idea what to say and felt really stupid.. i tried it a couple more times and was always met with disbelief...like I was doing something wrong. It just felt really weird. We decided to attend a nude years eve at a nudist resort and met some nice people, but she got pretty drunk and mouthy and just humiliated the hell out of me. Turns out shes good with nudity...just not my nudity.
  Now somebody explain that to me. Im 510 and 165 and in shape. She denies having any problems with me being nude but acts disgusted and angry if I am

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• ME

  Member

  Sep 18, 2020

  How about stranger yet? My wife and I introduced her sister and her husband to the nude life two years ago by inviting them to join us at our local resort. Sister was nervous, wasn't sure but said she would at least visit to see what it was like. Upon arriving we were taken back at the fact she was undressed before the other three of us were. Mind you, none of us had ever been even close to seeing each other nude. I'm talking 50 years of knowing one another.
  We spent four days with us and we spent each day at the resort nude. They now are regular visitors there. Spending nakations there three to four weeks a year at different times. That's her number one favorite vacation spot outside of their cruises.
  But. She refuses to he nude at home, won't sleep nude at home, won't allow her husband to either. She won't visit our house unless she calls and asks that we be dressed while they are here.
  My only explanation to this in my opinion is that she likes to pretend to be high society. Yet they aren't. But it gives her the opinion she is. So she is willing to sacrifice her clothed lifestyle to feel classy.

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