Open marriage

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  ManOfWicklow

  Dec 1, 2012

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• SO

  

  Soupie

  Dec 4, 2012

  I don't insist on forcing my beliefs on anyone.  I don't share them or preach.  So what gives you the right to do that to others on here?  Did God appoint you?

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• MA

  

  ManOfWicklow

  Dec 4, 2012

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  ManOfWicklow

  Dec 5, 2012

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  Tony

  Dec 13, 2012

  [quote]They had multiple wives but it was not ok to share their wives
  
  
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  Well, that's alright then ;-)
  

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  Tony

  Dec 13, 2012

  [quote][quote]^ And no Christians either.[/quote]Yes there were.  In the Old Testament, they believed in the coming Messiah.  428 prophecies were written concerning the Christ.  The only difference, is that we know His name.[/quote]
  Brian?
  

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• MA

  

  ManOfWicklow

  Dec 13, 2012

  [quote]@ MOW
  Or be gay ;-)[/quote][img src="http://blog.lib.umn.edu/garv0057/myblog/Transgender%20cat.jpg">

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• CH

  

  Chris_P_Bacon

  Dec 13, 2012

  [quote][quote][quote]^ And no Christians either.[/quote]Yes there were.  In the Old Testament, they believed in the coming Messiah.  428 prophecies were written concerning the Christ.  The only difference, is that we know His name.[/quote]
  Brian?
  [/quote]I love you amfionuk !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  
  :)
  

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  Tom === Thomas S. Tierney

  Jun 20, 2013

  Take my wife, please.
  

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• MA

  

  ManOfWicklow

  Jun 21, 2013

  "I told my wife the truth. I told her I was seeing a psychiatrist. Then she told me the truth: that she was seeing a psychiatrist, two plumbers and a bartender."

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• JO

  

  JohniBear

  Jul 2, 2013

  I am in an open relationships my self however like any relationship it requires allot of good verbal communication. That being said I found that in a open relationship it requires a  great deal more  communication and  not being judgmental of your other half. A good general rule is not to judge each other  feelings. Bottom line If you do something that makes your other half upset don't do it. If you feel guilty about a sexual relationship out side of your union stop. Never lie to each other about your sexual encounters. A open relationship can not work unless their is allot of trust so never lie to each other even small white lies as this undermines you relationship with each other. Have a couples inventory once a week and discuss how your relationship is going the good and the bad. You may need to modify the rules as you encounter problems being open.
  Be careful whom you have sexual relationships with, not every one understands an open relationship. If they  or you begin to fall in love you need to end it. Makes sure your sexual partner are friends with your other half.
  You also need to have a contingence plans should things happen, for example how will you handle it if a condom break and she get pregnant. What happens if the rubber you using breaks and you get someone pregnant. What will you do if one of you may of been exposed to a STD.
  Legal aspects being married to some means you already  bet 50% of everything you owned that you think it will work. However  should you get divorced things will not look well on you if  you having sex out side the relationship.  I would suggest a prenup to secure your assets and spell out your agreement to have sex out side of your relationship.
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  In conclusion open relationships require allot  more work then normal for them to work and  require  a high level of trust to work
  PS if you have an specific questions about open relationship feel free to ask me
  
  
  
  
  
  

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• JO

  

  JohniBear

  Jul 2, 2013

  I am in an open relationships my self however like any relationship it requires allot of good verbal communication. That being said I found that in a open relationship it requires a  great deal more  communication and  not being judgmental of your other half. A good general rule is not to judge each other  feelings. Bottom line If you do something that makes your other half upset don't do it. If you feel guilty about a sexual relationship out side of your union stop. Never lie to each other about your sexual encounters. A open relationship can not work unless their is allot of trust so never lie to each other even small white lies as this undermines you relationship with each other. Have a couples inventory once a week and discuss how your relationship is going the good and the bad. You may need to modify the rules as you encounter problems being open.
  Be careful whom you have sexual relationships with, not every one understands an open relationship. If they  or you begin to fall in love you need to end it. Makes sure your sexual partner are friends with your other half.
  You also need to have a contingence plans should things happen, for example how will you handle it if a condom break and she get pregnant. What happens if the rubber you using breaks and you get someone pregnant. What will you do if one of you may of been exposed to a STD.
  Legal aspects being married to some means you already  bet 50% of everything you owned that you think it will work. However  should you get divorced things will not look well on you if  you having sex out side the relationship.  I would suggest a prenup to secure your assets and spell out your agreement to have sex out side of your relationship.
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  In conclusion open relationships require allot  more work then normal for them to work and  require  a high level of trust to work
  PS if you have an specific questions about open relationship feel free to ask me
  
  
  
  
  
  
  

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• RO

  

  Ross

  Mar 7, 2016

  [quote]
  [/quote][quote]We have a similar relationship. We can talk about anything and now after 37+ years married, we are as close as can be. We enjoy finding other couples with same interests, and if they are nudists, even better. We may go to dinner, back to a home for hot tub or 6 hand massage than swap wives for same room sex. We enjoy watching the other being satisfied while the other is doing the other or may be 2 on 1. Its all fun to add to our sex life.  Our sex life is exciting and we are very active with each other and with others. We found 100 times more people swinging than are just nudists. The swinger sites list so many more in the local area and when we are on vacation to a nude resort or swinger resort it is fun meeting other couples.[/quote][quote]Just as the textile people describe nudists as wrong and crazy, we find nudists describe swingers the same way. The most open people are the swingers who except and welcome all.[/quote][quote]Hey, folks
  
  I'm going to try posting this topic again. The last time someone brought this up, they got blasted for five pages of comments for trying to make this into a dating site.  THAT IS NOT THE POINT OF THIS POST!
  
  I'm trying to bring up an honest discussion. I'm NOT looking to hook up, here. So, on to the discussion.
  
  My wife and I are NOT swingers. (Not that there's anything wrong with that...). But, we do have an "open marriage" or, more precisely, we are "nonmonogamous." What this means is that we are free to date or sleep with other people with in the bounds of our marriage, and established rules. Our rules? Well, we don't really have any. Just the basic idea of "don't be an idiot" and "don't screw up our marriage." That's about it.
  
  For the record, this was her idea.
  
  What this has lead to is that, very occasionally, one or both of us will date other people. Maybe a couple of times a year. Sometimes this includes sex but mostly not. For awhile, we were fortunate enough to have another couple in our lives, and we could go out on double dates and sleep over. But that other couple has moved from town.  Damn.
  
  Anyway, with two kids, two careers and a start-up company, we don't really have time for anyone else in our lives. At least not full time. However, occasionally I'll have a chance to go do something that my wife doesn't enjoy (costume parties, country dancing, tantra workshops, etc.). Rather than not go (and possibly resent it) I can go with a friend without having to worry that something might develop about which I might have to feel guilty. Or, that my wife will be jealous.
  
  This has been particularly worthwhile with my naked adventures. My wife doesn't mind me being naked, and will get naked herself. But, it's just not a priority for her like it is for me. Since we could sleep around if we wanted to, when I find someone who likes to hang out naked my wife isn't all stressed out that I might be cheating on her. I might me. But it's not cheating. And she's not stressed out about it. (Generally, of course, I'm not....but it can be fun to think and talk about at times.)
  
  Does anyone else out there have a relationship that's anywhere like mine? Are such relationships becoming more common? Are people more open about them? I've seen a lot of press, lately, and even two t.v. shows about nonmonogamous couples. With the increase in press I figure that open marriages are becoming part of the zeitgest. Is there any reason to think that naturist couples are more likely, or less likely, to have such marriages?
  
  Please, discuss.......
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• ME

  Member

  Mar 8, 2016

  You certainly can bring up the subject again for discussion. However the trolls that derailed the thread the first time are still here doing what they do.
  
  
  

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• BO

  

  bob

  Mar 13, 2016

  not everyone subscribes to the biblical interpretation of morality...there are those who profess to and then go out and do grievous injury or harm to others in the name of Jesus...are they the "moral" ones ?...morality is how you treat other people not on what you profess to believe....look for example to those (fill in religion here) think nothing about bearing false witness, using god's name in vain, false images, etc...don't tell me about your morality or christianity...show me...

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  Tom === Thomas S. Tierney

  Mar 14, 2016

  Thank God I'm an Atheist
  

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• ME

  Member

  Mar 14, 2016

  I have the most open marriage of all; I openly tell anyone and everyone around that I have the most wonderful wife in the world.  I spare no effort in demonstrating my affection for her and my total loyalty.  I'm sure my behavior would make some 'gag' and others wonder; but that's not my concern.  I am totally and openly in love with my wife of 30+ years and hope to continue our 'open' love affair for another 20+ or so.  ..........John..........all the rest of you can just be envious. =) =) =) ;).................
  

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• AM

  

  Ashley Mills

  Mar 17, 2016

  [quote]Hey, folks
  
  I'm going to try posting this topic again. The last time someone brought this up, they got blasted for five pages of comments for trying to make this into a dating site.  THAT IS NOT THE POINT OF THIS POST!
  
  I'm trying to bring up an honest discussion. I'm NOT looking to hook up, here. So, on to the discussion.
  
  My wife and I are NOT swingers. (Not that there's anything wrong with that...). But, we do have an "open marriage" or, more precisely, we are "nonmonogamous." What this means is that we are free to date or sleep with other people with in the bounds of our marriage, and established rules. Our rules? Well, we don't really have any. Just the basic idea of "don't be an idiot" and "don't screw up our marriage." That's about it.
  
  For the record, this was her idea.
  
  What this has lead to is that, very occasionally, one or both of us will date other people. Maybe a couple of times a year. Sometimes this includes sex but mostly not. For awhile, we were fortunate enough to have another couple in our lives, and we could go out on double dates and sleep over. But that other couple has moved from town.  Damn.
  
  Anyway, with two kids, two careers and a start-up company, we don't really have time for anyone else in our lives. At least not full time. However, occasionally I'll have a chance to go do something that my wife doesn't enjoy (costume parties, country dancing, tantra workshops, etc.). Rather than not go (and possibly resent it) I can go with a friend without having to worry that something might develop about which I might have to feel guilty. Or, that my wife will be jealous.
  
  This has been particularly worthwhile with my naked adventures. My wife doesn't mind me being naked, and will get naked herself. But, it's just not a priority for her like it is for me. Since we could sleep around if we wanted to, when I find someone who likes to hang out naked my wife isn't all stressed out that I might be cheating on her. I might me. But it's not cheating. And she's not stressed out about it. (Generally, of course, I'm not....but it can be fun to think and talk about at times.)
  
  Does anyone else out there have a relationship that's anywhere like mine? Are such relationships becoming more common? Are people more open about them? I've seen a lot of press, lately, and even two t.v. shows about nonmonogamous couples. With the increase in press I figure that open marriages are becoming part of the zeitgest. Is there any reason to think that naturist couples are more likely, or less likely, to have such marriages?
  
  Please, discuss.......
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• NI

  

  nic

  Apr 7, 2016

  [quote]Hey, folks
  
  I'm going to try posting this topic again. The last time someone brought this up, they got blasted for five pages of comments for trying to make this into a dating site.  THAT IS NOT THE POINT OF THIS POST!
  
  I'm trying to bring up an honest discussion. I'm NOT looking to hook up, here. So, on to the discussion.
  
  My wife and I are NOT swingers. (Not that there's anything wrong with that...). But, we do have an "open marriage" or, more precisely, we are "nonmonogamous." What this means is that we are free to date or sleep with other people with in the bounds of our marriage, and established rules. Our rules? Well, we don't really have any. Just the basic idea of "don't be an idiot" and "don't screw up our marriage." That's about it.
  
  For the record, this was her idea.
  
  What this has lead to is that, very occasionally, one or both of us will date other people. Maybe a couple of times a year. Sometimes this includes sex but mostly not. For awhile, we were fortunate enough to have another couple in our lives, and we could go out on double dates and sleep over. But that other couple has moved from town.  Damn.
  
  Anyway, with two kids, two careers and a start-up company, we don't really have time for anyone else in our lives. At least not full time. However, occasionally I'll have a chance to go do something that my wife doesn't enjoy (costume parties, country dancing, tantra workshops, etc.). Rather than not go (and possibly resent it) I can go with a friend without having to worry that something might develop about which I might have to feel guilty. Or, that my wife will be jealous.
  
  This has been particularly worthwhile with my naked adventures. My wife doesn't mind me being naked, and will get naked herself. But, it's just not a priority for her like it is for me. Since we could sleep around if we wanted to, when I find someone who likes to hang out naked my wife isn't all stressed out that I might be cheating on her. I might me. But it's not cheating. And she's not stressed out about it. (Generally, of course, I'm not....but it can be fun to think and talk about at times.)
  
  Does anyone else out there have a relationship that's anywhere like mine? Are such relationships becoming more common? Are people more open about them? I've seen a lot of press, lately, and even two t.v. shows about nonmonogamous couples. With the increase in press I figure that open marriages are becoming part of the zeitgest. Is there any reason to think that naturist couples are more likely, or less likely, to have such marriages?
  
  Please, discuss.......
  [/quote]agree and back u both a 100% do you have kik?

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• MA

  

  ManOfWicklow

  Apr 7, 2016

  [quote] [quote]Hey, folks
  
  I'm going to try posting this topic again. The last time someone brought this up, they got blasted for five pages of comments for trying to make this into a dating site.  THAT IS NOT THE POINT OF THIS POST!
  
  I'm trying to bring up an honest discussion. I'm NOT looking to hook up, here. So, on to the discussion.
  
  My wife and I are NOT swingers. (Not that there's anything wrong with that...). But, we do have an "open marriage" or, more precisely, we are "nonmonogamous." What this means is that we are free to date or sleep with other people with in the bounds of our marriage, and established rules. Our rules? Well, we don't really have any. Just the basic idea of "don't be an idiot" and "don't screw up our marriage." That's about it.
  
  For the record, this was her idea.
  
  What this has lead to is that, very occasionally, one or both of us will date other people. Maybe a couple of times a year. Sometimes this includes sex but mostly not. For awhile, we were fortunate enough to have another couple in our lives, and we could go out on double dates and sleep over. But that other couple has moved from town.  Damn.
  
  Anyway, with two kids, two careers and a start-up company, we don't really have time for anyone else in our lives. At least not full time. However, occasionally I'll have a chance to go do something that my wife doesn't enjoy (costume parties, country dancing, tantra workshops, etc.). Rather than not go (and possibly resent it) I can go with a friend without having to worry that something might develop about which I might have to feel guilty. Or, that my wife will be jealous.
  
  This has been particularly worthwhile with my naked adventures. My wife doesn't mind me being naked, and will get naked herself. But, it's just not a priority for her like it is for me. Since we could sleep around if we wanted to, when I find someone who likes to hang out naked my wife isn't all stressed out that I might be cheating on her. I might me. But it's not cheating. And she's not stressed out about it. (Generally, of course, I'm not....but it can be fun to think and talk about at times.)
  
  Does anyone else out there have a relationship that's anywhere like mine? Are such relationships becoming more common? Are people more open about them? I've seen a lot of press, lately, and even two t.v. shows about nonmonogamous couples. With the increase in press I figure that open marriages are becoming part of the zeitgest. Is there any reason to think that naturist couples are more likely, or less likely, to have such marriages?
  
  Please, discuss.......
  [/quote] agree and back u both a 100% do you have kik?[/quote]Pointless asking him a question, Hightower.  He's not likely to reply, as he hasn't logged on here for almost 2 years.
  
  
  

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