Hey everyone, I was at my local nude area on the weekend, its a tea tree lake which sits behind the nudist beach area. Its clothing optional and i had been swimming there and got out to dry off when an older guy tried hitting on me and asked if i wanted to take a walk in the bush. I am straight, 19 and most of the time go alone, but i don't think this is acceptable, it made me want to leave, which i did. Anyone else have any similar problems?
Im currently looking for mates to share these trips with, and having company would also deter these pervs.
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LifeHappensMay 29, 2010[quote]LiPuma77 Re: some guys would continue by watching me from a distance and jerk off May I ask you a question? Why did you look at these guys after you rejected them? And why do you blame them? For them looking at you and jerking off at a distance was a pleasure and it should not have bothered you at all. After you rejected them, they went away. Did not they? Why then are you so anxious? I am a man. Many years ago I was a young man. I hate hoodlums. But I understand and do not blame natural desires of young men.[/quote] Whoa... Whoa... Whoa... Whoa... Whoa... No one should ever push their desires, wants, or agendas on someone else. For someone to "perform" in a public location, especially unwanted, is completely unacceptable. What makes this even worse is that it was more about imposition and control. The person "performing" these acts was aroused by the control he exerted over the situation more than anything else. That was highly unacceptable. Yes, we may be sexual beings and creatures; but what separates us from the rabble is our ability to control those inborn instincts and to know when NOT to release them. We all should have that respect.ReactReply - LILifeHappensMay 29, 2010[quote]In Wisconsin, our state motto is "WHATEVER." When I was young I got propositioned all the time even when wearing a winter coat. Who cares? Gays are just hornier. Like a 19 year old male never hit on someone himself haha. Don't get hyper. Fist fights won't help nudist beaches.[/quote] How in the hell did I miss this post? Where do people come up with this stuff, "Gays are just hornier." Really? That's not a stereotype...(it is.)ReactReply
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RoosterockMay 29, 2010Freedemrider, You are correct on what I said. Both CAN get quite agressive at Times.
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westheathenAug 11, 2010[quote][quote]Why does it matter that he was older? Would you have been less upset if he had also been 19?[/quote] Remember being 18 or 19? At that age level, anyone over 20 is "older", and 30+ is ancient. "Never trust anyone over 30", the Boomer generation said in the 60s and 70s. The slogan is passe, but the attitude remains. I for one have no objection to the phrasing of the title. It's part of the culture of the young.[/quote] Your comment about anyone older reminds me of my Aunt, she was 90+ and used to refer to "girls" but this could mean anyone over 30.
Maybe the OP was inferring that older = should know better?ReactReply - LI
limestone26Aug 11, 2010I would never recommend physical violence as some have suggested instead of a simple "*^# off a$$hole". Whacking them in the nads or other physical violence could land you in jail on assault charges.
ReactReply - MEMemberAug 16, 2010
Never had any problems when not with my husband, but never the less that not acceptable. All I can say at least he just ask. I hope he then went away or at least tried to chat first!! Stand your ground and hang out a bit closer to other couples at the beach, make some friends, etc. Be safe!
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nakeddownunder2Aug 16, 2010Sorry that was your experience mate...trust me when I say we are not all like that. dont let it put you off going to such a beautiful area...its one of my faves
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PLDUDEAug 19, 2010I have had the same experience going to a clothing optional beach near me, It was extremely off-putting the guy was a grade A stalker following me up and down the beach putting his towel right next to mine. it forced me to move two a more densely populated area which in turn made a lot of those people think I was the creep. It almost ruined nudism for me. I had good experiences before and have had good experiences since so i have moved on but I am always really on guard and super defensive until i have met everyone around me and found them to be good people.
ReactReply - LILifeHappensAug 19, 2010[quote]I was in Big Sur and a guy tried that mess, I just stood up and yelled to the others on the beach, "Anyone want to nail this guy, he needs it really bad but I'm not gay". Yelled it a few times and in closing,..., as he was waudling him but off, "Thank YOU!"[/quote] HA...Classic awesomeness.ReactReply
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theyossiAug 28, 2010Yes I had the same problem in many different countries. And ALWAYS those are old freaks who are up to have some fun. I ve been much younger than but that was absolutely yaki. my understanding of this problem is like this, if you want to get a younger partner go pay for one, but don't go to the beacj hoping to get a "free ride"!!!!!
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BobAug 28, 2010Why are men so thin skinned when it comes to being approached by another male? I've never had a problem of saying, "Thanks but no thanks" and they leave. To ruin your whole trip over this minor incident seems silly to me. Think how many women are bombarded with men's advances and not just on a nude beach, i mean in bars, grocery stores, theaters and any place u can name. So if in your nearly 20 year life you had one simple request to "take a walk in the dunes" I think you're doing just fine. To every other male reading this. Grow a thicker skin when it comes to someone "hitting on you." I mean, take it as a compliment. I've never ever heard of a gay person persisting to the point of harassment. They are ususlly very conscious of others feelings. Much more so than are pushy straight men.
ReactReply - MEMemberAug 29, 2010
I have to agree with FarmerBob, don't let if ruin your visit. It is unappropriate behavior - just tell them firmly you are not interested
I watched a man, with a wedding ring, do basically the same thing in the bar of a hotel the other day. He tried to get the female bartender to go to his room, while his buddies thought it was cool. She ignored him at first, but he kept at it until she had to be more direct. Trying to talk to someone you are interested in, or even flirt a little, is one thing, but rude and disrepectful behavior is unacceptable in any enviroment.ReactReply - TS
tsshaver1Dec 28, 2010Oh get over yourself! Just say no thanks. You are straight, fine, just say so!. I hope that you are not just expressing homophobia. Others have expressed that gay men have enough issues and will take a direct no fo what it is. No hard fellings, no problem, move on
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tuggerDec 29, 2010Nuff said and well said by Nude
ReactReply - MEMemberDec 29, 2010
Unappropriate and because I am what and who I am I would tend to beat the jerks head into a tree.
Which brings to mind, don't you just love the way some guys here post women as their profile pic just so you can come to their profile....
And how do you respond to , you look really nice from a male.ReactReply - WEwestheathenDec 29, 2010[quote]Unappropriate and because I am what and who I am I would tend to beat the jerks head into a tree. Which brings to mind, don't you just love the way some guys here post women as their profile pic just so you can come to their profile.... And how do you respond to , you look really nice from a male.[/quote] In some cases there are male profiles where since joining the man has linked up with a partner and they are both using his profile; instead of changing the definition to couple. Others are here in that guise for more dubious reasons. If there was no mention of we or photos of the couple on the profile I would just hit the flag button and ask TT1 to take a look. Not long ago we had one dipstick who opened a profile under a female name, but when you looked at the profile it was tagged male. He got caught when he opened a group for women only to send photos to an e-mail address for verification. Not surprisingly he was booted out quite quickly.ReactReply
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PeteyBDec 29, 2010I really don't see all that much wrong with this. if you were on a textile beach are you saying no one ever gets hit on there? I think there is nothing wrong with asking once.. then back off.
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pnude1Dec 29, 2010I think its only a real problem if they become a pest and bother u by watching u or not leaving u alone once u have said ur not interested. It depends on how they approached u i guess.
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PulltoyMar 4, 2011Here is my comment to you.
Your 19 for f sakes just say no and thats it. Put the shoe on the other foot had a girl come up to you and asked to go into the bushes I bet there would be no hesitation there I am gay and many woman have hit on me and I take it as a compliment and politely say no thank you I don't get up and go rushing home to momy or daddy. Just be secure in your sexuality take it as a compliment and say no thank you. If you are straight. But if you are curious let life teach you something newReactReply - PUPulltoyMar 4, 2011
Here is a perfect example of a guy who could not run fast enough to the bushes if it were a woman god forebid a male ask you to go into the bushes. TAKE IT AS A COMPLIMENT AND SAY NO THANK YOU AS I MENTIONED BEFORE I AM GAY AND I DON'T PUNCH A WOMAN IN THE NOSE WHEN SHE MAKES A PASS AT ME
ReactReply - PUPulltoyMar 4, 2011
Next time you go to a nude beach make sure no girls or women hit on you cause that is bad so take some friends and hold their hands get with life bud say no thank you and move on If a girl was to ask you in the bushes hell youd be there like in a second
ReactReply - PUPulltoyMar 4, 2011
Yes I am sure being a young single attractive guy is such a curse for you Did you run home to mom I bet if women were more aggressive and masturbated in front of you you would be thrilled
ReactReply - PUPulltoyMar 4, 2011
I think you got it right as you say "PLAY NAKED" PERVS!!!! When does sex become perversed?!!! If you one does not like it, let one look the otherway. Comments like bring friends to the beach if you are bothered by it. Naked is great and all that comes with it and one of those things is sex now and then don't be hypocrites about it and pretend that it is not about sex
Sorry If I am using your space to vent my comments are not directed to you but sometimes I wonder where people heads are at.ReactReply - PApaulMar 4, 2011
I agrea yes it dose happen but dont let them drive you away good luck
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