'Jewelry' at resorts and beaches

MemberOriginal Poster

Jun 4, 2018

Hi there,

I have been nudist for some time now and recently been wearing a ball stretcher.
Although I find it a pleasure to wear, I haven't seen much nudist wearing 'jewellery' at resorts or beaches.
The only place I have seen cockering was at Chargo del Plato.

Is this been frowned upon when wearing it at the beaches or resorts?

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Stone Andy
Dec 20, 2018
Reading this thread leaves me with a feeling of sadness. Maybe Im nave but Ive felt nudists are above the judging, name calling and bullheadedness evident here. Maybe Im foolish to think Id enjoy going to a nudist resort for an extended stay where people can be authentic and have nothing to hide behind. Perhaps Im overly idealistic to think that the vulnerability our own nakedness creates gives a deeper, more profound respect for ourselves and others who present themselves naked among strangers.
Do I have my own opinions about jewelry and tattoos, including on genitals? Sure. Do they matter much? Not really. If the adornments are a way of calling attention to someone, I can see it as evidence of issues or an invitation to chat. I recall one conversation with a young man half my age about his tatts where my first thought was Youre gonna regret those when youre my age. Instead I was open and inquisitive and had a wonderful dialogue with an intelligent, articulate young man who focused on living a life of integrity and values which were all reflected in his body art. Regardless of my impressions, the tattoos were all beautiful in reflecting his inner courage and beauty.
Please strip off your judging with your clothes and let others be naked and proud. You will find angels among us in scary off-putting guises and incredibly beautiful people who may lack an ounce of empathy. Rise to the occasion and judge people for their actions without getting hung up on how someone reminds you of somebody in fourth grade. You can do better than that! Celebrate humanity and diversity in nudism, and you will celebrate yourself not despite your anxieties and flaws, but because of them. We are all already whole and beautiful just as we are.
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notclothed_ur9764
Dec 28, 2018
What happened to live and let live each to their own.if everybody toed the line we would all be dressed quit trying to make everyone fit your mold if you have a problem with jewelry it's you who has the problem. Obviously they don't.
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fincum
Feb 5, 2019
Wore it many a time in gay nude beaches, gay nude friendly resorts, in bars/clubs whilst sitting down I pull it out via leg of shorts and display, Spain , in Canary Islands , aldo in Madrid, I find wearing them in pulic, my balls swinging and rubbing makes me hard and short shorts can only hide so much in public
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StevieLorna
Feb 5, 2019
That last comment is why this site has gone to the dogs.
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Greg
Feb 5, 2019
We need thumbs up and down on the forums so people can see how others feel about their comments. Maybe there is one and I just don't see it.
Thumbs Up on your comment. I joined to be with nudists. I'm finding it difficult to find them. I was chatting with a guy in pm. Just discussing everyday stuff. Somehow the chat got to be about our wives. He asks if my wife and I are "f***ing" a lot. I told him I was surprised by his comment and that my sex life was not the target of our conversation. He replied "I'm sorry, I just get so horny on this site". I was tempted to just block him right then and there. Is it just me, I don't get horny looking at other nudists. And its not like my libido is dead or anything. It just takes way more than a naked body to do it for me.
Anyway, co-rant over.
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EarlD
Feb 16, 2019
[quote]We need thumbs up and down on the forums so people can see how others feel about their comments. Maybe there is one and I just don't see it. .[/quote] Definite would be a good feature to add
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Mike
May 26, 2019
[quote]Commercial pools can kill all the commonly transmittable STI's instantly except Hep C. Urine isn't a health risk, but the added fluids to make for unpleasant potential.[/quote] I'm not particularly worried about an ounce or two of body fluids diluted in 30,000 gallons (or more) of chlorinated water. And what most people don't even realize, is that healthy urine is sterile. Someone had sex in the pool? So what?
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notclothed_ur9764
Jun 11, 2019
My imaginary friend likes genital jewelry and has commented several times to me why didn't I think of that.
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Nwalker101
Aug 18, 2019
Im curios as to why its ok to shave ones genitals to draw attention to them but if you add jewelry you get labeled as a pervert. I cant for work have jewelry seen other then a wedding ring so I have a couple and like it and so does the wife. I do not keep them in for sex most the time.
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FullSun
Aug 19, 2019
Shaving, at least for most of us, is a personal preference comfort issue. Some say shaving is wrong. Jewelry is a personal preference of a different type but still a personal preference. I know my wife some friends and I all think jewelry looks ridiculous so we wouldnt have it. But we all say if thats what you like then go for it. We may think it looks ridiculous but otherwise it has no impact or bearing to us. Some say shaving looks ridiculous as well. Id say neither qualifies one as a pervert, its just personal preference.
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Nwalker101
Aug 19, 2019
[quote]Shaving, at least for most of us, is a personal preference comfort issue. Some say shaving is wrong. Jewelry is a personal preference of a different type but still a personal preference. I know my wife some friends and I all think jewelry looks ridiculous so we wouldnt have it. But we all say if thats what you like then go for it. We may think it looks ridiculous but otherwise it has no impact or bearing to us. Some say shaving looks ridiculous as well. Id say neither qualifies one as a pervert, its just personal preference.[ Thats a good way to put it.
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Chris
Oct 13, 2019
Yes, I agree, well said. I'm disappointed, though not surprised, in comments like 'all genital jewelry says to me is ...look at me I'm an idiot !!!', 'any man that in anyway decorates his dick or makes it the center of attention and says its not sexual is doing just one thing pissing on your foot and telling you its raining !!!' and 'genital jewelry is just a method of screaming, "look at me".
This type of judgemental language is like some would use to criticise nudists - all of us - in general... perverts, weirdos, exhibitionists, worse. Let's not descend to that type of name-calling. If genital jewellery isn't your thing, that's fine. If it is, that's fine as well. I don't go around judging people's rings on their fingers, or in their ears, or people's tattoos. (Well, maybe I do but I accept that it's purely my opinion.) I wear a cock-ring sometimes, most often when I'm home on my own, not because I'm screaming 'look at me' (not much point in that), but because I quite like the sensation. I've worn one only once 'in public' at Le Cap d'Agde, and enjoyed the sensation and the freedom of being able to do it, but on the libertine beach there a cock-ring barely gets a look anyway.
There's no such thing as a 'real nudist', unless it's simply someone, like all of us here, who prefers to be naked. Just because someone wears a genital piercing doesn't make them any less of a nudist. Go down that track of 'purity' and you're into the land of the witch-burners.
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Kevin
Oct 13, 2019
Well I feel like I have to give my two-cents on this and I hope I can do it without being offensive to anyone - reason being that nudists are ostracized and misunderstood enough that I hate it when some people are so opinionated in any aspect of nudism as to preclude one's participation or comfort in participating in it, because our rights and freedoms eroding continually it doesn't do us any good to be divided...

1) No one other than the person with the piercing knows the reason for having the piercing (and it's no one else's business). Many people do it for themselves and it becomes visible because they're nude, while many people do it solely because they like the aesthetic. Maybe someone has done it because their partner likes it, and maybe it was a rite of passage or it marked an event in a person's life; regardless of the reason it's not for anyone to judge.

2) Does it matter what a man does with his penis as long as he's not being sexual with it when participating as a social nudist? As long as a man isn't thrusting his erection into other people's faces does it matter what it looks like when he's not being sexual? As nudists we'd all say "don't stare" and that means whether there is a piercing or not.

3) If body modifications do become relevant then all modifications should, and that would include shaving, breast augmentation, using hair dye or make-up (among other things). I don't shame anyone for doing what makes them feel better or happier with their body if it doesn't impact me and none of these practices do.

4) Shaving has been acceptable in resorts and on beaches for many years, and people have for centuries attempt to alter or eradicate body hair. Body piercings date back to ancient Rome and ancient India. The practice of tattooing and piercing is just as old as the practice of shaving, and nothing objectifies an adult's genitalia more than removing all of the hair that marks us as adults, but I say go to town with your Gillette or let it all grow - it's your choice, just as piercing is.

5) Some nudists think that genitalia is no different than any part of the body: to some piercing any part of their body is no different than piercing your ears, and no one is complaining about that, however 20-30 years ago the practice for men was thought to be inappropriate. The same complaints being made about genital piercings are not being made about anything above the neck, an odd argument from people who believe we shouldn't be ashamed of our genitalia but have strong opinions about what others do with them.

6) Religious remonstrances doesn't work in this argument - we're not all the same religion, nudism is not a religion, and if some uses Christian principles as their argument I'd ask them if they consume pork, attend a church that allows women to speak, watch football ( or basketball or soccer), or has ever worn a man-made fabric.

7) This protest does not make any allowance for different cultures or for a person to own what happens to their own body and is the opposite of inclusion.

8) It is not for any person to have to explain to your child why any portion of their body looks they way it does, including piercings. If your child is at a nudist resort they have already seen every conceivable body type and body alteration already and it would have been up to the parent to explain them Hell, if your child has been let out of the house in the past 30 year you'd have had to already explain tattooing and piercing to them, so I assume in this case a parent could explain what the terms "personal freedom" and "democracy" mean.

People need to understand that in this day and age people will do various things to their bodies in order to express themselves and should accept that. I'd also state that the reason that organized social nudity is in decline is because a great many youth are more at liberty to do with their body want they want (as opposed to following the social normative blindly) and as such are probably viewing dialogues like this and want no part of the judgement.

Some of the comments made on the thread have been hateful and belittling - not what I would have expected from a group so unfairly treated and portrayed by so many others when calling themselves nudists, and the lack of tolerance here has been saddening...
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Kevin
Oct 13, 2019
Appreciate that my friend , it's good to know that I've associated myself with good, kind, thoughtful people who are respectful of others - you're a good man.
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Member
Oct 13, 2019
Couldn't agree more. Our bodies our choices.
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Jay
Oct 13, 2019
Kevin has made the point & covered the issue thoroughly. As one who has been austricised by our peers for having genital piercings, he certainly speaks for me. There is nothing more that I can add to his comments other than to simply say "Thank you!"
Jay
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Member
Oct 13, 2019
I too side with what Kevin said. Thumbs up. I'm so sick of the judgement of others anymore.
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notclothed_ur9764
Oct 13, 2019
No amount of logic will change the minds of the prudist nudist .so I feel I am wasting my breath to try to talk logically to them.i wear huge amounts of testicle weights because I like to.some hate them some are fascinated by them .but over all it is my choice what I do.if you worry about your children seeing don't take them to places that they will be exposed to real life.in my humble opinion the prudist can just ignore me as I go about my life.
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notclothed_ur9764
Oct 14, 2019
Has it occurred to any one else that funcouple and Andy di might be more than a little judgemental
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StevieLorna
Oct 14, 2019
No they are just normal naturist couples who think men who wear genital jewellery look ridiculous.
Its your choice to wear what you like.
Finding something ridiculous isnt judgmental its simply being able to spot a fool.
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Tom === Thomas S. Tierney
Oct 14, 2019
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Post # 140
[strong]did not mention the post # he was referring to, I sure ain't going thru the thread looking for them.[/strong][/strong][/strong][/strong]
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Kevin
Oct 14, 2019
[quote]Has it occurred to any one else that funcouple and Andy di might be more than a little judgemental[/quote] I would say that the people who have stated that this and other personal preferences are okay have done so with well-thought facts, arguments, and opinions while the majority of those opposed have basically said that they don't like it and as such anyone who does is stupid or perverted and deserves to be pointed at and called out in any way. Kudos to those for attempting to have an open dialogue, and as to those who've been spewing hatred, name-calling, and moral judgment I would say that this behavior would eschew anyone from joining this site or participating in social nudism way more than someone's personal piercing...
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StevieLorna
Oct 14, 2019
Its funny how so many single guys think naturists have a problem accepting them as genuine.
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Kevin
Oct 14, 2019
As a single guy I know how many females and couples want nothing to do with me.
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