SHOW RESPECT. If you want more women to feel safe being nude than be a real man and show some class or at least human decency. It's bad enough when it happens on a "true" nudist website but when it happens at public nude beaches, private resorts... it's enough to discourage even me, a pretty bold woman, who has no problem calling inappropriateness out, pause and reconsideration to public nudity.
Keep it clean and fun on here and in public and more woman may feel safe enough to feel the joy of being nude.[/em][/strong]
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- MEMemberMar 16, 2018
Totally agree.
Perhaps it should be part of the nudie code that if someone witnesses an injustice or lack of respect they are OBLIGATED to call it out. As in, it's not optional to ignore, but rather someone who ignores is complicit with the offender.
I have textile friends who I have invited to the public FKK beach and they really really enjoy it, it's fun to see their perspective change. But in two instances a guy who thought he was really smooth under the radar kinda ruined the whole experience for the woman/friend I was with. I was really pissed off. Sometimes I think maybe these people need a re-education in what is socially acceptable and what is not, clothed or unclothed.
ReactReply - MU
Mar 19, 2018This is an old topic but I will give my current thoughts:
sometimes i just send a friend request to a female just to say hi. I have no intention of sitting on the site for 3 hours and typing to randoms so It really is just to say hi and to show NOT all guys are horn dogs messaging a female to hit on them or (etc.). Often times the ladies do not accept my hi or add because they assume I am a horn toad. Maybe the young ish guy thing is part of it for me.
I've been in various online communities for years and I know you can have 50 really cool people and then 5 aholes and the 5 aholes can make a place seem bad. The negatives tend to stick in your mind: "hey that guy was annoying". It's true that some guys are horn dogs on here and I know the ladies get swarmed in their private messages... BUT, it's not all mens fault. Ladies should realize in that it is probably the same 25 guys on the prowl sending horny messages on this site and then there is the other 200+ of us that are laid back and very nice in general.
The funny of everything is this: you think the horn toad guys are going to respect this thread: heck no (lol). People are who they are and it takes a lot of will power to change a set pattern of behavior/thought processes. So all of the guys that posted in this thread in agreement with the opening posts messages are the ones who were already respecting the ladies before the opening post was ever written haha.ReactReply - NK
Mar 23, 2018This is not just a problem on this web site or in the nudist world. I suspect that it is some of the same men that are disrespectful here that are the ones getting called on the carpet in offices, Statehouses, and elsewhere. I am so glad that women are taking a stand on this. Certainly, the word is out that that kind of behavior is not acceptable. Unfortunately, web sites like this one will probably remain a places where they can act out because of the anonymity. I for one wish there was a nudist web site that was more selective, and men and women could communicate more normally.
One last thought - I saw this on a profile a week ago. Paraphrasing - does it really matter if you are gay, straight or bi? Being a nudist is not supposed to be about sex. That is certainly idealistic, but a nice thought.
ReactReply - NUJun 24, 2018
The older generations have been complaining about the lack of respect and responsibility for millennia. What I frequently see is young people wanting to make this world a better place. They volunteer in their communities, and do well in their studies, and they work hard at their jobs. This; however, does not apply to all and it never has. We tend to focus on the negative and because of that bad behavior appears on the news and in social media. Find a political candidate who advertises a positive only campaign without making his or her opponent look like a bad choice and you probably have found the loser of that election. They do because it works.
Our president uses this tactic almost daily, and I believe that the example he sets is being followed by many more than at any previous time. It is still for the most part a civil society when dealing with someone face to face, but the anonymity of the Internet has brought out the worst in us.
ReactReply - BE
Jun 26, 2018Sometimes I think a lot of people think this is just another hook up site. The naked body can be respectfully admired without adding the sexual quotient to it. No different from admiring somebody that is nicely clothed. Show some manners. There are a lot of trolls here so just block them and move on.
ReactReply - SM
Aug 1, 2018You ae right. Nudism is about undressing among like minded people. There is a certain excitement that goes with it, but this should not mean taking women as pure sexual objects by men.
ReactReply - PA
Aug 1, 2018[quote]Sometimes I think a lot of people think this is just another hook up site. The naked body can be respectfully admired without adding the sexual quotient to it. No different from admiring somebody that is nicely clothed. Show some manners. There are a lot of trolls here so just block them and move on.[/quote] Many of these so called nudist sites are run as the meaning of nudist means sex and I have looked at some and that what they look like and that is most likely the reason people get confused and by pushing the gallery so much also that people think that the photos are just taken from other sites and other than the gallery belong to the person who has posted then on this site.ReactReply - JO
Aug 15, 2018I am against making it certified members only because it effectively bars fledgling nudists who use this site to find out about nudism.
They will be too shy to comply with the certification rules but in my experience you can easily reassure the genuine about the lack of sexuality and/or disillusion those who are looking for sex, especially in private chat.
I realise that is not to everybody's taste but it is an important part of the job that sites like this should be performing.ReactReply - JE
Aug 15, 2018I'm so passionate about the nudist lifestyle that I get saddened when others don't respect it like I do. I think nudism is the most beautiful thing there is and it is not to be degraded into sex (unless in appropriate venues). But so many others don't get that. Not sure we'll ever make them understand. What is the solution here? IMHO just keep educating people, or you may unintentionally weed out newcomers that you would want to understand how we true nudists feel about the lifestyle. At least that's what I think.
Jeff
ReactReply - JI
Aug 17, 2018[quote]Sadly when even a "true" nudist website gets it twisted with their advertising about "You're Missing A Lot", with hands over privates, what many men and unfortunately even some women now, need to understand, as a TRUE nudist, or naturist in my case, it's tiresome to be objectified, hit on, gawked at, space invaded, inappropriate comments, advances and even worse... SHOW RESPECT. If you want more women to feel safe being nude than be a real man and show some class or at least human decency. It's bad enough when it happens on a "true" nudist website but when it happens at public nude beaches, private resorts... it's enough to discourage even me, a pretty bold woman, who has no problem calling inappropriateness out, pause and reconsideration to public nudity. Keep it clean and fun on here and in public and more woman may feel safe enough to feel the joy of being nude.[/quote] This was always nagging me ( the ad), but I also want to say if you need a hand off in calling it out or just back up please send me a message with a pointer to the problem area. I try my best to do it as some of the really crass stuff arises but I miss things and I am also far from perfect. I am also deeply sorry that such a thoughtful person (judging by your words) has to experience what I know to be true about our spaces, virtual or physical. Women need to feel safe to feel free. Why can't we all get behind that and this poster's (love2be) simple call for RESPECT? Hurts my heart.ReactReply - JEAug 17, 2018
Kind of interesting that this thread is in my feed on the day of Aretha Franklin's death.
RIP Aretha
Jeff
ReactReply - DE
Aug 30, 2018Well said. It seems that so many of the younger generation are simply not taught how to be polite, and to show respect for others. Unfortunately, there may not be any way to reverse the trend.
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